Real0ne
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ORIGINAL: EbonyFtshGoddess i dont view house cleaning, or chores, providing legal aid if he's a lawyer.. or web skill if he knows flash. (ie.. providing services in fields they are good in but would normally charge someone for) as a tribute. we ALL need financial assistance at times, we need this or that. and we EXPECT that- i dont view it as a tribute.. just part of slavely duties. slaves are here to alleviate worries and make life easier for the Woman they put on that pedestal. Yeh uh huh, and mortgages paid and and and and and and and and and and and and and and and and and......................................... yeh i dont consider a domme with these attitudes as having any value either. (ie.. providing services in fields they are good in but would normally charge someone for) quote:
ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei It becomes frustrating dealing with countless males on this site who after My spending time and effort getting to really know them, turn out to be unready for a long-term, committed relationship, or are not as they represented themselves.. and what they are really looking for is someone to play with them, the way they they like it, when they feel like being played with... nothing more. At a local level, I have not asked for anything but sincerity, honesty, and effort... and all have fallen short.. I can understand how many Dommes who have experienced this frustration, would wish to require a more tangible way for a sub to show they have actual interest in making a connection.. If a male is required to 'tribute', he will only do so with those who he actually has intentions or interest in progressing with. Without tribute he can easily troll from Domme to Domme and pretend to be sincere with each one. I have been told on more than one occassion, "you seem so real, most Dommes here require money to talk to them"). Well, to Me... this translates into 'wow, I finally found a free one'. quote:
ORIGINAL: Real0ne From my experience they typically offer me a nice mortgage bill(my name is not on the deed), car payments (her name her car), insurance bills(both), utility bills(both), all the housework, child care(theirs), finally a little kink with here a spank there a spank once in a while or the other extreme of bdsm obsession that is so caustraphobic, limiting and depressing that i could puke. yeh thats what it translates into for me too. quote:
ORIGINAL: Arpig since it has no real deep meaning. Oh wait a minute now! it has DEEP meaning for some guys depending on the size of their wallets. but for most of us its just plain and simple "BOUGHT AND PAID FOR BABY"! LOL quote:
ORIGINAL: AAkasha This is a real problem and a valid concern. How does a woman know that a guy is really sincere about wanting to get to know her and not just wasting her time? If she has 15 - 20 men "courting" her for attention, how can he prove that he's honest? In real life, a woman would survey her "gentleman callers" and certainly some would look more legitimate if they took the time to buy a small gift or send flowers than those men that just called up and asked for attention or seemed to want sexual favors. But if a woman doesn't want to be seen as a gold digger or a pro -- or a scam artist -- how does she ask for a tribute and not chase away a guy who might otherwise be sincere? I think a lot of good hearted guys would go away when asked for a tribute to prove their sincerity. If I were single and in this boat, I think I *would* require a submissive to prove he's honest and sincere if I had a serious lack of time to spend wading through emails and IMs. But I wouldn't ask for cash -- I'd ask him to make a donation to a charity and send me the confirmation. Even if it's only $10. Then I would not be seen as a money grubber and he's forced to show some level of intent on his part. And a charity benefits. Akasha everyone knows sincerity is proven with money! quote:
ORIGINAL: obedienz That would certainly work for me. I think it's the feeling that I may be being taken for a mug that concerns me about cash tributes demanded up front. But I understand the need to do some for of filtering to discourage the non-serious... Personally, I'd be more than happy to make a charity donation as a gesture of my good intent... Yeh me too its called meet them and find out. you must be a newbee to assume dommes are trust worthy and honest! LOL quote:
ORIGINAL: lakeshoresubpete i have in the past sent money to 6 ladies claming to be dommies and in every case after i sent the money i never heard from them agian guess i should have read your post first LOL
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