MarinaBlack
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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave You know that is true..most men do find power in having money..What you can buy with it or who you can buy with it ..In this lifestyle , it is not like paying for a hooker to give you a hand job. Imagine trying to explain to a vanilla male friend that you paided to be with a beautful woman. You did not get to have sex. She kept her clothing on. You were not even allowed to pleasure yourself ...But you did get your ass redden" And oh yes, I am doing it again when she has time again to see me" And you know , if he really appreciates what happen. , it will linger far longer than any hooker sex, because he iddn't see a hooker. In fact , it can be argues that a good session can last emotionally longer fore a submissive than a vanilla encounter.. Hello again openminded. I have something else to say on the subject, seeing as how people often like to equate or compare ProDommes receiving payment for their services with prositution - all the while implying this is "bad". First of all, the prostitution comparison is often used as a way to devalue what ProDommes use because prostitution is often seen as something "dirty" or of little value by misogynists. Before Monotheistic Patriarchy, sex and prostitution had a sacred function. Even Socrates frequented temple prosititutes and some say he was influenced by one in particular - I unfortunately forget her name. Enter Monotheistic Patriarchy and women were devalued. Sex for any purpose other than procreation was deemed sinful. Words like "whore" or "prostitute" were used as tools for putting down women. If sex has no value, why do so many men pay for it and then debase the women they pay? Recall in a previous post I state that "tribute" does not always mean money, but we are talking about ProDommes now. Why is it that when men resent to concept of ProDommes - the concept of having to pay money when they offer nothing else like a relationship because they are so often already married or haven't the time or inclination for service - that they will try to put us down by comparing us to prostitutes. I will include something at this point that I messaged to someone on "the other side" - an angry self-defined male dome who inappropriately sent me an abussive message based on some posts I placed here: "A) BDSM is not about sex Bondage Discipline Sado Masochism The "S" is not for "Sex" and the "M" is not for "Masturbate". B)Receiving tribute for BDSM service does not make one a prostitute any more than receiving MONEY for BDSM service makes one a prostitute any more than receiving payment for being a doctor makes one a prostitute. Recall that "Tribute" does not default to money. It's about providing something of value. C) There's nothing wrong with being a prostitute, but misogynists like yourself like to use the word as a weapon against women who make it through this life on our terms and expect it to sting.... I smell sour grapes. I suspect in the male dom world tribute doesn't come up much because: a) you guys are just happy to have a living dolly to fuck b) to this day women are still much less financially secure than men c) women really know how to submit and provide tribute in non-financial ways... Dominantion and submission are about CONTROL. A skilled ProDomina provides an EXPERIENCE that cannot be compared to sex-for-pay. on the profane level. Sex-for-pay on a sacred level is another story, but you wouldn't understand...." The sad thing is that misogyny is not limited to men. Let's face it, misogynists are usually raised by women. Food for thought. There are many women who perhaps don't have a strong sense of self and worth who will also try to debase ProDommes and what we do. Back to the "prostitutes are bad" concept... Sex has value. When someone hasn't the time or desire to build a relationship in order to have their sexual needs fulfilled, there is absolutely nothing shameful or untoward in paying for it, any more than being the one selling it and providing that service is "dirty" or shameful. Good BDSM has value too. Although not all ProDommes are that skilled or sincere at what they do, it doesn't mean that what ProDommes of skill and sincerity do lacks value. We do not expect skilled doctors to just heal everyone for free. Why would we expect that of a skilled Domina? It seems to me that there is an abundance of petulant men who just expect to get what they want for nothing and then get angry, insulting and even downright abusive when they learn they cannot get a scene with the women they want for nothing. The irony is that by behaving this way they clearly separate themselves from the gentlemen who really do value our work. My prefernce is to scene with subs who do value my skills.
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