EbonyFtshGoddess
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Joined: 1/1/2006 From: Hollywood Hills, CA Status: offline
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EXCELLENT reply. people are more cautious with things that involve their money- but get caught up in this odd pigeon-holing type mentality like ALL this is xyz. anyone with any REAL debate experience realizes that this logic is flawed. that's like saying.. dogs are animals...then coming to the conclusion that all animals are dogs. you can't lump everything together which is entirely what happens when people hear tribute. then of course they further cloud the lumping with their past shady experiences and attribute THEIR experiences with pro dommes or tributing or gifting or licking their own elbow, to the way EVERYONE'S experience is or would be. that's called not being able to objectively detach one's personal experiences from a situation at hand and coming to an unbiased conclusion. some people really need to learn how to view things and situations objectively. however, i'll probably discover a cure for cancer before that happens. we don't have an unlimited account. and while i bet there will undoubtedly be a sub male that replies here to say "oh.. but i dont CARE if my mistress is wearing rubber and has toys".. ok.. let's be real. i'm all for "pervertibles" little things you can find around your home to dominate someone.. but being entirely real for a min. how long is it gonna take before you're bored stupid with being hit with a wooden spoon while your domme is wearing a mumu. some people are ENTIRELY ok with playing with less toys and equipment. SOME dommes such as myself enjoy using a variety of different toys and gear. do we need these things to be a functional, capable and efficient in our training?- no of course not.. but does it make the experience of BOTH parties better?- damn straight! if i want to do a psychodrama med play scene i want it to be as real as possible. YES i want to be in a medical dungeon setting, YES i will be wearing a rubber nurse uniform, YES i will be performing real treatments.. sorry- i'm all for pervertibles, but ya can't use a straw in place of a catheter. i can't use a ziploc bag hanging from a wire hanger as an enema. i have toys that i ONLY use for certain slaves. especially strapons. believe it or not.. the thought of using the same strapon on different asses just really grosses me out and makes me want to cringe. i have a little 3 drawer container where i keep everyone's strapon in a ziploc bag and write their name on it..lol anal i know but i suppose in a "no gifting or no tribute" world.. i should be the one spending $45 for 22 slaves to each have their own strapon?? i don't fucking think so.. no way in hell. so and so is 6'5.. this other slave is chubby.. another slave has a big head.. blah blah blah. i guess i'm supposed to have toys and equipment on hand for EVERYONE'S various body types or whatever out of my own pocket? am i the only one that views that logic as being nuttier than peanut butter? come on. i think people get hung up on the word "tribute" because as i've said before.. their thinking and logic is very myopic. they can't see past that because they make a mental word association.. the progression sorta goes like this: A).. they hate pro dommes or feel that their submission is gift enough or they feel that gifts cheapen service... or they tributed a domme that turned out to be a fake. or whatever useless issues they have going on- i've heard it all. these people are the ones that take THEIR experiences and foist them upon EVERYONE else. rather than learning from their mistakes they bitch and moan because THEY had a bad situation occur. sorry, not my fault. unless these women are LITERALLY taking it out of your own pocket (in that case you need to be calling 911 because you're being robbed) then you're doing it VOLUNTARILY. b) They hear the word *tribute* and IMMEDIATELY go into one-sided baggage land and equate that word with a pro domme (which is then word associated with a hooker, greedy or what have you).. they CANNOT and WILL NOT see past the fact that a tribute is MERELY a word that like every word nearly.. has a dual definition. sorta like the word *fuck*.. fuck can be used as an exclaimation of pain or it could be used as a verb.. like "to fuck".. i have listed the Merriam Webster dictionary's definition of the word 'Tribute'.. bear in mind that i haven't changed the definition ONE single iota. all i did was highlight parts of the definition that i feel are pertinent to the perceptions of the word in this instance. feel free to look it up yourself.. www.m-w.com tribute One entry found for tribute. Main Entry: trib·ute Pronunciation: 'tri-(")byüt, -by&t Function: noun Etymology: Middle English tribut, from Latin tributum, from neuter of tributus, past participle of tribuere to allot, bestow, grant, pay, from tribus tribe 1 a : a payment by one ruler or nation to another in acknowledgment of submission or as the price of protection; also : the tax levied for such a payment b (1) : an excessive tax, rental, or tariff imposed by a government, sovereign, lord, or landlord (2) : an exorbitant charge levied by a person or group having the power of coercion c : the liability to pay tribute (this is the definition used by pro dommes and the self righteous baggage handlers) 2 a : something given or contributed voluntarily as due or deserved; especially : a gift or service showing respect, gratitude, or affection <floral tribute> b : something (as material evidence or a formal attestation) that indicates the worth, virtue, or effectiveness of the one in question <the product is a tribute to their ingenuity> this is the definition used by LIFESTYLE dommes that don't view it as payment for our time.. not a *backdoor* to avoid being called a pro domme..but rather as a way they show us that they APPRECIATE the time we spend training them.. they respect our position in their life and they reciprocate with affection, their submission or whatever. people seem to forget.. DOMMES ARE WOMEN.. WOMEN LIKE GIFTS that's not rocket science people.. especially considering all the yummy, kinky toys available for us to assault and tantalize their flesh with!.. any woman that says tributes are evil or doesn't make you a domme. obviously must not like gifts. why gift your mother on mother's day? doesn't that cheapen your relationship? her gift on mother's day is the fact that you were BORN. right? WRONG and we ALL obviously see how flawed that logic is. well hopfully we all do see how blatantly flawed that logic is. but you can lead an ignorant person to the water of knowledge.. you can't make them think. that 'bout sums it up
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