DMFParadox
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ORIGINAL: clitwhipscream You should not have agreed to go anywhere with him. When he asked if you wanted to go with him, and you agreed, the chase was on. All doms have a predator mind. That is why they are so fucking hot. It is up to you, the prey, to determine the rules for the game, and to make it clear when you are not playing. Consent dosent just happen once, it happens step by step, he led, you followed him, he led a little more, you followed him again. Become consious of your miniute to miniute choices. DONT drink on a first meeting. DONT ever leave your non alcholic drink out of your sight. If you dont want raped, dont be raper bait. I would not call that assault, not by a long shot. Unless he chased you, drugged you, refused to let you leave the house tied you up in the basement ect., after you clocked him. Because that was his first signal that you werent playing yet. Next time, dont leave your original meeting space. If you decide to go somewhere else, you get in your car and meet him at the new location. NEVER get into a car with a stranger. You can bend over and smack yourself for that one right there. Good girl. This times two. I'll add that it sounds like this guy missed a few steps in the dance, though. As a man who's successfully pulled this stunt off more than a few times... I'd give him demerits on style and execution, not on what he was trying to achieve. Most guys in the game get a feel for when a girl will go to your house, versus when she wants to go home with you. But it can be very hard sometimes to figure that out; sometimes you just gotta try your luck and find out. As for him being a sexual predator... yes. He is. EVERYONE is. Men, women, tops and bottoms alike. He chose the role of the aggressor; and this is a necessary role. Frequently involving misdirection, subterfuge, and hidden motives, and when it's done right - like by me - it's fucking awesome for the girl in question. In this case, it sucked hard. But it wasn't because he was wrong to try. He was just an inept at it. --- Edited to add: Sadly, DarkSteven is right about one thing. This would be considered an assault in court, if you ever got him on record admitting to it. You could send him to jail for a long time. And after he got out, he'd be branded a 'sexual predator' for life, and have a very challenging time getting a job... a home... or ever having a life again. Imagine this: you now have the power to rape that man sideways. And it's totally legal. Welcome to America, where your right to not be felt up is strenuously guarded. Hope it makes you feel really fucking protected. The price for your protection is high enough that I hope someone's getting something from it. Oh, and once the police have evidence of suspicion, it's out of your hands. You couldn't change your mind if you tried. Dude's headed for a life of hell, sister. All you've got to do is make the call, and get him to admit on a recording that he violated you. Hell, all he has to do is apologize, how ironic is that?
< Message edited by DMFParadox -- 11/13/2010 1:54:22 AM >
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