JstAnotherSub
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Finally, I suggest these realities are known by most submissves who actually meet and date Doms from here and FL or in LIfestyle clubs accross this big world. They know the prey dynamic is very much there from minute one even if only subconsciously. It is why they are here and not on Match.com. It is what they want. It's what we want. That is what makes us different from vanilla people. If I wanted a man who would treat me like a lady, I would be on match dot com (can’t stand that site). I would also become terribly, terribly bored with him, and quickly. Doms don’t play fair. Some lie, some steal, some cheat, some just withhold information (strong silent type) ALL of them will mind fuck you. Deal with it. Look, I will never understand why some people insist on living what they think is an "alternative" sexual lifestyle, while at the same time trying to mainstream it into vanilla hood. I have talked to "doms" who claim to want a sub who is completely enthralled and focused on his needs, and yet, "still has a mind of her own". l have seen so called sadistic "tops" who would not dream of causing pain to a bottom. Submissives talking about how they insist on having a say in how the house is run, but want to be fully controlled at the same time. And best of all, bottoms who do not want to be 'pursued' by a top, but who want to call all the shots while s/he sits on the bench and waits for the verdict to come in. When is it ok for him to startle you, to woo you, to impress you with his sexual prowess, on your wedding night? Better watch it, he just might tear your Lilly white dress by then. Some of the submissives really get me, because they seem to want to lead the top into trouble, they don’t make boundaries clear, get into cars with strange men (really, that many of them? Your shitting me?) seem to do everything they can to say “chase me”, then clobber him when he does, so s/he can go tell whomever will listen what a victim s/he is, and what an asshole s/he is. Seriously. And I’m a feminist. People who do not recognize the predator/prey dynamic in BDSM relationships need more help than this forum can ever provide. I could throw in five years of social science studies 20years of living leather, and wow you queer theory, gender theory, and a good deal of eco-feminist theory, but really, that is not what I am here for. If you don’t want a dominant ass for a lover, if you want someone who will never raise a hand to touch your pristine form, stay away from leathermen. It is not fair that someone should go to jail, because you cannot accept what WE ALL are. I am a sexual deviant and if another deviant wants acceptance, compassion and understanding, and maybe even some help finding a way to express that deviance, I am more than happy to help. After all, I have many of the same desires myself. I have to say that if you really feel the way about D/s relationships that is expressed here, I don't know whether to laugh, cry or pity you. I am sure you don't care one way or the other, but I have to add.... No matter what we are, deviant, pristine, church goer, psychopath, make, female, dom, sub, top, bottom, what ever, no matter what we identify as, we are all human with emotions and brains. If I ever begin to believe that I am only prey, and that I wwill have to endure a mindfuck from anyone I get involved with, I will run. I am sure you live and believe the things you said here, and I am glad it worked out for you thus far, but please do not try to tell those of us who do not live a "leatherman" lifestyle that we are wrong. One can give over complete control, as naturally as breathing, to someone they respect and want to please just because. Some of us require no games, no lies, no mindfucks. Just that click of chemistry and meeting of the minds, which is, in some ways, the same as vanilla folks do it. Because we are pervs does not make us special.....
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