And Peon, that is what makes you a more interesting man. It's not patronising to see women in more than one way - I'd say it sees women as women. If we have any scrap of innocence, wonder, awe, delight in us, it often is very child-like. It is also a joyous way to be in the world. Sure, it is more exercised for some than for others, but just acknowledging it even can be a joy.
Thank you, sunshinemiss. If I like a woman, it'll be because of all of those things, not just because she can wear high heels. I have a deep, wide and rich understanding of the ways in which I can be a dick, and I just assume that a wise woman will know similar about herself. Real angels, and real demons, are rare amongst women, no matter what they might think. In my experience.
I think the real problem is that a few women would prefer me to like them for the reasons that they *want* me to like them. That's only going to be less the case as I get older. 'Cest la vie. I don't doubt it's true the other way round, too.