If I like a woman, it'll be because of all of those things, not just because she can wear high heels. I have a deep, wide and rich understanding of the ways in which I can be a dick, and I just assume that a wise woman will know similar about herself. Real angels, and real demons, are rare amongst women, no matter what they might think. In my experience.
This is what I was talking about early, about being self-aware.
I think the real problem is that a few women would prefer me to like them for the reasons that they *want* me to like them. That's only going to be less the case as I get older. 'Cest la vie. I don't doubt it's true the other way round, too.
When I was younger, in my early 20s, I dated a guy who told me that what really attracted me to him was a part of me that I was less fond of. I got so angry with him, that I almost broke up with him. He, of course, was shocked. It took a long conversation and some deep reflection about the whole situation for me to come to terms with the fact that he didn't like me for the reasons I wanted him to like me.
So I get this. Luckily, I learned that lesson much younger and have learned that it doesn't matter why a man that I like likes me. It only matters that he does.
Edited to add: you see this often with men that have a lot of money. I once dated a man that came from a very well to do family and he had all the priveledges and toys a man could want. But when I met him, I didn't know most of this and honestly, when I found out, I didn't care much about it. He never believed that I liked him for him and not for his money. I think he realises this many, many years later when it's way too late.
< Message edited by LadyAngelika -- 8/21/2011 5:45:08 PM >
Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove