LillyBoPeep
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It's not a weight issue, she has lupus, fibro, and cancer. She may not feel well enough to go to the gym or do much of anything. OP, good luck finding what you're looking for. If this second person is going to be a 2nd wife, and move in and have a relationship with you and your wife, you have to take your wife's feelings and compatibilities into account, too. Don't lead with your dick, be patient and thoughtful, and find someone who will really mesh well with you and your wife. If your wife is too ill to go out, this person will have to be willing to come to the house and get to know her. Go ramble through KnightofMists posts -- I'm not poly, but to me, he and his family are a great example of a functional poly relationship that fulfills everyone involved. Your wife is dealing with a lot, so don't take advantage of that. The home still needs to be a place where she can be comfortable, too, and hopefully you'll find a Second who cares just as much for your wife as you want her to care for you and your needs.
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