DaddySatyr
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Joined: 8/29/2011 From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky Status: offline
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I can only answer this from my own perspective and forgive me if I "break this down" a bit ... quote:
ORIGINAL: anniezz338 Yesterday was not a good day.....which has left me pondering a few questions (and about getting the fuck out of it). Such as does being a Dom mean you don't have to say "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong"? Not to me it doesn't. I make mistakes; hopefully not many but, if and when I do, my partner needs to know that I am humble enough to recognize it. There are always going to be issues where she thinks I've made a mistake and I don't but, when I know or have been shown I'm wrong I need to own that. There's a few reasons but the most important is: trust. She needs to be able to trust my judgement as well as my behavior and comportment. quote:
ORIGINAL: anniezz338 Does it also mean that he can twist something around to the point of it being an outright lie ok because he is the Dom? Dominant ... submissive ... butcher ... baker ... lying is NEVER "okay". That is all. quote:
ORIGINAL: anniezz338 And because he is a Dom, the sub cannot call him on it because that would be crossing a boundary or showing disrespect? It is my lady's job; she is obliged to help me be a better person. Of course, this should always be done in a respectful manner but for her to not "call me on my shit" doesn't serve me at all. Of course, "Daddy, I think you might have been a little out of line with the mechanic at the shop" is a little different than: "See? You act like an asshole, when he tells you what the car needs." quote:
ORIGINAL: anniezz338 Is making a sub feel like shit one of the Dom's prerogatives? I guess some would argue that it is. I would say that as a human being, it's my right to treat anybody any way I feel. As my lady, it's her right to decide that she doesn't wish to serve me anymore. Submissives always have that choice. quote:
ORIGINAL: anniezz338 Does the Dom make the man or does the man make the Dom? This part, I don't like. I think "dominant" or "submissive" is a label to give others a "quick snippet" kind of view of who we are as a person. I guess one could say that the kind of person I am makes me a dominant but, I think it could be also said that because I hold a certain regard for this lifestyle, being a dominant has some affect upon what kind of man I am. But, the long and short of it (for me) is that we are - all of us - dominant, submissive, or switch. It's at the core of our being. quote:
ORIGINAL: anniezz338 And above all, is a certain low level of fear of the Dom keep the respect where it needs to be? "Fear" is another word that I truly don't like but, in this instance, the only "fear" that I think should ever come into play as far as how people maneuver their way through the relationship is the "fear" that one might lose their partner. That's always a "fear". I don't think it should ever be put out there as a spoken threat but, let's face it: If I fail to keep my lady happy, she might just leave. I hope some of this helped and I think you'll find that there will be lots of people weighing in on this so, you will have a myriad of ideas from which to choose. Peace and comfort, Michael
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