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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:35:52 AM

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I'd like to know what qualifies the BDSM lifestyle as the bottom of the barrel? The choice if there is no other choice?

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:44:56 AM

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I just finished reading the OP's anorexic and ego-centric profile.
I hope you get exactly the kind of subs you deserve.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:45:15 AM

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There are shallow, vain people in my local area. They tend to hang out together and compare nail varnish, manscapes and fake tans.

The rest of us are having too much fun drinking, playing and socialising to take much notice of them.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:45:23 AM

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I'll let the others handle your idiotic ramblings...
But yes I had the unpleasant experience of going out on a date with someone that thought the same way you do.. As he rambled on about how fat, unattractive, yadda yadda he thought most of the population in the local BDSM scene was and how he was an 8.. all I could think is he was a boorish oaf ( I am being nice) for thinking he was that attractive and that oh hell no you ain't no 8 to me cause hun right now you're a 1 to me... needless to say we were not compatible in any way shape or form... and would have had a great time with any of those he was putting down..

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:45:52 AM

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To the OP. You have to realize that this is (at last count) the 687th "I'm gorgeous, you're not, bow to my beauty" thread we've seen.

We tend to treat them like we treat the duck face-making, flipping the bird to the camera, 19 year old DOMMES on the other side.

A bit over a half century has taught me that people tend to emphasize their best quality.
If a person's best quality if their looks (which you seem to be emphasizing), they might want to rethink their development and priorities.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:48:46 AM

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It's simple, really. I just asked a question that was harsh. But I feel that the question is legitimate.

I am sure that there is a certain percentage of people who have gotten into this lifestyle with the mindset of: "I'll do anything you want me to as long as you show me attention."

I merely postulated that question. Obviously an unpopular question. But a legitimate question none the less.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:53:21 AM

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Well, *you're* certainly getting attention now aren't you?

This will be harsh, but you seem to like that, so...

Anyone who has nothing but looks to offer is boring, vacant and vapid. You should read a book, watch a documentary and do some volunteer work.
And this might confuse you but, the most attractive people I've met, have not been the best looking people I've met.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:54:09 AM

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I love how I am being thrown into a generalized class, just as I did in my original post!! Isn't that ironic?

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:55:29 AM

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Also, after reading your profile, I'm thinking that you might have a bit of a hang-up about looks. How many people post photos and then state "We are a VERY attractive couple who turn heads wherever we go?" I mean, if you have photos up then why would it be necessary to describe yourselves as VERY attractive? Where you afraid that people wouldn't come to that conclusion on their own?

You guys are fairly attractive, but not monumentally so, at least not in a big city. One of the things that you may learn is that attitude goes a long way in BDSM. There are too many attractive people who expect their looks to be enough for anybody, and end up being monumentally boring to scene with. I feel sure that many have had this experience.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:56:28 AM

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There are people everywhere, in every walk of life, that have the attitude "I will do whatever you want, as long as you show me attention".

You did not pose a question. You sang the praises of your superiority, and, in that process, insinuated that anyone who is not in line with your idea of beauty must be here because they can not get any "better".

Your profile states that you are an extremely attractive couple, who turn heads where ever you go. Extremely attractive is in the eyes of the beholder, and, believe it or not, some folks would not find you to be their cup of tea, based on looks alone.

So, again, bless your heart.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:57:10 AM

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You asked a really idiotic question, that wasn't a question, it was a statement.
Masking it in an attempt to get others to say "oh yes, all the old fatties are defo what make up the entire bdsm population, and it's cuz no one else would be gross enough to even look in their direction" is, at best, ignorant, and at worst..it shows the type of people that you and your wife are.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 6:58:13 AM

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I hope that they get an 'ugly' bdsmer that has read this servicing their prius next time. Sometimes life does work like that. Karma is an ironic little fucker.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:00:09 AM

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Hey OP didn't you know that punk killed of the facial Merkin, c'mon get with it daddio.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:01:18 AM

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Thats a bit of a generalisation old boy and I suspect its going to get you killed in here.

That said I am going to get killed too because, in part, I agree with you.

SOME people clearly do go in scene because they cannot find a partner in vanilla, or (wrongly) think its a route to a quick f*ck I have met up with a couple myself....... its hardly a majority though.

There do seem to be more than the ave percentage of obese people of both sexs in scene - I have no stats to back that up but its certainly how it appears.... and I have no answer to why.

And yes although its changing now, thanks probably to the internet, certainly there are more older people (even you young ones eventually become one of us "old people" you know !) ..... I suspect pre Internet that was simply because it was harder for people to connect or even realise there were other people with the same interests, so they were perforce "older" by the time they found the scene.

But you don't have to talk to those without social skills do you - and if your sizeist or ageist you can choose not to play with those.... there are young size 8 subs out there too if that's your thing ...... who your more likely to find if you judge people on their own merits and don't alienate most of your local scene :)

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:06:16 AM

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Ok, ok, you guys all win. ;)

That's why I LOVE this community!! Because everyone who has a different viewpoint is SO accepted and not PERSONALLY attacked. I understand that I would be considered hideously gross to a LARGE percentage of the population. I'm cool with that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That is very true.

But I won't be politically corrected(ly) scolded for having my own opinion, even if it is vastly unpopular to yours.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:08:05 AM

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Ironic much?

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That's why I LOVE this community!! Because everyone who has a different viewpoint is SO accepted and not PERSONALLY attacked.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:08:57 AM

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Did you not attack others? And you did it behind their backs. (hopefully)
Would you like to stumble across a thread that talks about what a bunch of dorks you guys are?
Plus, I got news for you; you're right on the cusp of middle age. It won't be long before you and your wife are the old, not good looking people.
I hope people are kinder to you than you have been.

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:09:34 AM

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A snark free response. perhaps there isn't more obesity in scene per se, perhaps it's that the obese in BDSM feel more confident in going out in scene than the nilla obese do to say nightclubs. perhaps there are more lonely single large people in nilla as they get shit in clubs whereas the BDSM scene is more liberal & forgiving of our foibles.
perhaps more older peeps go out in scene because they are welcomed whereas the same in the nilla world fell uncomfortable going to a bar to hit on chicks whilst being bombarded by gangster rap or some other modern atonal talentless cat strangler.

Just an opinion.

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Thats a bit of a generalisation old boy and I suspect its going to get you killed in here.

That said I am going to get killed too because, in part, I agree with you.

SOME people clearly do go in scene because they cannot find a partner in vanilla, or (wrongly) think its a route to a quick f*ck I have met up with a couple myself....... its hardly a majority though.

There do seem to be more than the ave percentage of obese people of both sexs in scene - I have no stats to back that up but its certainly how it appears.... and I have no answer to why.

And yes although its changing now, thanks probably to the internet, certainly there are more older people (even you young ones eventually become one of us "old people" you know !) ..... I suspect pre Internet that was simply because it was harder for people to connect or even realise there were other people with the same interests, so they were perforce "older" by the time they found the scene.

But you don't have to talk to those without social skills do you - and if your sizeist or ageist you can choose not to play with those.... there are young size 8 subs out there too if that's your thing ...... who your more likely to find if you judge people on their own merits and don't alienate most of your local scene :)

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:13:29 AM

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You have understandably had to deal with some blowback for your statements, but don't try and pretend that some of the critique has not also been reasonable and responsive. You have not rebutted most of the actual argument put forth to dispell your ideas.

And as for playing the martyr card, if you are free to complain about old fat BDSMers, why can't others complain about you. Isn't their right to express an opinion as valid as yours? Perhaps you are the one trying to enforce political correctness?

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RE: BDSM out of necessity? - 1/15/2012 7:15:12 AM

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OP~ would you be ok with us critiquing, say, your wife? Like you have about the chicks you're so far above?

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