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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:49:48 PM

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Its a work in progress, definitely wouldnt work for everyone.

Actually, I've been in WIITWD in a very large community long enough to tell you that it rarely works for anyone. Matter of fact, it usually ends with big explosions.

But, you've clearly decided and nothing the voices of experience can say will stop you. So, whatever.......

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:51:49 PM

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I'm flaberghasted. Anything I type would have to be snarky so I will remain flaberghasted.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:52:33 PM

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:54:46 PM

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osidegirl, You might very well be right. In the end it might not work. But right now it is. My husband and I share responsibity of the kids, getting them back and forth to out side activities etc. Share expenses, etc. Its alot like room mates these days.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:10:40 PM

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Its a marriage of convenience to keep the family together. We have discussed divorce but doesnt want it and I want the help.

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My kids can keep their mother and father in the same home and their stability and I can get the mental stimualtion I need from my master, and the security given to me by my husband.

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My husband and I share responsibity of the kids, getting them back and forth to out side activities etc. Share expenses, etc. Its alot like room mates these days.

You remain married for your husbands help, security, financial assistance, etc. Whereas i see this as a very sad commentary on your marriage i hope to God that you and he remain together, because there is no doubt in my mind he is the only stability your children have.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:13:50 PM

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I dont know if you all remember me or not. I posted about concerns over my Master not wanting sex and wanting to collar me anyway about a month ago.

I felt I needed to get out of the relationship because I felt I was doing everything, and he was doing nothing. Gifts for him, wanted to start a bank account together even though Im married, only allows a Bj etc. after 2 yrs. Ring a bell?
The narricist and the BPD? lol. You all thought my story so ridiculous I had to be a troll?
Some people had a problem with me getting on here and sharing my concerns, but I used no names so its still virtually private. He would just have a fit if he knew I was on here again lol.
Anyway, this wednesday I am proceeding with the collaring. It was suppose to be two weeks ago but I wouldnt do it until I felt ready if i ever felt ready.
Not one person has ever agreed with this relationship, who I have discussed it with. I quit discussing it like I once did, and have went with my own thoughts. Everyone was telling me i was brainwashed. But I cant seem to give him up and actually get alot of pleasure from giving to him. He withholds sex but its ok. He told me dont put the cart before the horse. I found after much thought he is actually right, Im not even ready for sex with him, and I decided it actually makes it better we havent had it. In the past I was notorious for getting what I want and soon being bored with someone. By withholding sex from me I have actually stayed interested and was forced to get to know him. When I examine the relationship, he has changed in the two yrs, and does tell me alot more then he used too. So this very slow relationship, really has been to my benefit. I really am nervous about getting financial involved with him but I have decided to do it, I will start slowly then see how that goes. I actually want to do it, I have a deep desire to want to trust him and so I will do it.
If I get burnt, "live and learn" but I care so much for him I have to know.

I don't want to have sex with Master either.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:17:44 PM

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I dont know if you all remember me or not. I posted about concerns over my Master not wanting sex and wanting to collar me anyway about a month ago.

I felt I needed to get out of the relationship because I felt I was doing everything, and he was doing nothing. Gifts for him, wanted to start a bank account together even though Im married, only allows a Bj etc. after 2 yrs. Ring a bell?
The narricist and the BPD? lol. You all thought my story so ridiculous I had to be a troll?
Some people had a problem with me getting on here and sharing my concerns, but I used no names so its still virtually private. He would just have a fit if he knew I was on here again lol.
Anyway, this wednesday I am proceeding with the collaring. It was suppose to be two weeks ago but I wouldnt do it until I felt ready if i ever felt ready.
Not one person has ever agreed with this relationship, who I have discussed it with. I quit discussing it like I once did, and have went with my own thoughts. Everyone was telling me i was brainwashed. But I cant seem to give him up and actually get alot of pleasure from giving to him. He withholds sex but its ok. He told me dont put the cart before the horse. I found after much thought he is actually right, Im not even ready for sex with him, and I decided it actually makes it better we havent had it. In the past I was notorious for getting what I want and soon being bored with someone. By withholding sex from me I have actually stayed interested and was forced to get to know him. When I examine the relationship, he has changed in the two yrs, and does tell me alot more then he used too. So this very slow relationship, really has been to my benefit. I really am nervous about getting financial involved with him but I have decided to do it, I will start slowly then see how that goes. I actually want to do it, I have a deep desire to want to trust him and so I will do it.
If I get burnt, "live and learn" but I care so much for him I have to know.

You asked for advice.

You recieved it

You went against it.

You deserve what you get.

Your children don't deserve it but that's the way the mop flops.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:25:43 PM

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You are entitled to your own decision. I hope you have done appropriate due diligence on this person and this situation particularly if you are sharing finances, as you do have children. No one is required to take anyone's advice.

I, for one, will be curious to read your update in a year or two after this has played itself out further.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:27:52 PM

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Your children don't deserve it but that's the way the mop flops.

That's the truly sad part, HW.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:30:44 PM

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Its a work in progress, definitely wouldnt work for everyone.

More like a trainwreck in progress.

Wait until your husband has enough of this and uses your new "relationship" to boot you out and take custody of the kids.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:35:43 PM

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Its a work in progress, definitely wouldnt work for everyone.

More like a trainwreck in progress.

Wait until your husband has enough of this and uses your new "relationship" to boot you out and take custody of the kids.

Yeah, nothing like the ugly custody battle where Mom's kinky sex life and her new "Dom" get trotted out in court.

Although, I'm betting the first explosion is when the husband puts his foot down and interferes with orders from the "Dom".

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:40:51 PM

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Yes I did ask for advice a month ago, I was really dstraught, but I have worked it out now.
My husband and I discussed how important it is for us to try to stay in the relationship since the children are so young. Baby sitting is an issue due to their age and my schedule as a nurse. I agree my husband gives alot of stability to my childrens lifes, and juggling babysitting, fluctuating schedules , with my job would create instability for them. His schedule is stable.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:45:13 PM

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Oh, and she is a nurse! This gets better and better.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 5:54:48 PM

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Was not looking for validation.
I know when I was younger I made the mistake of saying "I would never do that" "why would someone do that"
Only to find myself doing exactly the things I said I would never do. In example how I raise my kids.
If someone told me over 2 yrs ago my life would be on this journey I would have said " uh huh, Oh yah sure, crazy person" lol.
As life goes forward sometimes adapting and making changes is necessary. Life isnt always as we envision. My kids can keep their mother and father in the same home and their stability and I can get the mental stimualtion I need from my master, and the security given to me by my husband.
Its a work in progress, definitely wouldnt work for everyone.

If you think kids can not tell when parents are staying together for them, you are wrong. Believe me, when they are older, they won't be thanking you for any fucking favors you did for them.

Gawd, some days I really wonder about folks.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 6:04:29 PM

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The fact that your "master" has no compunction in pillaging from a woman that belongs
to another man, regardless of whether he is aware or not, tells me alot about your master.
And not only is he taking the spoils from your husband, he is willingly going to take money
away that could very well be benefitting your children. Oh, you must be so proud!

Although, to his benefit, it is his easy way out of not ever having to commit to you,
so props to his manipulation skills.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 6:20:26 PM

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I will update in the future whether it proves to be destructive or if it works out. Criticism is to be expected.
Married people all the time have affairs, sneak, lie, hide things. I dont do that. I did that in the past. I am honest to everyone involved.
In fact My Master is the one who encouraged me to tell the truth. It was an explosion at first but now things are calming.
I just wanted to update my decision, Im feel really strong tonight so any insults bounce right off. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
Just know my kids hurt for nothing financially, and mentally we really try to give them what they need to build their confidence.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 6:49:49 PM

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The fact that your "master" has no compunction in pillaging from a woman that belongs
to another man, regardless of whether he is aware or not, tells me alot about your master.
And not only is he taking the spoils from your husband,

Wives belong to husbands? Must be a Christian thing, right? I can see a slave belonging to a master, but unless the marriage is based on a master/slave relationship I don't think ownership is implied.
Granted, husband and wife should communicate, and have certain rights, but if a husband voluntarily gives up those rights, there is no theft.
In everything else, I agree with everyone else on this thread, this is a clusterF*** waiting to happen. I doubt the master is a decent person (or there is a lot the op isn't telling us), etc. Just wanted to state that wimmuns are not property unless they want to be.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 7:13:10 PM

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Fast reply

Everyone please take a moment to take a breath before posting.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 8:02:44 PM

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The money he steals from you is money you are stealing from your family. Don't tell me you're doing the right thing for your children when you steal the money that ought to be their college fund.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 8:21:33 PM

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Was not looking for validation.

Okay, I'll bite.
If you weren't looking for validation, what did you hope to accomplish in this thread?
You already knew exactly how others reacted to your earlier thread about your relationship and how you were unsure about it. Now you're sure about it and have decided to further commit to it.

The only thing that's changed is you. No one else who previously gave you negative feedback is going to embrace your decision.

I think you wanted to get the last word on it, but that's just an educated guess.

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