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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 8:40:07 PM

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Was not looking for validation.
I know when I was younger I made the mistake of saying "I would never do that" "why would someone do that"
Only to find myself doing exactly the things I said I would never do. In example how I raise my kids.
If someone told me over 2 yrs ago my life would be on this journey I would have said " uh huh, Oh yah sure, crazy person" lol.
As life goes forward sometimes adapting and making changes is necessary. Life isnt always as we envision. My kids can keep their mother and father in the same home and their stability and I can get the mental stimualtion I need from my master, and the security given to me by my husband.
Its a work in progress, definitely wouldnt work for everyone.

That sums up how I feel about the situation.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 8:48:59 PM

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Was not looking for validation.

I think you wanted to get the last word on it, but that's just an educated guess.

Or she has a humiliation fetish, and we are feeding into it.
You have permission to slap me if I ever post something like this in order to get attention.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 8:56:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: poise

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Was not looking for validation.

I think you wanted to get the last word on it, but that's just an educated guess.

Or she has a humiliation fetish, and we are feeding into it.
You have permission to slap me if I ever post something like this in order to get attention.

I'll write you a slappy haiku. lol

Actually, I don't think she has a humiliation fetish; I think she's still looking for feedback because she can't believe she's going over to some guy's house, blowing him, cleaning the house, then going home a couple of hours later. Maybe she's still looking for voices of reason?

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 9:04:37 PM

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A month ago I had someone ask me to post an update when I figured something out. If I was needing validation I would not post on such a controversal topic. It didnt bring positive input then and I didnt expect to bring positive input now.
I am the same a month ago, as I am today, and I will be tomorrow. I just made a decision that I had problems making.
I come back a month later to get the last word? lol. Does it look like Im winning here?
For a group of people who supposeably practice an alternative lifestyle seem to be a tad bit judgemental and very fast to call people liars.
I could judge you for all the things I would find weird about your alternative life. But I have no desire to make you feel bad or question your decisions. If it is right for you then I am not going to judge it and call you names for your choices.
The truth is the vanilla people I have talked to about this in the past, might not have agreed but were far less judgmental and level headed about their responses .
ITs cool! IM finished posting about it, Im happy with my decisions for the time being.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 9:07:31 PM

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All the therapy that money can buy!

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I am honest to everyone involved.

Just know my kids hurt for nothing financially, and mentally we really try to give them what they need to build their confidence.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 9:26:09 PM

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I'm so disturbed by so much of this that I wouldn't even know where to start.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 9:45:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

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ORIGINAL: poise

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ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

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Was not looking for validation.

I think you wanted to get the last word on it, but that's just an educated guess.

Or she has a humiliation fetish, and we are feeding into it.
You have permission to slap me if I ever post something like this in order to get attention.

I'll write you a slappy haiku. lol

Actually, I don't think she has a humiliation fetish; I think she's still looking for feedback because she can't believe she's going over to some guy's house, blowing him, cleaning the house, then going home a couple of hours later. Maybe she's still looking for voices of reason?

Uh you forgot she is paying him. so basically his is a "whore"

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 9:54:16 PM

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Man, you're letting a guy like that have access to your finances when you're married and have kids?

It's one thing to give and give and give when it's blow-jobs and household service, but when it's the hard-earned cash you're using to feed and house your children, that's dangerous stuff. Please be careful.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 3:58:34 AM

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I will update in the future whether it proves to be destructive or if it works out. Criticism is to be expected.
Married people all the time have affairs, sneak, lie, hide things. I dont do that. I did that in the past. I am honest to everyone involved.
In fact My Master is the one who encouraged me to tell the truth. It was an explosion at first but now things are calming.
I just wanted to update my decision, Im feel really strong tonight so any insults bounce right off. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
Just know my kids hurt for nothing financially, and mentally we really try to give them what they need to build their confidence.

Are you being honest with everyone? Does your master know you are here because in the op you said "He would just have a fit if he knew I was on here again lol." So how is that being honest?

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 4:01:27 AM

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The truth is the vanilla people I have talked to about this in the past, might not have agreed but were far less judgmental and level headed about their responses .

And yet according to the op you had to stop talking to them because no one agreed with you. "Not one person has ever agreed with this relationship, who I have discussed it with. I quit discussing it like I once did, and have went with my own thoughts."

But go ahead. I am sure everyone who knows you in the real world is wrong and you are right. Have fun with that.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 4:18:34 AM

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I apparently didn't read the other thread far enough to see that she was married....with children. God almighty, I say again that there should be a qualification test before people can reproduce.

Her children weren't relevant enough for her to bother mentioning in her other thread.

I know someone who left her children in another state with their father to be with her Master...her oldest is in jail now.

OP - reflect on that after your husband uses your relationship with your Master to divorce you and get custody of the kids.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 4:40:52 AM

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The disastrous first D/s relationship I had, which I reference briefly in my profile remind me a bit of this. The jackass called me several months after I broke things off to tell me that his current girl (such a GOOD girl, unlike me, who was such a wretched and worthless sub) was like 19 (he was 38, I think), and her family had disowned her as a result of her insistence on moving in with him....but she did it (because she was a GOOD sub).

I know people do these things, and I know families aren't always right, but if EVERYONE WHO KNOWS YOU is against a relationship, you just MIGHT want to consider that maybe they're seeing something you aren't.

Gawd, I still keep thinking that I should have listened to my parents about my marriage. They asked several times, over several months, if I was sure about it. My defense is that my son was just meant to be born...lol. I not only dated a man I wouldn't normally give the time of day to, and who was utterly wrong for me, but married him....and got pregnant while on birth control. But hey, maybe it was just rotten judgement and I should ahve paid more attention to my family (except that I wouldn't have my monster-boy if I had).

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 5:35:22 AM

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What does WIITWD mean??

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 5:39:35 AM

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 5:41:22 AM

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can't say I understand the term, Than again can't say I understand this situation either.

but thanks poise

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 5:47:08 AM

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urbandictionary is very help for deciphering acronyms:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=WIITWD

Stands for "What It Is That We Do"; used by members of the BDSM scene to refer to their activities and/or to the scene itself.

It's often difficult for vanilla folks to understand why we do WIITWD.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 6:25:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

urbandictionary is very help for deciphering acronyms:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=WIITWD

Stands for "What It Is That We Do"; used by members of the BDSM scene to refer to their activities and/or to the scene itself.

It's often difficult for vanilla folks to understand why we do WIITWD.

Thanks for the tip...my apologies to kalikshama for thinking she was inferring something else by including the vanilla comment. No hard feelings, and thanks for being helpful.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 6:33:27 AM

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[No longer relevant]

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 6:36:19 AM

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I'm about positive Kalikshama wasn't referring to you as the vanilla DommesLesEnigma, seems to me that she was using an example for her sentence to explain the acronym to you.

Since we're all about giving tips today, you can go back and change your post for about an hour, there is an edit button that disappears after that.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/21/2012 6:47:13 AM

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My question to the OP and maybe I missed it. Why is the father so willing to go along with this. Could it be that he got a chick on the side or something she is holding over his head. Because I'm sorry but I can't see how someone can sit around and let someone use his wife and through her himself like that.

and for the poor babies. Kid's see more than people realize. They pick up things. There has got to be tension in that house. So the husband and the wife need to get it together for the kids, and boot the parasite (master out). Those kids did not ask to be brought into the world. Since they were they deserve more than a mom selfishly living for her desire. A father that stand by and let her do it. This master who simply don't give a care about their family unit.

Sometimes love or lust can blind you or brainwash you. If you ever get yourself away from the situation, than look back on it you see more clearly. Regret and shame. Really think about that. Because your heading towards a wall of regret and shame. Just hope lives aren't ruined when you get up from the crash.

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