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Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 3:44:14 PM

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I dont know if you all remember me or not. I posted about concerns over my Master not wanting sex and wanting to collar me anyway about a month ago.

I felt I needed to get out of the relationship because I felt I was doing everything, and he was doing nothing. Gifts for him, wanted to start a bank account together even though Im married, only allows a Bj etc. after 2 yrs. Ring a bell?
The narricist and the BPD? lol. You all thought my story so ridiculous I had to be a troll?
Some people had a problem with me getting on here and sharing my concerns, but I used no names so its still virtually private. He would just have a fit if he knew I was on here again lol.
Anyway, this wednesday I am proceeding with the collaring. It was suppose to be two weeks ago but I wouldnt do it until I felt ready if i ever felt ready.
Not one person has ever agreed with this relationship, who I have discussed it with. I quit discussing it like I once did, and have went with my own thoughts. Everyone was telling me i was brainwashed. But I cant seem to give him up and actually get alot of pleasure from giving to him. He withholds sex but its ok. He told me dont put the cart before the horse. I found after much thought he is actually right, Im not even ready for sex with him, and I decided it actually makes it better we havent had it. In the past I was notorious for getting what I want and soon being bored with someone. By withholding sex from me I have actually stayed interested and was forced to get to know him. When I examine the relationship, he has changed in the two yrs, and does tell me alot more then he used too. So this very slow relationship, really has been to my benefit. I really am nervous about getting financial involved with him but I have decided to do it, I will start slowly then see how that goes. I actually want to do it, I have a deep desire to want to trust him and so I will do it.
If I get burnt, "live and learn" but I care so much for him I have to know.

RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 3:47:02 PM

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same shit different day, good luck.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 3:53:46 PM

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Glad to hear that you lowered your expectations to save the relationship. Best of luck.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:04:20 PM

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Good luck. You're going to need it.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:05:30 PM

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Fuck-if he's your Master, you have sex on his terms, not yours.
This shouldn't even be an issue.

And just to add to the discussion, I've done this with chicks before for various reasons...and sometimes for extensive periods of time...as in once I owned a gal for a year and only fucked her once.

Sometimes it's about control. I control my libido, not the other way around
Sometimes it's about power(Most women are absolutely un-used to having men deny them sex when the gal wants it...and have no idea how to deal with it when they get turned down).
Sometimes it's because I want to keep things on a service only level for a period, remove anything but the purity of her servitude from the equation.
And sometimes it's because the bitch wants it so bad and begs so well, I just can't help myself but laugh in her face and watching the slut grovel and suffer

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:08:23 PM

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Good luck

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:10:31 PM

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Fuck-if he's your Master, you have sex on his terms, not yours.
This shouldn't even be an issue.

And just to add to the discussion, I've done this with chicks before for various reasons...and sometimes for extensive periods of time...as in once I owned a gal for a year and only fucked her once.

Sometimes it's about control. I control my libido, not the other way around
Sometimes it's about power(Most women are absolutely un-used to having men deny them sex when the gal wants it...and have no idea how to deal with it when they get turned down).
Sometimes it's because I want to keep things on a service only level for a period, remove anything but the purity of her servitude from the equation.
And sometimes it's because the bitch wants it so bad and begs so well, I just can't help myself but laugh in her face and watching the slut grovel and suffer

THank For this Post. I am not a sub by nature. I knew nothing about the lifestyle before my Master. I am an ALpha woman in my home and really am used to getting my way. He was stronger then me and I found this mega attractive. I have only begged him once for sex and I look back on that and think EWWWWWWW. Not very attractive. My Master is very much into power. He does it for me so I have accepted, instead of complaining I am accepting cause I plain dont want to give him up.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:12:07 PM

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And....wait....aren't you married?

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:17:33 PM

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And....wait....aren't you married?

Yes I am married, Ive been honest about that. I have two young kids and my husband is aware of everything. Its a marriage of convenience to keep the family together. We have discussed divorce but doesnt want it and I want the help. So if we can make it work we will. He speaks to my DOm also.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:28:06 PM

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Oh man, throw out the bait and watch the sharks feed.

*Yawn*

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:30:39 PM

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You're married to someone else and agreeing to do a bank account with this douche? What in the world does your husband think about this?

Oy!

Sounds like everyone's well aware of the sh*tpile y'all are headed toward, so enjoy your sh*tpile, y'all.

That is all.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:30:48 PM

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Ahh, the married chick is now collared. Well, I know I have been laying up nights wondering how this was all going to turn out, so thanks OP! Now I can finally get some sleep.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:31:47 PM

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This is not sufficiently entertaining. -1 for retread.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:32:03 PM

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BORING !!!

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:32:46 PM

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Well good luck with all that. I still can't help feeling like I am looking at brainwashing in action though.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:34:06 PM

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OK, the weird relationship with your husband isn't all that big a deal, but you have young kids too, and you are doing this? My, what a healthy environment in which to raise children. Good to know you are such a dedicated mother.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

And....wait....aren't you married?

Yes I am married, Ive been honest about that. I have two young kids and my husband is aware of everything. Its a marriage of convenience to keep the family together. We have discussed divorce but doesnt want it and I want the help. So if we can make it work we will. He speaks to my DOm also.

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The Cat: Oh, you can't help that. We're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.
Alice: How do you know I'm mad?
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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:35:09 PM

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I would agree, but throwing in the two young children is a nice touch, don't you think?

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This is not sufficiently entertaining. -1 for retread.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:40:19 PM

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I would agree, but throwing in the two young children is a nice touch, don't you think?

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This is not sufficiently entertaining. -1 for retread.

I see it as late-in-the-game shock value. Meh.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:42:42 PM

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He has never shown any interest in pleasing me, it has always been him. He has never even seen me naked. When I visit he likes for me to kneel and please him, I only stay a brief time (an hour or hour and a half) then he tells me to leave after I do some house work for him. At the beginning of our relationship I told him I wanted sex, but he ignorred those requests and told me to go out and compare. I was so furious I did and guess what I came back, even though he has never pleased me sexually or touched me sexually ever. Not even a kiss. During this time I had not submitted and decided I wanted to be his slave. Outside of our visits he keeps in contact me everyday and is concerned about my life. He tells me he is steaked in our relationship.

For those that aren't aware of the original thread.

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RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex - 2/20/2012 4:45:10 PM

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Was not looking for validation.
I know when I was younger I made the mistake of saying "I would never do that" "why would someone do that"
Only to find myself doing exactly the things I said I would never do. In example how I raise my kids.
If someone told me over 2 yrs ago my life would be on this journey I would have said " uh huh, Oh yah sure, crazy person" lol.
As life goes forward sometimes adapting and making changes is necessary. Life isnt always as we envision. My kids can keep their mother and father in the same home and their stability and I can get the mental stimualtion I need from my master, and the security given to me by my husband.
Its a work in progress, definitely wouldnt work for everyone.

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