LadyConstanze
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Why is this a bad phrase? Really? On the "A mature submissive" thread it came up, and people are offended. I never have been. Here's my response: quote:
I never did understand why people don't like the term "gift of submission"... It *is* a gift I give someone... just like they gift me their dominance. It's a reciprocal thing. I *like* the idea that my submitting is seen as a choice, as something I choose to hand over. I'm damn sure no one is going to wrest it from me without a gun involved - and even then I'm gonna be looking for a way out of that mess! I'm damn sure there are people who don't dominate the fricking world and that it is a special thing shared only amongst a certain few. I choose to give my time, energy, money to certain causes, people, beliefs. My time, energy, and money have worth. To me this is a gift. What gives, peeps? sunshine I seriously dislike the phrase because almost every guy with a laundry list of what he wants me to do to him (for my pleasure of course, I just need to work my way through his list) tells me that he does want to give me "the gift of his submission". quote:
I choose to give my time, energy, money to certain causes, people, beliefs. My time, energy, and money have worth. To me this is a gift. What gives, peeps? It's a gift if there are no strings attached, you get nothing back. If it is submission you get dominance back, I don't see dominance as a gift, it's a sexual preference like submission, you share it with somebody but "gift" just smacks too much of hearts, ribbons, cutesey little flowers, so personally I don't really like the term, it seems pretentious. The time, energy and money for a charity or where you get nothing back, that's a real gift, relationships aren't charity causes, people tend to be in relationships because it fulfills a need in themselves and makes them happy.
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