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ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ
(not rinsers here, not talking about rinsers.)

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ORIGINAL: ARIES83

Like bartering! Hmm...
I don't think I have any clothes that would
fit CoCo.

-ARIES

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

There are men who want to give a woman all their money as their fetish.
There are women who take it as their fetish.

So yeah, it's legitimate.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

I find it interesting that on a site that specifically asks it's members to be open minded and understand the different kinks and perspectives of all members, there does seem to be a lot of hatred for fin doms.

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For me, the gifts and tributes I receive are very much integral to the worship and control I seek from subs. I do not want to bankrupt anyone and nor do I want to take money from someone who may not trust me. I do not want to be 'paid' for the play that I enjoy. To me it is as much part of the play as the humiliation or punishment that a enjoy subjecting my subs to.

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ORIGINAL: Kaiel

Roch good thread, love!

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I don't consider Myself a fin-Domme by any means, however, it is apart of our household dynamic. I do have control over all our household finances. My hubby-sub is the primary breadwinner- although I work and am a professional in My field. his field simply allows him to yield 10x's the money I make. That being said, he has to ask permission to spend $ over a certain dollar amount. In the past, with other (now released slaves) I controlled their finances and they willingly submitted to the financial domination. For Me, it wasn't about the money, it's all about the control.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: Kaiel
I don't consider Myself a fin-Domme by any means, however, it is apart of our household dynamic. I do have control over all our household finances. My hubby-sub is the primary breadwinner- although I work and am a professional in My field. his field simply allows him to yield 10x's the money I make. That being said, he has to ask permission to spend $ over a certain dollar amount. In the past, with other (now released slaves) I controlled their finances and they willingly submitted to the financial domination. For Me, it wasn't about the money, it's all about the control. Actually, the majority of the money was returned to them upon their release.

And i don't consider that fin-Domme at all. When you're talking about actual relationships then the question of money handling is an issue that all relationships face... vanilla and otherwise. Heck, I control the finances in my marriage and I just think of it as "M/s" not "fin-Dom". For me, I attach the term "fin-Domme" to an online or long distance relationship where really the subs are sending money and that is the essence of the relationship.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Are you really sure that you want to stick with that? Is that really how you see it?

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ORIGINAL: KYsissy

To me, financial domination outside the context of a relationship is akin to the "masters" who use Ds to find blowjob delivery systems.

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I am sure the same level of snark would be directed at a male who was clearly after bjs on tap.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9


I find it interesting that on a site that specifically asks it's members to be open minded and understand the different kinks and perspectives of all members, there does seem to be a lot of hatred for fin doms. I can understand the hatred from subs who may have been scammed by fakes or scammers, but we are not all the same!

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I'm fed up with subs that come to me and throw me $20-$50 to show me they're serious and then they disappear after a few weeks.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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I'm fed up with subs that come to me and throw me $20-$50 to show me they're serious and then they disappear after a few weeks.

She has a problem retaining subs. What's entertaining is that she doesn't seem to grasp that whole adage "If you meet 10 people and you think they're all assholes.....you're the one that is the asshole".

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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I'm fed up with subs that come to me and throw me $20-$50 to show me they're serious and then they disappear after a few weeks.

She has a problem retaining subs. What's entertaining is that she doesn't seem to grasp that whole adage "If you meet 10 people and you think they're all assholes.....you're the one that is the asshole".

The financial Dommes have to understand that they're effectively operating as a business. As with any business, getting a customer to try your product/service is easy. It's getting them to return that's hard. The business has to provide a quality product or service in order to get repeat customers. This financial Domme doesn't seem like she's doing that.

Of course, I don't know her, so I'm just speculating.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

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ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ
(not rinsers here, not talking about rinsers.)

'Rinsers'? Not familiar with that term, definition please PrincessJ?

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

He he - sounds a bit like a three year old - whine whine whine and then wonder why no-one wants to be around her. and OP - this type of behaviour is why findoms get a bad rap on this board.... just from what Oside quoted would put me off them as being money grubber, can't-handle-their-own-lives, why would i want to give my money to her people. And yes, its a gross generalisation to extrapolate all that from one person, but a lot of people judge a group by the actions of one person.

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

He he - sounds a bit like a three year old - whine whine whine and then wonder why no-one wants to be around her. and OP - this type of behaviour is why findoms get a bad rap on this board.... just from what Oside quoted would put me off them as being money grubber, can't-handle-their-own-lives, why would i want to give my money to her people. And yes, its a gross generalisation to extrapolate all that from one person, but a lot of people judge a group by the actions of one person.

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Most of my clothes were destroyed [*yay, naked domme*], no not quite. Some of my favorite items, and my favorite bra that cost me $38 were destroyed by my boyfriend's dogs. We've been trying to find a sub loyal enough to fence in our back yard, creating a sanctuary for them. Every time we leave the house, we currently have to lock the dogs in the basement. Cruel, I know. But they got back at us. The one evening we went away, we came home to find that the dogs had broken down the basement door and went on a rampage through the house. Garbage was everywhere, they pissed and shit all over the house and almost everything I had down in my room was eaten, broken, or soiled....

My relationship is almost over. We're at a point where we're breaking up twice a month. It hurts me because this is the second longest relationship I've ever had. Our problem is that he wants a girlfriend with sub-like tendancies - he wants me to clean up after him and blah blah blah. It's when I refuse that he gets pissed off, abusive, and kicks me out. We get back together because I have nowhere else to go. That's why I'm going to kick myself into over-drive with my cam site and my domination, so I can start saving up to get my own place. Hopefully some of you loyal subs can help out with that.