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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/11/2012 8:20:48 AM

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when married to my ex i would probably have done the opposite if he suggested anything. with master its very different if he wanted me to loose weight i would also i have a tatoo he asked me to have one done but if i had said i was uncertain he would have taken thsi into account and maybe started with a temp one. luckily he doesn't like piercings so wouldn't tell me to do this. i do shave for him also he likes my hiar long but as i do to this is not an issue same with hair dye. i dress as he likes me to, would i have plastic surgery again that woudl depend but is a mote point as he has no wish to alter the natural. so yes i would but our limits are almost the same

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/11/2012 9:53:37 AM

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I would do anything He asks. We have been together for years and He has made me His wife, as well as His girl. I know that he has physical preferences, and when we met, I didn't fulfill all of them (primarily my hair length...He likes short hair. I had hair down to the middle of my back). I cut my hair about two months after we met. I have stayed within the weight boundary from the day one. Of course, I was already physically attractive to Sir when we first met. He is just tweaking it a little.

Hair was not a deal breaker for either of us. It had and continues to have much more to do with who we are as people (personality, intelligence, humor, creativity, etc.). But, it is also very important to me (as His sub) to be physically attractive to him. So, I stay within the weight boundarys that he has given me. I cut and dye my hair. I would get plastic surgery (although, He thinks its really stupid and He already thinks my breasts are perfect

). I would gladly get some type of mark (tattoo or brand that identified me as His).

My body is just the attractive wrapping which contains me, which is what Sir really desires...

I guess I am surprised by how offended some are that their Dominant might want to tweak her/him to be more to their visual liking.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/11/2012 12:56:58 PM

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I would do whatever my Daddy Dom would want me to do. I have a thing for body modification myself so it would just be a plus. I would trust my Daddy's judgement in such matters. He wouldn't be my Dom if I could not have complete trust in him.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/11/2012 7:13:39 PM

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I would never allow my hair color to be changed. It's one of the very few things I kind of like about myself, even if it is a dark blonde. It's shallow, and to many people insignificant, but if anyone even uttered a contemplation of having me dye my hair any color, I would be out of there. (I don't approve of hair dye in general. Personal preference, I prefer the natural color.)

Length is negotiable, I generally give whomever I am with at the time a heads-up that i'm going to cut it, and ask if the length I am thinking is acceptable to their tastes.

I would never do tattoos or piercings either. I don't approve of tattoos, and I had so much trouble with my ear piercings (just my lobes!) over the years that I am NOT going through that on any other body part.

Surgery - only for health reasons. For weight, I'd rather have guidance on losing it naturally the best I can. Cosmetically - guess what? I don't approve of it. I can see getting a weight loss surgery to improve health. Reducing breast size (though mine aren't troublesome enough for that), or whathaveyou. Something like a nose job? Hell no. I have a big schnoz. I'm over it, you should be too.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 3:33:08 AM

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I would never allow my hair color to be changed. It's one of the very few things I kind of like about myself, even if it is a dark blonde. It's shallow, and to many people insignificant, but if anyone even uttered a contemplation of having me dye my hair any color, I would be out of there. (I don't approve of hair dye in general. Personal preference, I prefer the natural color.)

I don't actually have any particular preference or thing for a woman's hair colour - beyond that natural redheads are HOT, though not that I've ever dated one (dammit).

My recent experience is that I'm hitting too many brick walls with just wanting a sub to have long(er) hair. Colour, style etc is something I'm generally happy for the girl to know best - except that I don't much care for the addition of artificial curls or frizziness etc on the longer bits. If it happens to grow dead straight naturally, perfect as is....

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 3:44:58 AM

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I guess I am surprised by how offended some are that their Dominant might want to tweak her/him to be more to their visual liking.

Tell me about it - I've got gravel rash on my chin...!

Most adult women DO KNOW that we men are visual creatures; we like to look - presumably why too many women are conscious of their own perceived imperfections.

But as soon as a "tweak" is mentioned, D/s goes all vanilla again.... IE, Dom makes all the choices, except the ones sub doesn't like.

Speaking of looking, kudos on the world class rack.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 6:52:49 AM

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Thanks, Focus.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 7:40:25 AM

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I'm finding the arguments about this more than a bit childish, since whether or not someone wants to permanently modify a person, or is willing to have their body permanently modified, is certainly a matter of personal choice. I don't see it as equating to their level of dominance or submission.

I find that idea quite humorous.

Himself gets to change whatever he wants about me. Thankfully, he's not interested in tattoos, piercings, or surgery of any kind, since I'm not interested in that, either. I believe this is what some call compatibility. He's also not interested in having me gain weight or wearing excessively high heels (not healthy). Personally, I hate that my heels languish in my closet, but he's right about the heels. They have to be reserved for special occasion only.

So what does that leave him: hair color and style (including length), make-up or not, nails, clothing style, both everyday and special occasion wear. He likes to have input on my basic "look." I wouldn't dream of making major changes in hair color or style w/o consulting him. For everyday I wear pink nail polish on fingers, I can do what I want with my toes. Clothes I pretty much have free rein for every day, but he knows I understand what he likes to see me in, and that's what I wear. Also, I tend to go for comfort, and he's good with that. My everyday make-up is so light, it hardly factors into the conversation.

If we're going out, he's far more likely to have input as to how I look. I don't have to worry about his approval, he admires my ability to do hair and make up and pull an outfit together. I tend to go for the sexy elegant look, which is (normally) what he likes.

If I'm in a mood I would consult him before deciding on a slutty look. To me that is a low cut top, short skirt, tall heels, exaggerated make up, big hair, red nails.

I might be in the mood for that, he may not, or vice versa.

Although I understand not being willing to undergo surgery or get a tattoo or something else permanent, I must say I am surprised by those who are unwilling to make temporary changes for the male dom in their life. I'm not saying it's not your right, but I do find it interesting.

To me it seems like a basic to want the man in my life to like my everyday look and how I present myself in public. Of course he should like who I am, but if I can use a hair style or a make-up product or a dress he likes to improve on what nature gave me, why wouldn't I do that?

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 10:34:17 AM

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 2:21:29 PM

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I'm finding the arguments about this more than a bit childish, since whether or not someone wants to permanently modify a person, or is willing to have their body permanently modified, is certainly a matter of personal choice. I don't see it as equating to their level of dominance or submission.

I find that idea quite humorous.

Is it not reasonable to also interpret this statement as meaning you find it childish or humourous of anyone to have a differing opinion to you? Not that I think you do, btw, but still....

I did make the very connection you're scornful of (admittedly more out of frustration than logic) because I found it childish (or maybe gobsmackingly astonishing) that grown women (with short hair) would connect my not liking of short hair with not liking or approving of them as a person, period...!

Beyond that, the rest of your post pretty much makes you my ideal "perfect" sub. ;) I don't micro-manage in general but I do expect my girl to be able to balance between being my property/ subordinate/eye candy etc with being a mature, independent adult in her own right. That's how my previous D/s relationships worked - sometimes I choose how she looks/dresses and most times she's learnt what I do/don't like but with her own "wriggle room" of how she makes that work in with her everyday.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 4:54:44 PM

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I agree with this sentiment, Dusky. Looks are all well and good, but I'd much rather be a less horrible person on the inside first. :)

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 7:29:54 PM

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

A bit "cart before the horse", no? I mean, don't most relationships begin with a spot of personal/mutual attraction? Obviously the Internet can be an exception - and I'm done with starting there....

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 7:48:51 PM

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Shouldn't the mutual attraction already exist in this scenario?

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/12/2012 8:41:39 PM

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I would be happy to make any non-permanent, and maybe a few permanent, changes he wanted, health issues being the only caveat. Being changed into something I'm not, like a bimbo or doll; not so willing there. If he wanted a bimbo or doll, he wouldn't be attracted to me in the first place.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/13/2012 12:18:01 AM

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

I am only willing to date women who are able to do more than one thing at a time. Getting a haircut should not prevent her from also finishing her dissertation or teaching me how to speak Japanese. All those things make me love her even more, which I would hope improves her own confidence and comfort. I know having her love me, and help me dress well, and supporting me in my personal development, all make me a better person.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/13/2012 6:06:49 AM

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

I am only willing to date women who are able to do more than one thing at a time. Getting a haircut should not prevent her from also finishing her dissertation or teaching me how to speak Japanese. All those things make me love her even more, which I would hope improves her own confidence and comfort. I know having her love me, and help me dress well, and supporting me in my personal development, all make me a better person.

Ah, on this we are in alignment.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/13/2012 6:16:36 AM

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

A bit "cart before the horse", no? I mean, don't most relationships begin with a spot of personal/mutual attraction? Obviously the Internet can be an exception - and I'm done with starting there....

Focus.

Perhaps, and that being the case, I should better have explained myself. I do not mean to minimize the value, nor exclude the possibility, of gladly altering my outer shell to be more pleasing to another's eye or pride. To me, though, its takes second place, as it speaks only to the corporeal and the temporary. It is the inner work of growth, understanding, learning, loving and healing I desire most, and that is the currency that holds greater value for me.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/13/2012 6:19:53 AM

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I agree with this sentiment, Dusky. Looks are all well and good, but I'd much rather be a less horrible person on the inside first. :)

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Personally, I would much rather my future Dom be more interested in changing and improving me on my insides, making me better than I already am. To me, THAT is exciting and something to look forward to.

Exactly, BB. Pretty is as pretty does, and some of the prettiest are capable of the ugliest things. Pretty and good on the inside would be like winning the lottery, but for me the former is not necessary, while the latter is non-negotiable.

I have been, and will always be, more attracted to the inner good in another first, both out of the gate and over the finish line. That's just how I was made. Pretty I can easily live without. Goodness I cannot.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/13/2012 6:31:14 AM

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I started losing weight because my previous M wanted me to. I don't think gaining 40 lbs would be healthy for me at all, but it's hard to say what I would or would not do if this came up.
As far as my hair goes, I would hopefully meet someone who didn't want me to go back to obliterating it with chemicals to make it straight. I have no desire to represent that hideous process anymore. Again, difficult to say, though, what I would do if it came up.
My previous M liked my unaltered hair.

The only thing that set off anxiety bells for me was when he wanted to shave my head. I was "forcibly separated" from my hair after an accident with contaminated water that caused it to mat up, and it had to be cut off in horrible stages. I got made fun of so much that I had to have counseling sessions. Kids are FUCKING mean and so now I have this little edgy anxiety about it.
But I never said an out-and-out "no," it was an "omigosh that scares me, help me work on it," instead.

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RE: How far would you be willing to go... - 10/13/2012 2:00:41 PM

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Shouldn't the mutual attraction already exist in this scenario?

Welllll, no. Dusky did say "future Dom" and that's the context I answered within.

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