LadyHugs
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Dear artglfr, Ladies and Gentlemen; In the art of teasing, it does come to be, that some individuals are not able to take teasing as well as giving. Some can tease back and forth and all have a lovely time of it. If there were several highly respected dominants included into the teasing, the social clique and such is rather powerful, as people desire to be accepted and often do things that they aren't ready to do and makes it a sour experience. Afraid to say no or self imposed attitude towards it all, then perhaps asking a dominant to advocate for her and or him is wise. Since text posts lack the ability to show the glimmer of the teasing twinkles in your eyes and the giggles and grins of others, it can be understood that it could have been taken so many ways. As far as I know, the change of status of a Dominant/slave, such as from unattached to attached is often posted as an announcement. But, there is no absolute rule that it must be done. However, if I was under the same circumstances, where a submissive and or slave has a protector, mentor, dominant, trainer, etc., I would approach the person designated as the protector and talk about the situation and what caused this sudden need to be protected. Perhaps, it was coincidental timing, to which a relationship was budding in a discreet manner that the tease of a group of dominants moved the dominant that the relationship was forming, into action--being how suddenly popular he/she was. I would wonder if you (in most general of terms), would be curious as to know why there was the sudden appearance of a protector. I certainly would be curious. The reason why, is that if I teased someone as to frighten them, I would want to be the first to apologize. I would also want to learn how the person came to be, so intimidated by teasing or such, as to communicate the boundary to which you and or the group operate in. My personal desire is to make it so that the person that I frightened or such, to be given a measure of comfort that they are indeed worth concern and respect; as well as given the tools to cope with any future incidents that might cause a 'knee jerk' reaction. I am sure that you are a kind sort, to which hopes that all that come past your sight, knows that you really care and love to share the joy, the fun and humor of the lifestyle. Perhaps that needs to be said to those involved, as they were unable to see it and, perhaps a bit hurt that others saw you as a threat, as it is against your nature. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs
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