irishbynature
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I was told it was to keep others from "attempting" to play with me. So the hostess decided that rather than deal with people who were rude or pushy she would slap a 1/2 wide piece of leather on you and that was more effective than making a safe space? I still do not understand how people get from "we have jerks (jerks being the operative word) who will drag/coerce/seduce people into doing things they don't want to do" but then expect those same jerks to instantly be cowed by the presence of a 1/2 peice of leather. I am curious Irish, have you since been to parties without a collar and how did your experience vary? How many play parties have you been to? I come at this as someone who has owned playspaces and run groups that threw parties. To me, I would rather deal with the behavior of the "jerks" and create a culture of respect rather than leave them be and create some sort of safe symbol that leaves those who don't have it unsafe. Interesting viewpoint you Crappydom. This was the protocol due to the fact the event would have 100 plus attending and unfortunately, some Doms ("some") have no boundaries and will engage in less than honorable behavior. I can only imagine that due to the large gathering, the Host/Hostess were going to have their hands full. Also, I mentioned in my post that I decided not to attend this party. I actually liked the idea of being offered. Personally, I didn't know a soul and was a bit leary and that was the motivation of those who invited me. I saw it as a kind gesture. If I had known more in the group...and gone to the event, (and felt comfortable)...I wouldn't have worn it even if it was offered. I can stand on my own two feet when it comes to "jerks" (Smiles) Again, it was the offer and gesture that was considerate. Respectfully, Irish
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