SacredDepravity
Posts: 270
Joined: 8/6/2012 Status: offline
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Let's see if I can be a bit more clear than I was last night. This is what I see: 1. A highly solidified normed standard group by which all other opinions and perspectives are measured. I fall outside these normed standards all the time. One of the reasons I took a nearly three year walk away. Do not attack the ivory towers. This doesn't work for me at all. 2. A mob attack mentality more often used rather than reasoned discussion whether the poster being attacked is troll, dumbass, or sincere (whether misguided or not). Crap! I would be scared to death to post something like asking input on my profile or opinions on a tough situation. Can't people learn, grow, screw up, or even be human anymore? Are we as a CM community really that jaded? And, yes, I have been guilty myself and have tried to refrain from such behavior once I saw the light. 3. People not willing to give away the "keys to the kingdom" lest that information be used unscrupulously. I figure I have been at least passable as not a dumbass, yet I posted a breast nailing basics thread at least a month ago that sits with six posts, three of them I think mine. This happens to a lot of posters, new and regulars, and leaves you asking what the point is. Best just go over to Fet, join the appropriate group, and ask there. I have heard many talk of not wanting to put the "mojo" in the wrong hands. While I applaude the intent, the result is that interesting and more advanced discussion happens in private rather than out on the forums, if at all. You want better quality of discussions, then we are all going to have to make a basic assumption that we are all grown ups here and responsible for the consequences of our own actions. We don't get to blame anybody when we mess up the program even based off of someone's internet postings. 4. We can't seem to be different without being decisive. Have any clue how hard it is to keep a sub vs slave thread from devolving into chaos? I do. It ain't easy, sweethearts. Most wind up in warring factions of it's just a label, choice, limits, Goreans, natural, mutual agreement, ad infinitum. And that's just one really good discussion that I don't even entertain here anymore. There are many, many others that are good for fleshing out exactly what we think, what we believe, and who we are that I miss being able to discuss and enjoy the variance of opinions rather than feel like I am having to referee a bar fight. 5. If we wanted to use google or search, we'd just do it. If I ask some same old thing, I am hoping for new injections of perspective, experience, etc or to explore a specific aspect that interests me in particular. 6. Is it okay to even ask? Again, I wasn't born knowing how to walk or talk. I may have been born with a personality that leads me to be here, but that doesn't mean I don't have to learn how to do things safely, correctly, or whatever. If this isn't a safe place to ask, then where is? 7. I am so tired of teaching and preaching. I am here to have fun and hopefully lend a hand occasionally, but I'm not bashing my head against a wall for anybody. I leave a thread or don't answer one because there is nothing constructive I can say. Seriously, if it is wank or troll fodder, I'd like it if the mods would just clear the damn bridge. If it is a dumbass, I will try once or twice to get through then I am done. If it is a true, sincere question, I will be there as long as I am able. 8. Just because a poster calls another on their bullshit or doesn't conform to the normed standard, does not mean that they need to be moderated or banned. That's what the hell a discussion forum is for. Lack of civility, mob attacks, etc. Go ahead and moderate away. Legitimate beefs and odd or outside the norm perspectives and subject matter needs to be left alone. 9. Posts of live and let live tone are pointless. If you don't have a position, then why post? Actual perspective, opinions, experiences, and expertise move discussion forward and create quality. Apathy is a conversation killer. 10. I am not getting enough cookies. More cookies for me, happier message boards for all. I pwomise! SD
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