SacredDepravity
Posts: 270
Joined: 8/6/2012 Status: offline
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Well, in a different form, I've been here for at least six years. I came in very new, not necessarily clueless, but a little less than ready for the real world of bdsm. I found just about anything discussed to be fascinating and informative on any number of subjects. I asked questions and, as I gained experience and confidence, I started answering questions. I started talking to people offline from the boards and eventually met with them in real life, developed friendships, and more. I also found that the deeper in I went, the weirder the waters got. I found the weirder things got, the less I felt at home. It was a mixed bag back in the day (like two-ish years ago). I had my own issues and found some foilables in others. Some of the best and worst I found here was my own creation. Now, as I have returned recently, there's a lot of other water under the bridge. A great many things have change and one of the biggest of those has been me. I have been too far, seen too much, experienced things. I have to look through all of this with that set of lenses now and I have to say that I have come to feel like there is so much bs, fantasy, and something bordering on mental illness in a lot of the new stuff being discussed. It isn't that it wasn't always there, but I see things less as interesting and more as real or not. Is this concretely possible and appropriate in the real world? Most is not. Some are but must be handled with much care. Other things are real enough that I don't even think of these things in terms of bdsm anymore. They just are. Long story short, I don't think it is a matter of decline. I think most of it is a matter of a shift in personal circumstances and perspective. I don't participate like I did back in the day. I just can't go through the same subjects over and over again. I can't see the dysfunction and stay silent or parse out unheeded advice. I can't be bothered to pat anyone on the head, feed cookies, or seduce trolls. If I feel like offering then I do. If not, then I am not going to take time out of what I am doing to rehash, argue, or bash my head up against a wall. I think we get a lot of the beginner stuff without a whole lot of deeper, more experience questions. My issue lately has been with new people coming with legitimate and respectful questions and having their their threads turn into shouting matches of regular, but dissenting posters, or regulars ganging up on troll posters to the exclusion of actually helping these people with their questions. But heck, what do I know? My profile says I've only been around six months. SD
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