LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven There is a monthly party called Scarlet Moons. It's primarily for spanking. Tasha and I love going there and playing with each other there, and with others. I have been mentoring for a program called the Colorado Mentors Program. Recently, the program came under fire for having a mentor who was accused of rape by at least five women in the community. Obviously, mentors should have good reputations, and his was crap. Although he is no longer with the program, the way the leadership responded has pissed off a major chunk of the community and inflamed feelings. This guy, who I'll call B, has been attending Scarlet Moons for a couple of years. He doesn't play much, but he comes to socialize, sell his implements there, and show off his harem, which currently consists of two or three lovelies but has been as many as five or six in the past. I have seen him bring women into his harem there, and he can do it very quickly - he's damn good. He is a good friend of the woman, D, who runs Scarlet Moons. She sent out an email saying that he is her friend, and will continue to be a guest there, and anyone who cannot deal with that and keep drama out of the party is not welcome. Naturally, there are some in the community that claim that she is "harboring" B and that party attendees are "supporting" an accused rapist. I have no problems with ignoring that - I attend where I want. My issue is that Fetlife shows party attendees ahead of time. I could easily pick off the attendees-to-be that he would be interested in, open up conversations with them, and warn them of B. I want to head off any possible issues for them. If I do this, word will get out, and I will be made a central figure in a shitstorm. Tasha and I will also get banned from the parties. Since we're well known and liked there, it will cause the community to implode further. Any thoughts or suggestions? Before reading the ongoing debate that I am sure this thread created I am going to give my opinion of the OP. I wouldn't attend, period. And, I would be very fucking vocal to others as to exactly why I would not attend. I won't be supportive of people or organizations that support activities I view as illegal, wrong, immoral, etc.. I also wouldn't want to count among my friends anyone that would. To ME, it's a wussy play Steven. That whole, "well I really want to do XYZ and I really want to hang out with other people who love to do XYZ so I can do XYZ.so I am going to create whatever line of bullshit I can sell myself to make my support of this group okay to my own moral compass....etc etc etc." It's lame at best. Either you own up to supporting this guys alleged behaviour so you can keep getting your groove on, or you take a higher road. Edited to add...I realize my first bit was a bit harsh. I'm looking at the situation through some rather clouded glasses. I've seen too many similar situations where there were people that selfishly 'minded their own business'. Citing various reasons but when they were all stripped away, at the core it was selfishness..........even on my part. And people got hurt that didn't have to.
< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 5/5/2013 11:23:53 AM >
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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