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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 7:30:48 AM

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So in your short time here, you have concluded there is no market?

Hate to break it to you slick, but there is a market for it. It may not be your thing, but if it didn't work, and nobody wanted it, they wouldn't continue to be here. Of course the fact that we actually have some legitimate findommes here, who aren't little girls looking for a free ride in life also proves your statement false.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 7:43:53 AM

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people just start sending them stuff. I highly doubt anyone actually does.

I get send stuff all the time, and I'm not even trying to find fin subs.

It's been months since I last contacted anybody I didn't already knew from the forums first.

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If you read their profiles they're all about "no time wasters" "send tribute first" "doesn't anyone want to spoil this beautiful woman".

Nope, it doesn't say that at all.

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ORIGINAL: mymymouth
When is the last time anyone who actually enjoyed sending money and gifts to "Findoms" ever showed themselves and stood up for the kink?

Last week.

Check the threads I linked to.

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I don't really have any problem with them being there either, live and let live, except that in the short time that I've been on this site I've hidden hundreds of profiles. Most people don't care how much time they waste of others.

That's funny, because I only even bring up financial domination with people who are setting out to waste MY time from the get go.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 7:50:43 AM

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Except for some of the "findomme" profiles being hilariously entertaining, I really don't care what other people do. It doesn't affect me in any way.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 7:53:03 AM

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This is a reminder that insulting the kinks of others is against the guidelines of the forums.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 8:11:40 AM

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I really don't give findommes much of a thought. The only time I'm ever bothered by them is in two separate cases:

1. I'm pursuing a relationship with a dominant only to find out after some time that she's a financial domme, and only interested in that sort of thing but said everything else to get me interested in the first place.

2. When I read a profile and it's really long, and it isn't until the very last few words that she reveals she's a findomme.

If that's your thing, great. If you find people interested in paying for that sort of thing, great. It's just not my thing for the simple reason that I hate the concept of money and all of the evil that it creates. Therefore, a kink focusing on money would be as far away from interesting to me as it possibly could be.

Now, this is completely different from "tribute". I totally understand that concept and don't lump the two together.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 8:28:14 AM

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Like others have said get a clue. It's a kink in its own right. I'm not a findom but from time to time I receive gifts. Did I ask for Them? No I did not. It's not just men there are women who like it also. The thril I guess of someone else in control of their money or the fact they can be NSA with someone and still get a kick by sending them money or a gift. Whatever the thrill maybe for certain individuals there is a market whether you like it or not. There will always be bad eggs however but lets be honest here, you don't need to be a findom to be a bad egg. There a sub males on here just as bad.

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ORIGINAL: MistressEsmeUK
Findom is findom and its not for everyone but clearly there is a market for people who enjoy that kind of thing. Now you were referring to a pro Dom being a findom and they are not the same. Also I can honestly say no pro Dom I know works off a shopping list. I pro and I don't cater to the sub. I do what I want to do. So do many others I know. Maybe the ones you know work of a subs list but don't categorise us all in the same boat.

This is untrue, the proliferation of "Financial domination" is just due to nobody on this site doing anything about it. There are lots of weak, poor and financially pathetic people that don't want to get a job and so they come on collarme spend an hour creating a profile and hoping that people just start sending them stuff. I highly doubt anyone actually does. If you read their profiles they're all about "no time wasters" "send tribute first" "doesn't anyone want to spoil this beautiful woman".

It's spam. You guys act like it's a legitimate kink. When is the last time anyone who actually enjoyed sending money and gifts to "Findoms" ever showed themselves and stood up for the kink? It seems to me it's just outsiders standing up for it displaying that they are characterless and have no actual opinion. Or, it's women still trying to either keep the dream alive, or convince other men that oh yeah it's totally something that men do. So it's not so weird sending them money.

Why don't you instead of creating a separate forum to hide posts about this very apparently common topic, you address it.

I don't really have any problem with them being there either, live and let live, except that in the short time that I've been on this site I've hidden hundreds of profiles. Most people don't care how much time they waste of others.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 10:11:42 AM

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Heres a unique experiment.I don't use fake collarme profiles but for the heck of it,I created on as a "Female Domme",just to get an idea what Fem-Dommes have said about the endless emails from male subs.Within in 20 minutes,I had more emails,all from male subs,than I knew what to do with.I didn't type anything in any boards or go looking for profiles.I just wanted to see how quick the emails would pile up.

It is amazing the endless,insane letters a Fem-Domme can receive.I deleted that profile as I clearly have no use for that.But I did want to see firsthand,just what the Fem-Dommes have been saying.Alot of it is very true.Sure,I've had Fem-Dommes like my profile and send me messages before.But that's far and in between.I try to put myself and walk in another persons shows before becoming all judgemental about something that doesn't even effect me.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/19/2013 10:51:48 AM

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OP: oh I'd say the majority of complaints come from sub males.

MODS: the topic of fin dommes seems to be such an important one to the community, I think it merits its own section.

There was such a forum, but for some reason they decided to rename it. Not sure what was wrong with Random Stupidity, apart from the claim of randomness I mean.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/20/2013 6:34:08 PM

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I don't really think about them at all. They aren't anything i would consider as a need or want in my life.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/20/2013 10:29:53 PM

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I'm curious. I've seen a lot of Dommes who don't agree with FinDommes, but I've never seen or heard a subs' opinion on it. What do you think?

As others have said, it's pretty easy to find people's opinions on FinDommes around this place. It seems like it comes up a lot, although since there are a lot of profiles in that category, it's logical that there would be quite a bit of discussion on the message boards.

I'm pretty libertarian about the whole thing in that whatever consenting adults choose to do is what they choose to do.

My own opinion (since you're asking) is that FinDommes seem to be a dime a dozen on the profiles side. It's also primarily an online activity, something akin to "cybering," which I never really could get into myself. It's fine for people who like it, but I never could quite get the fascination behind it. But from what I've been able to gather from reading the profiles and many of the threads on the subject, there are a lot of men who are into it and actively seek it out, so I guess that's that.

Sub males are a dime a dozen, too, so I guess the plethora of FinDomme profiles might also say something about the male visitors to this site. As Charles mentioned in his experiment above, it seems that male subs are a rather crazy lot, sending out pervy e-mails to women over the internet. As I'm a male sub myself, I'm not too sure if I want to get lumped into that group.

I guess that's one thing that strikes me about the whole FinDomme thing, since every time I see a FinDomme profile, I get the impression that they must have a very low opinion of us (male subs). They seem to be so full of scorn and contempt towards the group which I tend to identify with (and for me, submissiveness is not something I asked for; it's been a curse on me all my life). I still keep my account open to post on the message boards, but I don't bother much with the profiles side anymore. My profile remains blank.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/20/2013 11:09:37 PM

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You are so remarkably clueless it's hard to know where to begin.

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Your ignorance shows. Paired with your arrogance, you're not very attractive right now.

So, what does this have to do with "What do subs think of FinDommes"?

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/20/2013 11:27:45 PM

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Not my thing of course. But I see no difference between most findommes on here and most of the girls I knew in high school who would get their boyfriends to give them stuff. Most of those girls are now waitresses or section 8 mothers and have no future because no one wants to give them stuff anymore. Just saying that in my experience (very limited) all I see is young girls abusing their looks to get guys to give them stuff.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 12:02:50 AM

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Do let me know if they work wont you?

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 1:20:45 AM

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and for me, submissiveness is not something I asked for; it's been a curse on me all my life

That's a sad way of referring to something which should be a beautiful thing for a man to experience...with the right D/s partner of course.
Just sayin'...

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 1:34:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: Charles6682

Heres a unique experiment.I don't use fake collarme profiles but for the heck of it,I created on as a "Female Domme",just to get an idea what Fem-Dommes have said about the endless emails from male subs.Within in 20 minutes,I had more emails,all from male subs,than I knew what to do with.I didn't type anything in any boards or go looking for profiles.I just wanted to see how quick the emails would pile up.

It is amazing the endless,insane letters a Fem-Domme can receive.I deleted that profile as I clearly have no use for that.But I did want to see firsthand,just what the Fem-Dommes have been saying.Alot of it is very true.Sure,I've had Fem-Dommes like my profile and send me messages before.But that's far and in between.I try to put myself and walk in another persons shows before becoming all judgemental about something that doesn't even effect me.

Thank you for that (and yes, that's what I experienced the first few minutes I created a profile, and it's been non-stop ever since). I think all males should try it out, not to participate, but as you did so they can see what things look like from the Fem-Domme perspective...it might make them realize what some of their letters look like to us. (most of you look CRAZY by the way)

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 6:22:03 AM

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and for me, submissiveness is not something I asked for; it's been a curse on me all my life

That's a sad way of referring to something which should be a beautiful thing for a man to experience...with the right D/s partner of course.
Just sayin'...

I agree, although I know what the score is around here. I'm convinced that it would have been much easier to find the right partner if I didn't have this certain proclivity. I've had it all my life, and I've had to grow up in society and conform to it nonetheless. I don't see it as "sad," but just the way life is. I've learned to accept it, adjust, and adapt.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 9:14:33 AM

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It's spam. You guys act like it's a legitimate kink. When is the last time anyone who actually enjoyed sending money and gifts to "Findoms" ever showed themselves and stood up for the kink? It seems to me it's just outsiders standing up for it displaying that they are characterless and have no actual opinion. Or, it's women still trying to either keep the dream alive, or convince other men that oh yeah it's totally something that men do. So it's not so weird sending them money.

You've just joined, so you may not be aware of the rules (which you should have read before posting on the forums). But you are bound by the same rules as everyone here, which includes not criticising the kinks of others. VA Rho (one of the moderators) stated clearly:

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A reminder that all posts are welcome as long as they don't violate TOS or the guidelines of the forums.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 11:55:54 AM

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I think asking about findomme is like asking what i think about kinks like nailing a girl's tits to the floor.
They are outlandish kinks to me, not my interest, so don't care, don't bother me, but full respect for people who receive joy in practicing it.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/21/2013 12:47:59 PM

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It's spam. You guys act like it's a legitimate kink.

I hate to burst your bubble, but it IS a legitimate kink. It's the law of supply and demand. If there weren't enough subs demanding the kink, there wouldn't be a supply of it. It may not be YOUR kink but, according to the TOS and forum guidelines, bashing other people's kinks is not okay. You joined less than a month ago, you should have read the TOS at that point and, also, read the forum guidelines before you started posting in the same. Ignorance is no excuse.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 5/23/2013 10:43:38 AM

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Honestly, I'm surprised they cause such a huge uproar.

They're not hurting me any. Even if I were searching for a Domme, not financial, their existence on this site still wouldn't bother me and I'd treat it no differently than someone who didn't fit into my physical preferences.

Totally agree, If you don't like what they're offering, don't knock on their door.

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