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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/12/2013 2:51:16 PM

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I think if a sub is handing his money to a stranger, he isn't doing it right. :( Unfortunately that's a lot of what's out there and I think subs who are wary of it have good cause.

I started doing financial domination after being a "pro-domme" to a few subs in RL for a while. If you do financial domination for the money, you're going to wind up disappointed and you're going to lose your subs very, very quickly - it's usually a one-off experience for subs who go to cam princesses. The money has to be seen as a symbol of power, not as income for the domme. I've heard dozens of horror stories from subs who have lost everything, even gone bankrupt, giving thousands of pounds to virtual strangers who flip them off and spit on them. That's a kink in itself maybe but not what I'd call findom. I also think it will be a disappointing experience unless it's used as just one part of the play. If you just say pay me and go away without any other relationship, play, training, you're basically a panhandler, not a findom.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/16/2013 1:39:27 PM

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It isn't empowering to get paid for sex, which is exactly what that is. How is money as a "symbol of power" something that makes any sense at all. Money changes hands when services are being bought and sold. If you are being given money it is because they are running the show. Being given their body and soul isn't apparently legitimate power enough for you? You need the symbol too huh, yea right.

How are you supposed to be dom if you are doing it for money?

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/16/2013 2:40:35 PM

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It isn't empowering to get paid for sex, which is exactly what that is. How is money as a "symbol of power" something that makes any sense at all. Money changes hands when services are being bought and sold. If you are being given money it is because they are running the show. Being given their body and soul isn't apparently legitimate power enough for you? You need the symbol too huh, yea right.

How are you supposed to be dom if you are doing it for money?

Fin-dommes don't normally have sex with their slaves/subs. They aren't prostitutes.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/16/2013 5:32:59 PM

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Most domme's I have talked to on here elect themselves as "findommes' " . My opinion on it is if the only enjoyment you get out of it is making money, why not get a real job?
Why should I "pay" someone to get the enjoyment when there are literally thousands out there willing to learn and enjoy it for free. It shouldn't be all about the dollar signs, If
it's something that is in you, part of what you are, you shouldn't have a need to get paid. Unless of course, that is something the sub WANTS to do for you freely.

there are a shit load of people out there who cook for free, does that mean you never go out to eat and pay someone else to cook for you? What about sports? Lots of people play ball for the fun of it, does that mean we should stop pro sports? And what makes you think the only enjoyment they get is from the cash? Have you ever met a pro domme or a fin domme? Why is it that people have no problems with paying others to do all kinds of shit for them, but when it comes to this suddenly it should be free?

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/18/2013 4:01:58 PM

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Generally I don't have a problem with Findommes.

However ...

I think it is a risk that an individual who is perhaps vulnerable could be placed in a position of being in financial difficulty. In an R/T session the Domme can keep an eye on how the sub is responding and adjust accordingly, but that isn't always possible when the relationship is by email, IM and Amazon(!)

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/18/2013 9:35:02 PM

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I think if a sub is handing his money to a stranger, he isn't doing it right. :( Unfortunately that's a lot of what's out there and I think subs who are wary of it have good cause.

I started doing financial domination after being a "pro-domme" to a few subs in RL for a while. If you do financial domination for the money, you're going to wind up disappointed and you're going to lose your subs very, very quickly - it's usually a one-off experience for subs who go to cam princesses. The money has to be seen as a symbol of power, not as income for the domme. I've heard dozens of horror stories from subs who have lost everything, even gone bankrupt, giving thousands of pounds to virtual strangers who flip them off and spit on them. That's a kink in itself maybe but not what I'd call findom. I also think it will be a disappointing experience unless it's used as just one part of the play. If you just say pay me and go away without any other relationship, play, training, you're basically a panhandler, not a findom.

I like this, especially the parts I bolded.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/24/2013 3:23:13 PM

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It is a legitimate kink
I don't request tributes as subs don't even know if I'm real. I have been on here under a month and had 3 cash pigs. But then this isn't my only kink, a manager day to day my colleagues have no idea what I get up too in my personal time.

Why would a sub need to stand up for it? For it to exist lol

Just a thought
Await abuse LOL

AND NO FIN DOMME IS SUPPOSED TO LEAVE A SUB HOMELESS OR BROKE DEFEATS THE PURPOSE.

CONTROL IS THE OBJECTIVE. NOT BLEEDING SOMEONE DRY

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It's spam. You guys act like it's a legitimate kink. When is the last time anyone who actually enjoyed sending money and gifts to "Findoms" ever showed themselves and stood up for the kink?

You are so remarkably clueless it's hard to know where to begin. I've dated a findomme. She once asked me, "RM1, would it be ok if we got a cuckold? Someone who would pay for all our dates, and then jack off when I told him about them?"

A platonic friend of mine tried findomme for a while and didn't like it. A big part of why she stopped was an experience she called me one night about, almost panicked, because she wasn't sure what to do. A guy had told her he was being evicted because he sent her his rent money. She blocked him. He made a new email address and sent her money again. She refused the payment and blocked him again. He did this a few more times, and she ended up calling me.

You really need to gain some experience in the world of kink. Your ignorance shows. Paired with your arrogance, you're not very attractive right now.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/24/2013 3:30:50 PM

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Have you been ripped off or something you sound bitter lol
I don't know ANY dommes who have slept with their sub. A gold digger sleeping with a footballer. Yeah heard of that lol Marrying for half. Heard of that lol sleeping with some cash pig. Ah no.

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ORIGINAL: mymymouth

It isn't empowering to get paid for sex, which is exactly what that is. How is money as a "symbol of power" something that makes any sense at all. Money changes hands when services are being bought and sold. If you are being given money it is because they are running the show. Being given their body and soul isn't apparently legitimate power enough for you? You need the symbol too huh, yea right.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/24/2013 3:32:34 PM

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Generally I don't have a problem with Findommes.

However ...

I think it is a risk that an individual who is perhaps vulnerable could be placed in a position of being in financial difficulty. In an R/T session the Domme can keep an eye on how the sub is responding and adjust accordingly, but that isn't always possible when the relationship is by email, IM and Amazon(!)

Completely agree

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/24/2013 3:40:03 PM

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Dangerous. These are subs who are grown men/women usually holding down a job
Some get carried away. Everyone has their own mind. Don't be so f**king ridiculous lol

Men control women's finances all the time I don't see any outrage because it's CONSENTUAL

THE SUB CHOOSES TO SERVE NO?

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Frankly, I don't care for the notion of findomming or cuckolding, they both seem very dangerous and degrading (in a non enjoyable manner), but obviously that doesn't mean others think the same way.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/24/2013 9:06:06 PM

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I doubt that many who are into the fetish will answer. If you're not into into it you're not going to get it. Asking why a sub would give a woman money is about as silly as asking why someone would want to get tied up and hit with a whip. These are not tings that the normal vanilla crowd is into. We are kinksters and everyone has their own kink.

I personally get turned on by the idea that a woman can have that kind of control of me online.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 3:53:52 AM

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Well, I happen to think they're great.
But of course, I'm biased...

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 4:58:13 AM

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I didn't sound even a little bit bitter English. You have been here one month you say, claim that you've had three "cash pigs" and yet don't ask for tributes and nobody knows if you are real. Yea, okay, sure.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 5:07:14 AM

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I didn't sound even a little bit bitter English. You have been here one month you say, claim that you've had three "cash pigs" and yet don't ask for tributes and nobody knows if you are real. Yea, okay, sure.

I don't ask for tributes up front. is what I meant.

And I am real. Offline I honestly wouldn't give you the time of day.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 6:22:12 AM

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I didn't sound even a little bit bitter English. You have been here one month you say, claim that you've had three "cash pigs" and yet don't ask for tributes and nobody knows if you are real. Yea, okay, sure.

Stick around and you will read many stories of women, including sub women, who do not have anything on their profile indicating an interest in play for pay yet often get solicited by random guys. For example, many women here have been contacted by the guy who offers $400 to have cigarettes put out on him.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 6:46:22 AM

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Well, I happen to think they're great.
But of course, I'm biased...

Holy shit! You're back! How have you been?

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 6:46:52 AM

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I didn't sound even a little bit bitter English. You have been here one month you say, claim that you've had three "cash pigs" and yet don't ask for tributes and nobody knows if you are real. Yea, okay, sure.

Stick around and you will read many stories of women, including sub women, who do not have anything on their profile indicating an interest in play for pay yet often get solicited by random guys. For example, many women here have been contacted by the guy who offers $400 to have cigarettes put out on him.

See Funny Messages from the "Other Side"

I offered to do this for FREE the other day, with a guy who was smoking too close to us. I even offered to burn all his furry body hair off with his own lighter (gently of course). His friends all laughed and thought it was a good idea, but he wouldn't go for it.
Gee whiz...so hard to find a match-in-interests these days.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 6:48:03 AM

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Well, I happen to think they're great.
But of course, I'm biased...

Holy shit! You're back! How have you been?

Hey honey! I've been awesome, thanks for asking. And you?

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 7:35:57 AM

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there are a shit load of people out there who cook for free, does that mean you never go out to eat and pay someone else to cook for you? What about sports? Lots of people play ball for the fun of it, does that mean we should stop pro sports? And what makes you think the only enjoyment they get is from the cash? Have you ever met a pro domme or a fin domme? Why is it that people have no problems with paying others to do all kinds of shit for them, but when it comes to this suddenly it should be free?

The only real issue I've seen here with findommes is that guys are shocked when they find they have to pay. They figure they're looking at a social website with personals, not pay for play. When you go to a restaurant you bring your wallet expecting to pay, but when you're invited to someone's home it's a bit of a shock when they want you to have the groceries delivered to them before they'll tell you where they live.

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RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? - 8/25/2013 7:58:06 AM

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Your analogy breaks down because people only invite their friends to their home for free. I've done yoga classes for strangers out of my home, but I bartered for massage or house cleaning.

I lived in a boarding house in the Berkshires for 4 months in the off season when food was not provided. There was a crew of guys who installed cell phone towers staying there too. They paid me to cook dinner for them. While I cook for free for my friends and family, since these guys did not pay in relationship coin, they paid in cash.

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