LafayetteLady
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Joined: 5/2/2007 From: Northern New Jersey Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: SirLogansSub thank u to focus and to TNDommeK. as for kana u r exactly the proof to me that a lot of men get into Dom lifestyle just so they can be controlling, abusive, dicks to women. not for the pleasure or the pleasure of pleasing each others fantasies. I was warned of this when I got into the lifestyle, that many men have no idea what and art form BDSM is and what a great responsibility it is to care for their subs and to keep them safe emotionally as well as physically. The subs should be held in high regard for choosing the lifestyle not abused in a negative way or used to get to other women. Thank u kana for helping me realize that i will have to be extra careful if ever taking on another Dom that He knows what a real Dom is supposed to act like and not choose another like Him or you, women haters You know, we get a ton of newbies and clueless people coming to the message boards and posting really upset about a failing relationship. You did not really come here asking for advice; you know what you need to do and just wanted to vent. You got some realistic replies asking for more info and then you got a snarky reply from one of the most respected guys on the boards. You act like a spoiled kid when you did not hear all touchy feely posts and you have NO clue about Kana; you should be so lucky to find a guy with such an innate understanding of D/s and more importantly, self aware, upfront and take no prisoners guy. He is not everyone's Dom cup of tea, but don't be dissing Kana, 'k? Next, as to your relationship; it sounds like it sucks. He doesn't listen, does not seem to care if you are happy so for that alone, why stay? You love him? Pfft. We all loved guys who were not fab to us and we all had to get through it. You have two choices: stay and be miserable or leave and be miserable in a better way until it gets better for real. I will second this. You know what they say, fuck 'em if they can't take a joke. You are new here, so you haven't a clue who Kana is, but let me assure you that in the ways he is a dick, his slave a quite a few years is ok with it. After all, she is not the one posting boo-hoos on a message board, is she? Since you haven't been with him your whole life, I'm not sure what the hell is has done his whole life that you can't handle, but I have to question if you knew this going in, why did you bother? Now your heart is all mixed up and you can't separate the chaffe from the wheat so to speak. As Red said, we have all been "hopelessly" in love with someone who wasn't right for us. But we made the hard decisions, as adults, to do what was best for us (even if for some of us, it took a really long time, me included). Love does NOT conquer everything. If, at 38, you are still living under that delusion, you need a therapist to help you, not a bunch of internet strangers.
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