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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 12/10/2013 1:08:46 AM

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But if a girl constantly enjoy topping from bottom, is she submissive or dominant?

Enjoy?

If she's honest about it, she's one very unhappy submissive....

Focus.

Totally agree. The brat always gets the rap but I believe many 'brats' are unfulfilled submissives.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 12/10/2013 3:24:59 AM

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Totally agree. The brat always gets the rap but I believe many 'brats' are unfulfilled submissives.

Amen, sister! Which suggests a whole lot of incompetent or poorly chosen partners.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 12/14/2013 6:22:26 AM

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I don't know if there are other dominant men here on the forums who enjoy being pegged. Personally, I am friends with a Dom who loves having his sub peg him. He figures he's in charge of the scene so he's still the dominant one. I tend to agree.

Carol and I have played with this on and off although we wouldn't have seen it as "pegging". I generally don't worry too much about my "dominance". It just isn't that fragile and when it is threatened it's typically by my own failures leading to a sense of "I'm not worthy of being followed" rather than some bit of oddball sex.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 8:01:46 AM

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 9:34:41 AM

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The amount of homophobia on this thread is unsettling.

When Alpha uses me as his dildo holder so he can pleasure himself with me, I can assure you there is not a damn thing about it that is submissive.

Or does he have to be submissive because he's a gay man (or, as one poster so kindly put it, a "fag"), and all gay men are submissive/feminine/lesser?

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 10:31:14 AM

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I doubt a male bum being rammed will ever feature on the cover of Straight Men quarterly.
No matter how you spin it.

If your a dominant man, and like being bum+dildo fucked that's totally a personal preference. But anyone who's going to act indignant because people might see it having gay or submissive connotations needs to wake up and smell coffee...

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 10:36:53 AM

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The amount of homophobia on this thread is unsettling.

When Alpha uses me as his dildo holder so he can pleasure himself with me, I can assure you there is not a damn thing about it that is submissive.

Or does he have to be submissive because he's a gay man (or, as one poster so kindly put it, a "fag"), and all gay men are submissive/feminine/lesser?

My answer, no.

But if my man asked me to do it as a female bottom- I'd have issues with it. It has nothing to do with homophobia, and I have dated, would date again, bisexuals.

Its that with a dildo in his ass, I have way too much control in that position for me to be comfortable with, as a submissive. Many of us stated that we dislike being on top during vaginal intercourse as well, for similar reasons. Even if he were ordering me to do it...the actual physical position is one of power to me. You're choosing the pace and depth of everything...thats why I dislike it.

But I suspect my initial response isn't really what you're referring to.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 10:47:18 AM

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I don't remember if I have posted on this thread or not, and am not going to read through every page to find out...
One more reason I don't like Necro.

Agreed. Some horny fuck is bringing these threads back today. Not adding a damn bit of content.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 10:54:50 AM

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Edit: I didn't realize this was a necro thread. Better to let it die.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/25/2014 12:44:17 PM

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I'm a traditionalist, meaning I believe in gender roles, I believe in a man taking control, being a leader, being on top, monogamy and all the other traditional stuff. For me that's my comfort level. If he didn't feel similar or it changed I would start wondering who the hell he was and where is the real Master.

I think this is the key to how many submissive women would feel about this.

Obviously not everyone's the same, there are no "rules", and there must be lots of couples happily switching in all sorts of ways. But I think in a maledom-femsub relationship, very often her feelings about him are wrapped with, and all of a piece with, fairly traditional ideas about what a man is and what a woman is. She wants him penetrating her, simple. And the missionary position can be as hot and sexy as anything. She wants not just to respect him, but specifically to respect him as a man.

If she feels like that, then anything that really seriously makes him seem less masculine is going to freak her out, in a bad way, and make her respect him less. I don't mean not liking sports or cars, or being willowy, or something. I think those sorts of things are just about what type of man he is, and whether she appreciates that type, or just him. But if he wants to wear any of her clothes, say, if he's attracted to other men, or if he wants to be anally penetrated, then I think it's often going to make her think "Why the hell would a man want that?".

I think it's important to understand this "natural" aspect in, I think, many submissive women's feelings.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 9:03:18 AM

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Gay men are men. Sorry to bust your homophobia.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 10:27:15 AM

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That's not a fair accusation, FeralFoxy.

It's easy to throw words like that around, and feel good about "busting" people with a one-liner. But you don't know me, or anything at all about my attitudes to gay people, their rights or their feelings.

The original post is about a straight man in a relationship with a woman, and their sex life; I was quoting from and replying to a post from a woman about straight relationships; and my post was about the possible feelings of a man's straight female partner in that context. Straight people's feelings about their lives are valid too, it's okay to discuss them, and homophobia has nothing at all to do with it. I have not suggested the feelings I discussed in my post are the only valid way of looking at masculinity, in all contexts.

There is homophobia in this world, doing real harm, but I don't think this thread is the key battleground in the fight against it. Or that you win the internet by "calling me out". What I said may be wrong of course, but it's possible to disagree reasonably or raise issues, without making accusations. It's a great way to go, actually.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 12:03:41 PM

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My submissive girlfriend has told me that she's curious about pegging me. I was just wondering whether there are any other Dominant men in here who enjoy this, and if so, how does it work for you?

Exit only. I'm straight and don't find anal intercourse as physically appealing as vaginal intercourse

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 12:12:22 PM

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But if he wants to wear any of her clothes, say, if he's attracted to other men, or if he wants to be anally penetrated, then I think it's often going to make her think "Why the hell would a man want that?".

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There is homophobia in this world, doing real harm, but I don't think this thread is the key battleground in the fight against it.

How about starting by not spreading it on this thread...

You are implying that any person who likes to be anally penetrated, is attracted to other men, and isn't constraint by current mores as to his selection of clothing couldn't possible be a man.

That's homophobic and extremely offensive. Frankly, you don't get to decided that the outer ends of the bell curve aren't men, and the presumption to do so, and then put down Fox when he makes a comment about it is extremely rude.
You owe him an apology.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 12:58:42 PM

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All men and women are sexual, Some are asexual, some are homosexual, some are heterosexual others bisexual. Just like BDSM fets they have a right to enjoy their sexuality without being stereotyped for their sexual preferences.

One of my closest friends just got married to his male companion of 27 years. They do not practices anal intercourse.

I'm sure for every ass queen there is a super hetero male that like it up the ass. Go to an ER on a hot Sunday night and see what the doctors pull out of the asses, asses. Simply put it's an ass thing not a sexual orientation thing.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 2:40:00 PM

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But if he wants to wear any of her clothes, say, if he's attracted to other men, or if he wants to be anally penetrated, then I think it's often going to make her think "Why the hell would a man want that?".

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There is homophobia in this world, doing real harm, but I don't think this thread is the key battleground in the fight against it.

How about starting by not spreading it on this thread...

You are implying that any person who likes to be anally penetrated, is attracted to other men, and isn't constraint by current mores as to his selection of clothing couldn't possible be a man.

That's homophobic and extremely offensive. Frankly, you don't get to decided that the outer ends of the bell curve aren't men, and the presumption to do so, and then put down Fox when he makes a comment about it is extremely rude.
You owe him an apology.

I think he's implying that it's his perception that many women, at least the one he's responding to, feel that way.
But he's not taking a personal stance on it either way.
Now, he may or may not be projecting in his perception.
I have zero clue about that as he's not known to me.But his comments are perhaps being taken out of context.
But I can say that while I seriously doubt mouse would think that, she would most certainly think, "He ain't the man for me."
That's the safest bet in the universe.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 2:50:37 PM

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Just gonna jump in say my bit amd leave quickly

My boyfriend mentioned about sticking my finger up his arse one, then it was an alternative beads now we are looking at a strap on

he isn't gay and it doesn't make me feel anything other than love for the facthe can open up to me and tell me what he loves

Its a pleasure spot. So what. :) g

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 3:28:00 PM

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What I have learned from reading this thread is, to each his own. Hey, if it works for you, then do it.

Some say giving oral is submissive. There have been many many times where i am being pushed away physically, having my head slapped to stop, but I have my arms wrapped under her thighs. I am LOCKED on. She WILL have one more orgasm. I just want to leave her breathless and feeling like a bowl of jelly. Totally and completely satiated.

So is that dominant or submissive?

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 4:48:26 PM

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So is that dominant or submissive?

You assume dominance when you take charge/control of the sex act. But that's neither here nor there, as long as your partner doesn't get p.o.ed with you about it.

Having said that, there is an un/conditional Dominance and un/conditional submission between partners. With unconditional Dominance, the more Dominant partner directs the action--s/he directs the scene and has a (shared) vision of how it will unfold. The unconditional submissive acquiesces consensually by cooperating in helping to carry out this (shared) vision. The flipside would be a conditional D/s dynamic which sticks to rigid protocols. (In a conditional D/s, for example the D-type may insist upon "Master's Right," or try to push the s-type's limits beyond CNC boundaries.)

Back to your post. Active/receptive (some would say passive) ACTS aren't the same thing as who is taking on the Dominant or submissive ROLE. You started out servicing your partner, then a "switch" went on in your head, and you momentarily took charge. She didn't slap your face or punish you for this, did she? Well then, it was cool between the two of you. (She was probably too spent to trouble herself with [over-]analyzing your interactions.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/26/2014 5:30:01 PM

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But if he wants to wear any of her clothes, say, if he's attracted to other men, or if he wants to be anally penetrated, then I think it's often going to make her think "Why the hell would a man want that?".

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There is homophobia in this world, doing real harm, but I don't think this thread is the key battleground in the fight against it.

How about starting by not spreading it on this thread...

You are implying that any person who likes to be anally penetrated, is attracted to other men, and isn't constraint by current mores as to his selection of clothing couldn't possible be a man.

That's homophobic and extremely offensive. Frankly, you don't get to decided that the outer ends of the bell curve aren't men, and the presumption to do so, and then put down Fox when he makes a comment about it is extremely rude.
You owe him an apology.

I think he's implying that it's his perception that many women, at least the one he's responding to, feel that way.
But he's not taking a personal stance on it either way.
Now, he may or may not be projecting in his perception.
I have zero clue about that as he's not known to me.But his comments are perhaps being taken out of context.
But I can say that while I seriously doubt mouse would think that, she would most certainly think, "He ain't the man for me."
That's the safest bet in the universe.

There are oceans of distance between 'people who enjoy these acts aren't a good fit to me/most submissive females' and 'people who enjoy these acts aren't really men'.

If he meant the former rather than the later, then I hope that he learns to be more precise and careful about the way he expresses himself. Carelessly insulting people is still insulting.

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