Some people are comfortable and secure in their identity and sometimes actually stumble across a label the gives a great baseline on how they resonate. You were not born with "submissive" stamped on the bottom of your foot, but now that you have discovered WIITWD, and clearly you have or you would not be here, you've identified as a submissive because that is the particular starting point that "begins" you but does not quantify you. Trying to wrap your head around being a D is most likely just as confusing and alien as it was to this girl every time she looked in the mirror and saw a boy but knew she was a girl.
Similar to this boy (and I will call him a "boy" because as far as I'm concerned, his chromosomes say "XY" not "XX" and that is what makes him a boy) I knew I was submissive from a very young age (about 6), but didn't know that it actually had a name and that there were others like me until I was about 10. But it's also something that I learned a long time ago that I can live without. I wouldn't want to be a Domme in a D/s relationship, but I can and have been the more dominant partner in a vanilla relationship several times....it wasn't a big deal...it's just was what it was.
I was a stay at home mom. Not a stay at home dad, I was more mom+; I did all the mom stuff and the dad stuff too. So when it comes to raising ums and loving them, I was a total chick about it and only chicks understood what I felt for my ums. Dads would just shake their heads because to them it was a cat barking. I'm all guy, always have felt like a guy, do everything that guys do... I can build it, fix it, make it, etc. BUT I process most things emotionally first, intellectually second... yep, like the average chickadee, but from a Primal place.
I have to admit that I have always been very bothered by the differentiation between mothers and fathers. I don't think there should be. There shouldn't be "mom things" and "dad things". I would have never called you a "stay at home mom" or "stay at home dad".....what you were was a "stay at home PARENT". One of my BIGGEST pet peeves in modern advertising is how they put so much on "mothers". "Choosy mothers choose JIF!" What? There are no "choosy fathers?" Why isn't is "choosy parents"? Or do fathers not give a rat's ass about what their kids eat?
I've also always been very offended by something else you mentioned (don't take this personally because I know a lot of people say this). This claim that women process things more emotionally and men more intellectually is such total crap it isn't even funny. I've always been a very logical person. Most of my family and friends tell me I'm not emotional enough. My one sister is a bit more emotional, but my other sister is more like me. My brother? He's a total marshmallow....in a good way. When my mom passed away, he was definitely the one of us 4 who was the most outwardly emotional about it. He's also been the most outwardly emotional when past relationships ended.
Plus....anybody who says that men process things more intellectually than emotionally has never watch a bunch of guys watching their team lose a football (or basketball, or baseball, or hockey..) game. I've also seen a lot more MEN than women getting into bar fights over petty issues (Sorry....this was kind of a side issue....I'll get off the stump now)
Now you are making assertions that you are "uncomfortable" with "them", but if you were blind, you wouldn't know the girl in this article wasn't a girl. Just like if you met Bear on the street you wouldn't know he was gay, or, or, or, ad infinitum. You're making judgments here on inside knowledge. Would it change the way you feel about someone you've known your entire life if they suddenly admitted to a gender identity issue?
If people were blind, they wouldn't know that other people were fat or....wore thick glasses, or ....walked with a limp, or....had bad teeth, or....any other physical principle, and nobody would ever judge anyone on appearance. But the fact of the matter is that people DO judge others on appearance. That's just the way the world is.
Probably. It would depend on if they started acting differently then they had in past years.
“Give it to me!” she yelled
“I’m so fucking wet! Give it to me now!”
She could scream all she wanted…..I was keeping the umbrella.