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This is a fast reply. Hold on here folks, we really do not know what happened to cause this "punishment". Or if it had been talked about before, or if the OP was being problematic in their contacting, and this is an object lesson for them. With little information, there is very little anyone can say about what is actually happening. Jumping to condemn the dominant is not warranted as far as I have read. From what the OP has posted, they admit their problem with impatience, and their remorse over causing the problem. So, who is to say this wasn't deserved? To the OP: Could you please explain, in detail, if this was discussed prior to the 'punishment' and also, if you were, in fact, in the wrong here? The way I see it, he is trying to teach you patience. It is a terrible thing that it has caused you this level of anxiety, but perhaps, you can step back a bit, and look past your angst and try to learn something from this. For myself, I would never punish my submissive without giving a full reason for it, and then explaining the lesson that I want to be understood. Did he do that? Did he cut off contact with you completely or did he simply tell you that you could not initiate contact with him and he is still talking with you? I once had an impatient sub, she could not control her mouth and spread things around about our relationship to some people that I didn't want them to know about. I tasked her to remain totally silent for two full days. During that time, I also played with her, and tasked her with remaining totally silent through that too. She was upset with the lesson, but she understood why I did it, and she did learn to guard her tongue. I await your answers.
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