I've gone the same route of hiding my profile at times in trying to find a domme. Evey one that contacts me first is only after one thing, and it's not a submissive. It's money. And even of the ones I contact first, almost always they end up asking for money within the first three or four emails. Everything from, "My mother has diabetes and can't afford her meds," to "I just started my period and I want you to send me $150 for fem hygiene products just as a show of good faith." (and yes those are really some of the excuses they use to try to get me to send money.) I had one young lady claim to be from Austin, Tx when we first made contact. Within about three emails she said she was writing to me from South Africa where she had gone on business. Two or three emails later she had been mugged and all of her money and credit cards and travel papers had been taken and she didn't ask directly for money . . . she actually wanted access to my banking information so she could transfer money from her bank to mine so I could send it to her.
So, we've all got our problems with the ne'er do wells and scammers on here. It's not just sub men, or dom men, or domme women. It seems to be everybody.
Then there was the "domme" on one of the message boards that accused me of being married and cheating because my profile was hidden. Jeez! You can't win around here! And by the way, at that time I had been divorced for about 20 years.
Oh...and right now I've been corresponding with a lady for several months, and she has NEVER even hinted at me sending her money. But then again, I didn't meet her through CS.
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