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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl
Do they not realize that HIV is spread through oral sex or do they all have a death wish?

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ORIGINAL: Invictus754

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ORIGINAL: BrokenDoll
respectfully Sir I would like to say that I dont beleave this to be true. While what you say may hold true for the resipiant of the blowjob the giver is at signifacently higher risk if the resipiant has the virus. Any exchange of fluids poses the risk of passing it.

I went to the CDC page to gather proof of my claim; I found that I am spouting old information.  I stand corrected, and offer my humble apologies. :)

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/oralsexqa.htm

However, using my home state of NC as an example, there are only 10,891 cases of AIDS reported in NC for men.  From an approximate population of 8.3 million, that is a 0.13% (13 hundredths of a percent or 13 times out of 10,000) that a woman will find a man with AIDS.  And, if she only engages in oral sex, then there is only an 8% chance she will contact AIDS from the encounter - which makes it .0104% - 104 times out of one million - chance of getting AIDS.  So, it is true the odds are better than winning the lottery, but the odds are certainly against you getting it.  There are only 3187 reported cases in NC for women, so men have a much smaller chance of catching it...assuming they are heterosexual.  So choose your state wisely.

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ORIGINAL: WildnWicked

HIV is no longer a death sentence. It is viewed as a chronic illness much like diabetes. The sooner someone knows their status, the better off they are.

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ORIGINAL: shadevarr

Also as far as risks of aids and STDs goes, it has been my personal experience that those who engage in a lot of drunken one night stands tend to be more at risk than those who have one or a few steady partners that they trust.

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ORIGINAL: hkwolf

From a different perspective (not taking D/s or other kink into account), in my ample dating experience, I've found that women who want a "friends first" or "take it slow" approach almost unfailingly end up not interested in dating me, and often times are dating other guy(s) in which they developed a stronger chemistry within the first 3 dates. Many men want to avoid unclearly defined relationships in which they are pursuing her for dating purposes and she is allowing him to treat her out, go to events as a couple etc, but she doesn't have the intention of dating him. Men feel taken advantage of in situations like that. Guys would describe a woman doing this as "leading me on".

So, some of the more dom type guys take the opposite approach -- they apply the "3 date rule" and screen out women who aren't interested in expressing their chemistry physically. The idea is, if you're not feeling it now, you most likely will never feel it. Plus, if he's investing that amount of resources in pursuing somebody who's holding out, the risk (opportunity cost) to him increases dramatically (he could have been pursuing someone else more interested in him).

Please note -- I'm not condoning or criticising either approach, just that I understand why men would behave this way. When I'm in my more extroverted/Dom moods, I have applied the "3 date rule" to great success. Of course, that filter leads to finding sub girls. It would certainly not work if i was seeking a Domme.

Some guys are trolling for sex and nothing but -- they want an NSA casual encounter pure and simple. They are misguided. The Net is NOT the way to acheive that.

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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: hkwolf

From a different perspective (not taking D/s or other kink into account), in my ample dating experience, I've found that women who want a "friends first" or "take it slow" approach almost unfailingly end up not interested in dating me, and often times are dating other guy(s) in which they developed a stronger chemistry within the first 3 dates. Many men want to avoid unclearly defined relationships in which they are pursuing her for dating purposes and she is allowing him to treat her out, go to events as a couple etc, but she doesn't have the intention of dating him. Men feel taken advantage of in situations like that. Guys would describe a woman doing this as "leading me on".

So, some of the more dom type guys take the opposite approach -- they apply the "3 date rule" and screen out women who aren't interested in expressing their chemistry physically. The idea is, if you're not feeling it now, you most likely will never feel it. Plus, if he's investing that amount of resources in pursuing somebody who's holding out, the risk (opportunity cost) to him increases dramatically (he could have been pursuing someone else more interested in him).

Please note -- I'm not condoning or criticising either approach, just that I understand why men would behave this way. When I'm in my more extroverted/Dom moods, I have applied the "3 date rule" to great success. Of course, that filter leads to finding sub girls. It would certainly not work if i was seeking a Domme.

Some guys are trolling for sex and nothing but -- they want an NSA casual encounter pure and simple. They are misguided. The Net is NOT the way to acheive that.

Nicely put.  (Wish I'd said that).
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I don't envy those in the dating scene these days. I'd probably join a convent.

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Life Lesson #1

I'm not your type.
I'm not inflatable.

(in reply to LTRsubNW)

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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: hkwolf

From a different perspective (not taking D/s or other kink into account), in my ample dating experience, I've found that women who want a "friends first" or "take it slow" approach almost unfailingly end up not interested in dating me, and often times are dating other guy(s) in which they developed a stronger chemistry within the first 3 dates. Many men want to avoid unclearly defined relationships in which they are pursuing her for dating purposes and she is allowing him to treat her out, go to events as a couple etc, but she doesn't have the intention of dating him. Men feel taken advantage of in situations like that. Guys would describe a woman doing this as "leading me on".

So, some of the more dom type guys take the opposite approach -- they apply the "3 date rule" and screen out women who aren't interested in expressing their chemistry physically. The idea is, if you're not feeling it now, you most likely will never feel it. Plus, if he's investing that amount of resources in pursuing somebody who's holding out, the risk (opportunity cost) to him increases dramatically (he could have been pursuing someone else more interested in him).

Nicely put.  (Wish I'd said that).

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I agree.

Except there's no fucking way I'd wait THREE dates.  Just send me a note when you're ready.

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ORIGINAL: TreSwank
If porcelaine's pic isn't the goddamn hottest fucking thing on CollarMe right now, I'll eat my boxer briefs for breakfast.

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ORIGINAL: TreSwank

The urge to procreate is a biological imperative.

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

How does a woman go about finding a man who doesn't want a friend with benefits? Ever since I stated on my profile that I wasn't into casual sex, I rarely receive any messages. I've even tried vanilla chatrooms and it's the same way. When I tell a guy I want to start out as friends first and don't have sex on the first date, he's not interested. Many men have offered to wear condoms during intercourse, but expect oral sex. Do they not realize that HIV is spread through oral sex or do they all have a death wish?