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not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 9:25:08 PM

tiger182

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So I am a new submissive

and I don't want to obey her rules (just for a few seconds)

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 9:29:23 PM

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That depends on her. Personally, knowing you were being disobedient because (a) you planned it in advance and got others opinions on the idea first and (b) banked on the idea that she wouldnt be hard on you becasue you were new...
I would probably punish you harshly. to make sure you didnt think it was a good idea to try again. Or I dimsiss you, for asking smoeone else how you whoudl deal with disoobeying me.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 9:35:27 PM

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It's never proper approriate or a good idea to blatently and willingly disobey or not follow orders.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 9:44:44 PM

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I'm generally laid back and understanding.
However, if I get the feeling someone is testing the limits with me, I can become very serious in a fraction of a heartbeat.
Either you want this or you don't. Being coy is not an endearing quality to me.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 10:20:34 PM

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quote:

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... I don't want to obey ...

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

You hope.

I, personally, get *extremely* irritated by disobedience. It's disrespectful, and I take it personally. "Don't want to obey" has nothing to do with being new. My students know better on their first day of school. I wouldn't expect a lesser standard of behavior from my submissive.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 10:36:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiger182

So I am a new submissive

and I don't want to obey her rules (just for a few seconds)

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

She might just dismiss you, it wouldn't be hard at all....

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 10:57:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiger182

So I am a new submissive

and I don't want to obey her rules (just for a few seconds)

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

Before I give an opinion, may I ask why you dont "want' to obey her rules?

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 11:11:51 PM

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Well that's cause im fun and adventurist

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 11:19:53 PM

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Hmmm. "Fun and adventurist," but likely without a dominant.

When someone tests the waters like that with me, I just let them go. I'm not interested in a contest of wills or making someone submit, and I dislike bad manners.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/27/2006 11:57:42 PM

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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiger182

So I am a new submissive

and I don't want to obey her rules (just for a few seconds)

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

She might just dismiss you, it wouldn't be hard at all....

Nah..... I don't think they're that harsh...... I've found that once you make a lady mad at ya, the best way back into her heart is to take her shopping - Check their profiles, most all of them love to go shopping...and are experts at it.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:15:20 AM

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Nah..... I don't think they're that harsh...... I've found that once you make a lady mad at ya, the best way back into her heart is to take her shopping - Check their profiles, most all of them love to go shopping...and are experts at it.

Hmmm....I detest shopping. Going into a mall is just pure torture for me. If you want to win my heart, don't take me anywhere close to a mall or shopping center.

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Well that's cause im fun and adventurist !!

I don't know about that, but I know one thing, if I found out or suspected that you were willfully disobeying me just to test me, your fun and adventure would be over. Do I think your Mistress would be harsh on you if you disobeyed? Only if she thought you wouldn't enjoy it <s> You being new has nothing to do with it. Your total lack of respect towards your Domina has everything to do with it, in my opinion.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:20:58 AM

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I detest shopping as well, shopping for clothing anyway(so hard to find clothing that fits and is affordable). Gadget shopping, electronics shopping, shopping where I learn about something are extremely fun for me, though rarely have the money.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:26:27 AM

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Well that's cause im fun and adventurist !!

ok in that case, it sounds like you are intentionally being disobedient , which some or most dommes would consider to be a game to you. Maybe you will find someone who actually enjoys the cat and mouse game. But if you are looking for a ds relationship of substance and are intentionally disobeying because you like to be "fun" and "adventurous", at what point do you think of pleasing your domme and think about what she may enjoy/like/need? Do you think many would put up with this for any length of time? I mean, sometimes, depending on the dominant party, they may enjoy your playfulness, but if you think this is going to be the foundation of the relatioship, I doubt you will get very far with any dominant of value.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:34:42 AM

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Well that's cause im fun and adventurist !!

You mean annoying and disrespectful? Disobeying has NOTHING to do with being funny or an adventurist, I think you should experience those qualities of yours (if you have them) at something else.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:36:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiger182
So I am a new submissive

and I don't want to obey her rules (just for a few seconds)

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

Don't bet on it. I know I'd either be extra hard, so you learn not to fuck with me, or I'd stop altogether and release you.

Honestly, some game player isn't worth my time and effort.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:42:33 AM

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Well that depends shopping for what, clothing shoes purses make up HELL NO

Crafts books entertainment hell yes.

Nah..... I don't think they're that harsh...... I've found that once you make a lady mad at ya, the best way back into her heart is to take her shopping - Check their profiles, most all of them love to go shopping...and are experts at it.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 12:55:30 AM

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greetings

why would you wish to push her buttons? do you know she may turn on you so fast and really pucnish you! then maybe i think you will feel wanted? i think that is what is going on in your mind if i misbehave and she punishs me she loves me? this is not how it works but i hope you do not keep it up you asking for it big time

mons i wish you luck

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 1:12:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiger182

So I am a new submissive

and I don't want to obey her rules (just for a few seconds)

Knowing that I am new Im guessing she would not be as hard on me right?!

Depends on the mistress and if she enjoyed your playfulness or of she found it iritating. Are you wanting her to be punish you hard? Are you simply testing your boundaries? Are you checking to see if she really does mean what she says so you feel safe enough to trust she means what she says? Do you simply not want to do what she says and rather than talk about it decide to do it your way instead? Does she prefer to force you rather than have you submit willingly?

Like i said it rather depends on the mistress.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 6:18:57 AM

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I was thinking the same thing...why don't you want to obey her rules? That may be the place to start.

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RE: not obeying a mistress - 8/28/2006 7:53:09 AM

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If it was playful, I'd play back by beating the hell out of you

If it was just not wanting to obey me, I'd tell you let's talk about it and if we couldn't come to some agreement, hand over the collar and hit the road. I don't have time for games.

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