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Coming down from the glorious heights - 10/24/2006 2:51:45 AM

kneltandtied

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This is my first post,so please be gentle with me..
Find myself sitting here needing to reach out to other submissives,and glean some of your knowledge,and experiences regarding "coming down from the absolute glory of subspace".
For the first time last night i was..unsure of the right term here..double Dommed? Double Topped?.whatever the right terminology i was at the mercy of my Dominant and a Fem Dominant.
The scene lasted 2 hours..apparantly! it literally "flew" by..well i did the flying !
The depth of subspace i reached,was a new place for me.i tried to stand after They had gently bought the scene to a close,the room spun,and i lay on the floor.They were both brilliant,delivered water and aftercare.
We/we sat in the front room,and They talked to each other..well i assume They did,i was curled up on the sofa,a cuppa in one hand,gripping the blanket encompassing me with the other.i was in a daze,incredibly calm,but not really on this planet!.
Today i find i am still very "not quite here".my energies are calm still,but i sit here weeping! i have no idea why?i am not hurt physically/mentally..yet the tears flow.
Is this a common reaction? i would welcome any responses,sharing of your experiences.
Thank you for listening..keep safe
knelt

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RE: Coming down from the glorious heights - 10/24/2006 7:37:05 AM

Celeste43

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Search out the term sub drop.
Yes, the more intense the scene, the longer it takes to recover. In addition, were you fully rested, fed and hydrated before playing? Because it's a lot easier to get fatigued, have your blood sugar plummet and become dehydrated than it is to repair.

Try having fruit or fruit juice instead of water immediately afterwards in the future. Plus a blanket to warm you up. Take naps today, eat chocolate. Most of all, have either of them spoken to you to see how you are doing or do you feel they don't want to talk to you now that the scene's over? Because what's helped me the most the day after when I've dropped is knowing that he feels the same, that he wishes he could be with me also. I need a lot of contact and affirmation afterwards.

In many ways intense scening can be compared to any extreme sport. If you ran a marathon without working up to it and then just stopped, you would expect muscles to cramp, lactic acid build up, microtears in the muscle fibers at the minimum, possibly sprains and tendon damage. You make sure you're physically ready to do it and mentally also. You don't do it the day your pet dies or you lose your job. You also make sure to cool down thoroughly afterwards. But in addition to the physical stress, there's a large component of emotional stress to BDSM which only makes it more important to be in good shape.

I'm concerned that the room was spinning afterwards. Were either of these tops regular partners who know how to read you when you fly? If not, did you talk to them beforehand of your physical limitations, how best to read you etc? If at any point you felt it to be overwhelming, did you communicate this?

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RE: Coming down from the glorious heights - 10/24/2006 7:42:51 AM

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Very common reaction, consider the post partum blues, just because the scene culminated does not mean the hormones and various chemicals have returned to normal levels. You are awash in chemistry.

It is absolutely normal, the dirty secret of BDSM--- Huge chemical highs, make for huge chemical lows at some point.

Aftercare cannot always be performed in three or four day increments.

Once again, the maxim holds..........there is no free lunch.

You will need to deal with your internal coping mechanisms and you will do well.

XO,
Ron

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RE: Coming down from the glorious heights - 10/24/2006 8:10:39 AM

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I'm sorry neither of your tops thought to discuss the issue of sub drop with you or help prepare you for it (though perhaps they are unaware of it as well)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_522013/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#522021
sub drop, definitions, causes, cures, and prevention

http://www.collarchat.com/m_512884/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#513003
Your insight is needed please

http://www.collarchat.com/m_487853/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#488083
sub drop (2)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_460639/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#460834
regaining balance after deep subspace

http://www.collarchat.com/m_202168/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#202459
sub-drop what is it?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_345419/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#345462
highs and lows

http://www.collarchat.com/m_398653/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#399164
subdrop or what?

Is it drop or am I kidding myself?

Depression after a scene

Sub Drop

Nervous sub seeks reassurance

sleeping...

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RE: Coming down from the glorious heights - 10/24/2006 10:31:58 AM

kneltandtied

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Thank you celeste43,i will take your good advice on board.Regards the room spinning,i am one of those people,for whom all intense experience,can have a similar effect.i have been known to faint when an orgasm is simply to intense .
Both the Dominants,have been very close to me today.My D,stayed the night,and most of the day,the Fem D who partnered Him last night has spoken to me on the phone.
Feeling a little more grounded to planet earth now..smiles..i think this was a learning curve for all three of us.i have discovered the depth of subspace that can be experienced by myself..and am somewhat in awe of the power generated!.Although that won't stop me from seeking the joy of flying..i will make sure i do something sensible ..like eat first..lol.
Mnottertail, i really should have taken more notice in chemistry class ..grins.
LA thank you for the links,i have delved into them.
keep safe
knelt

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RE: Coming down from the glorious heights - 10/24/2006 11:01:54 AM

givemyall

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Im sure you will come through the otherside and then be begging for more lol. I was grinning from ear to ear when I read this post. I remember a conversation quite some months ago and thought about someone that was looking about climbing back into the vanilla box because of some idiot off here that was playing with their mind........ it seems that not only have they closed the lid on an empty box, they have kicked it across the room and stamped on it - good for you xx

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