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is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 2:48:27 PM

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I cried for the first time during a scene. This perplexed and worried my Master a little and while holding me and reaching for a tissue he asked me if he had been much more savear then ever befor or if there was another reason I was crying he asked if maybe now I just felt more comfertable crying. I couldnt answer him. Yes the it had hurt but I dont think it was any more savear then any other scene. Just different as all of our scenes are. Was I crying beause of the pain a little I guess was I more comfertable crying with him... I dont know I mean I have cried many times he has held me many times as I have cried but that was all tears from me beeing emotional distressed and needing him and he was there. But those are different kind of tears I guess. is it maybe more intamet to cry from a scene and im first beeing able to let go and experiance the entire scene includeing the tears. I dont know Im not sure. So I was wondering if maybe some of the more experianced people here could help me gain some insite into this I cant be alone with these things can I??

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:02:28 PM

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I cry during nearly every scene, because Cumulus savors causing me pain and I am not a masochist. It *hurts,* therefore, I cry. I can't prevent myself from crying - I've tried. (He particularly loves it when, as he's hurting me, I am positioned such that my tears fall on his cock.)

Tears can be a response to pain, they can be an emotional release, they can be the body, mind, or spirit's way of 'letting go' of or 'flowing' with something, either positive or negative.

Short answer: I don't think it's a 'bad' thing that you wept.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:05:32 PM

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I've cried from pain, from emotional triggers accidently hit, and also out of nowhere. I think I was just very stressed that day and the intensity of the scene allowed a release of emotion, a catharsis. He could tell I wasn't pushed too hard so he just checked in with me and waited a bit before continuing. Sometimes it helps to be allowed to release a lot of bottled up feelings and play can do this.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:06:36 PM

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I cry plenty of times during scenes. He actually seems to like it. It's probably a combination of a lot of things. The pain, the emotions, the letting go. Of course it's all right to cry.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:13:44 PM

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quote:

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I cry during nearly every scene, because Cumulus savors causing me pain and I am not a masochist. It *hurts,* therefore, I cry. I can't prevent myself from crying - I've tried. (He particularly loves it when, as he's hurting me, I am positioned such that my tears fall on his cock.)

Tears can be a response to pain, they can be an emotional release, they can be the body, mind, or spirit's way of 'letting go' of or 'flowing' with something, either positive or negative.

Short answer: I don't think it's a 'bad' thing that you wept.

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Yeah Im not a masachest really but Master is most deffinetly a sadist.. I dont much like pain but at the same time sometimes I need it and even crave it.. doesnt make to much sence, though I think Im growing to like it as time goes on. I just wish I could figure out what triggered the tears.. Master wasnt upset I cried he was just worried because I never have befor. I dont like that I wasnt able to tell him why I was crying. I guess thats whats bothering me.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:20:19 PM

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My Master loves it when I cry, and there are many different things that will trigger that. For example, I can take a fairly good flogging before crying. The flogger is a big turn on for me and my Master, but He takes the hairbrush to my ass and the first whack I start bawling like a baby, the hairbrush is punishment. Don't ask me what the difference is, just a trigger that He learned and exploited.

As has already been said, there is nothing wrong with crying, it is an outlet, a release. Since this is the first time you have done this, it is understandable that your Master would be concerned and want to make sure things hadn't gone too far.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:26:58 PM

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Yeah I guess it would be normal for him to be conserned..

LOL he was also conserned about the huge tear stain I left on the shoulder of his shirt... HEHE dont think I missed him checking it out when I lifted my head!!

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:29:19 PM

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i was never allowed to cry

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:32:54 PM

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i was never allowed to cry

not alloud to cry??

I think that would greatly upset me.. Master usually incurages me to show my real emotions not hide them I could never emagine him telling me I COULDNT cry

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:36:00 PM

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Perhaps you are near an emotional breakthrough?

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:37:01 PM

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Maybe it is because you feel safe crying with him. I know I don't cry unless there is no way for me to block it. Physical pain does not make me cry. But when I feel safe with someone, I may be able to let tears flow in their presence. I would have to feel very secure with them to have that happen. I was taught early in life crying is weak.
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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:37:13 PM

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Dear MS-

It's just fine to cry (for me, at least) and it fact I sometimes enjoy it. His concern is admirable, and I am sure he'd become comfortable in time.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:38:27 PM

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Perhaps you are near an emotional breakthrough?

Interesting thought Sir... could you elaberate a little more on it though...

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:40:14 PM

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Dear MS-

It's just fine to cry (for me, at least) and it fact I sometimes enjoy it. His concern is admirable, and I am sure he'd become comfortable in time.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

Yeah I hope so I really didnt like makeing him feel conserned.. he is very carefull with me and alwayas wants me to be ok and happy aspecialy with what we are doing and I dont like that I conserned him..... ok I dont think that makes sence.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:41:15 PM

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Magiks, when P/people scene there is an energy exchange there is a spiritual connection. Depending on the moods of T/those going into the scene, how the Master/Mistress/Owner wants the scene to go and the mood of the submissive/slave going into the scene different emotions will be connected and exchanged. Many Owners expect They will see a variety of emotions - crying, laughing (yes even at pain) and many more. For me it's crucial to be able to let go during a scene sometimes i laugh, sometimes i cry, sometimes i am quiet, sometimes i talk and it is all dependant upon a variety of things. The important thing is you communicated with your Owner and discussed the emotional release. As we release in a scene emotions will come out and the energy exchange is completed.

kittens, i'm not sure how i would handle not be allowed to cry during a scene - sometimes in the midst of scene the tears will come. Sometimes in the midst of a scene while He is causing the most pain i will start laughing. i never considered that i wouldn't be allowed to show emotions what an interesting concept.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:45:58 PM

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I cry often during scenes. It's odd actually ... I have NO pain tolerance whatsoever yet I am so turned on by it that I crave harsh beatings from my Dom. He sometimes is turned on by my crying abd begging him to stop (even though I really don't want him to stop - I just hate pain, hehe). Other times he wishes for me to beg him for more pain (which I have yet to do). The hard thing for me is knowing when he would prefer one over the other (crying to stop as opposed to begging to continue). He has never shown disproval over my crying during a scene and I think he finds it a very nice touch, b/c it shows a vulnerable, emotional side of me that he doesn't often see.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:50:40 PM

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I hope it is alright to cry; I have been crying off and on for the last three days. I find it healthy and cathartic. He gets aroused *g*

As for crying during play, I have cried the last two times we played. The last time was because my headspace became extremely negative during the play. I just stood there quietly sobbing and then I cried off and on for hours afterwards. That is the first time something that negative has happened.

The night before that, he and I had played and I cried towards the end. We were playing to red with his rope whip. Playing to red is he gives us a position to be in when we are ready for the next strike, he uses one instrument during the play typically it is something that we like, but I do not like that one. When we are ready for the next strike we get back in position. It is all about the pain and working through it. The play continues until he thinks we have had enough or we are no longer physically able to get into position. Towards the end my mind was willing but the body was not and I started to cry because I didn't want to quit.

Crying is just an emotional release for me; it is cleansing and cathartic and it is just the way the energy goes in the play. I don't even try to control my behaviors in play. If I want to cry, I cry. If I want to laugh, I laugh and many times I laugh until I cry.

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:51:59 PM

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The one on "questions on sessions" might be particularly relevant for you here.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_618527/mpage_1/key_crying/tm.htm#618600
crying or not crying/when a girl tries too hard

http://www.collarchat.com/m_271993/mpage_2/key_crying/tm.htm#272967
crying

http://www.collarchat.com/m_251549/mpage_1/key_crying/tm.htm#251686
emotion and crying

http://www.collarchat.com/m_399658/mpage_1/key_tears/tm.htm#399680
tears, laughter, what have you?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_148646/mpage_1/key_tears/tm.htm#148774
tears

http://www.collarchat.com/m_108026/mpage_2/key_tears/tm.htm#117395
the gift of tears?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_67329/mpage_1/key_cry/tm.htm#71901
question about sessions

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:52:44 PM

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I cry often during scenes. It's odd actually ... I have NO pain tolerance whatsoever yet I am so turned on by it that I crave harsh beatings from my Dom. He sometimes is turned on by my crying abd begging him to stop (even though I really don't want him to stop - I just hate pain, hehe). Other times he wishes for me to beg him for more pain (which I have yet to do). The hard thing for me is knowing when he would prefer one over the other (crying to stop as opposed to begging to continue). He has never shown disproval over my crying during a scene and I think he finds it a very nice touch, b/c it shows a vulnerable, emotional side of me that he doesn't often see.

wow you said what I didnt understand... I have NO pain tolerence but I want the pain... haveing no pain tolerance I never classafied myself as a masachist... as much as I want the pain I cant stand it but I want it I thought I was the only one like that. And the other day it was hurting so bad and I wanted it to stop yet I wanted it to continue... maybe my own wants are so confuseing that could have added to the tears!! I dont know Im just an odd person

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RE: is it alright to cry? - 1/14/2007 3:54:37 PM

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maybe my own wants are so confuseing that could have added to the tears!! I dont know Im just an odd person

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Well if you want threads on enduring pain due to submission and proving yourself, we've got lots of those too. It's very common in fact.

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