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Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 9:50:42 PM

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To continue the theme of body part related questions...

So, Valyraen and I have been trying to make it so that he can make use of my rear entrance so to speak. We've tried using a lot of lube, he's warmed me up with smaller things (his fingers and vibrators). I sit on plugs while playing video games and doing the forums. It feels like we've tried everything. I love having a vibrator in there but whenever we go to put him in there... it's like playing that child's toy where you have to put the right pegs in the right sizes and something isn't the wrong size.

I think part of the problem is that I can't remember to wear the plugs on a regular basis unless ordered and honestly, it's not important enough to him to remember to tell me. It kinda bugs me though, because I feel he should be able to make use of all of me if so desired. Is there something we can do, short of sticking a piece of paper at my desk that says "Aqua remember to put things in your butt"?

We are looking forward to all responses, thank you!

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:09:34 PM

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not really a problem. you don't want to do it. not really. its not hard to put a dick up your ass if you're feelin it

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:12:33 PM

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But I do want to do it. He could go either way. If the option is open then he'll take it but he doesn't care if we can't. Whereas, I actively want to do this.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:21:02 PM

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Well I will skip the hygiene and all that other stuff lecture and get right to the bottom of the issue.

If he really isn't pushing it, why are you wanting it? I am sure if he decides to get very interested in it, he will nail ya.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:21:14 PM

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i am wondering Aqua....what positions are you trying? Beside doggie style, he can go in while in the missionary position, or with you on top...or even in 'the spoon' position. Have you tried various positions?

DG

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:22:06 PM

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I sit corrected.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:24:31 PM

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I want him to be able to use the rear entrance. He has a passing desire to use it. I want to provide it for him even if it's not a large desire of his, I really want him to be able to because he does have the desire. Does this make me odd for a sub?

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:25:21 PM

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Hehe....i bet you do

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:29:15 PM

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i am wondering Aqua....what positions are you trying? Beside doggie style, he can go in while in the missionary position, or with you on top...or even in 'the spoon' position. Have you tried various positions?

DG

We've tried doggie several times and it hasn't worked too well. Today we tried missionary and I think that was the worst. We haven't tried with me being on top though! That might work. I'm always sitting on the plugs and that works. We'll have to give that a shot, thank you!

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:42:49 PM

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Well make sure you keep us informed (hehe).

BTW...when on top....you can either face him or face away. You might find pleasurable differences

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:44:50 PM

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i have found through my very long life, that when one tries really, really hard to perform something sexually, one tends to get stressed & the necessary relaxation won't happen...perhaps you should take a break from this, stop trying so hard & relax a bit...it just might work...do let us know....

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 10:56:03 PM

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Some positions for anal are still painful for me. It really is a matter of becoming accustomed. I have come a long way since we first began in May, and I had very little anal experience before Sinergy.

There is one position that he desires for anal over any other, unfortunately it is the hardest for me to receive him. I looked into a product called anal eze which has these ingredients
Propylene Glycol, Benzocaine, Carbomer 940, Triethanolamine. The one I embolden is the stuff that desensitizes you. It is rather expensive cream, we have not had the opportunity to try it yet. We looked around some stores near him and they had none. I discovered that the same ingredients in this cream are also present in the same amounts in adult Orajel. We are going to try that the next time I am down there. It is cheaper and readily available.

I would caution that he needs to be careful because if you use a desensitizing cream, you will not as readily feel damage, but it is supposed to reduce discomfort. I will let you know how it works for me if you like

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/15/2007 11:07:08 PM

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You got mail Aquatic.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 1:07:31 AM

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Greetings All,

This girl is wondering if you have tried different positions?

It can take a while to get ujsed to it, but maybe you could try missionary?

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 4:01:19 AM

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The first thing is relax. I rarely advocate the use of alcohol during play but try a glass of wine or two first. Doing things to help you relax the area works for some as well. But too much of this can have the opposite reaction of making that area sore.

The next thing is that for some no matter how much you want it, or even love it, those first few initial strokes are very painful. You need to get yourself into a head space where you learn to ride out the initial pain.

I love anal yet Scooter is a really over gifted individual. That first few strokes i pull away as a reaction, it hurts, no way is that fitting there. It has and it does. But i ride through those first stabs until i relax and then OMG it's on, i love it.

We do not engage in any type of play to loosen me up for this either.

The problem with those desensitizing lubes is that they will also affect him.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 4:20:53 AM

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The first thing is relax. I rarely advocate the use of alcohol during play but try a glass of wine or two first. Doing things to help you relax the area works for some as well. But too much of this can have the opposite reaction of making that area sore.

Greetings twicehappy,

That is a very well put way of putting it :)

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 4:39:45 AM

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Also, have him wear a condom, at least the first few times. That, with lots of good lube, will practically eliminate any friction (which is what causes most of the pain) and it will slip in much easier.

Another tip, as he's easing in, bear down GENTLY as though you're trying to push him back out. That will keep your anal sphincter relaxed so that he can enter more easily.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 4:45:42 AM

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Another tip, as he's easing in, bear down GENTLY as though you're trying to push him back out. That will keep your anal sphincter relaxed so that he can enter more easily.

Thank you, i forgot that one, it helps a lot too.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 4:58:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Some positions for anal are still painful for me. It really is a matter of becoming accustomed. I have come a long way since we first began in May, and I had very little anal experience before Sinergy.

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

Lets see, I have had intercourse with a partner twice since April of last year.

The main problem for me is situational, I work a nightmarish job and the functions of trying to survive are sucking out my life energy. Add to that my insistence on only sleeping with people I have interest in having a permanent relationship...

I really have not been here long but i read the forum alot. I cannot help but wonder how good your advice is or how truthful your posts are because it appears either you or your master is full of something.

Jane

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 6:49:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: jane4you

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Some positions for anal are still painful for me. It really is a matter of becoming accustomed. I have come a long way since we first began in May, and I had very little anal experience before Sinergy.

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

Lets see, I have had intercourse with a partner twice since April of last year.

The main problem for me is situational, I work a nightmarish job and the functions of trying to survive are sucking out my life energy. Add to that my insistence on only sleeping with people I have interest in having a permanent relationship...

I really have not been here long but i read the forum alot. I cannot help but wonder how good your advice is or how truthful your posts are because it appears either you or your master is full of something.

Jane

Well, I've been here longer (not that that means much other then I've seen more of her posts) and can't remember anything she's said that was actually bad advice. How you got that her master is full of something from that post is beyond me and why you chose to post that is even further beyond me.

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