LaTigresse
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So many wonderful posts. Thank you to everyone for bringing your thoughts to the thread. Chrissy, the gender differences are something that I think are probably more of an issue than people want to admit. I get the feeling that many hetro submissive women have a set idea of what their macho he-man dom should be. Anything that shakes that pedestal is scary and threatening. As an aside I almost have to wonder if those are the sort of dominant men that contact the female dominants but ask for secrecy. But that is most definately fodder for another thread. Since the bulk of the answers have come from hetro female sub/slaves, I hope that a more diverse crowd jumps in and adds their thoughts also. As far as being dominant and having a switch. I came very close to that very scenario and here was the way it was working with us. (the reason the relationship did not work had nothing at all to do with her being switch, I would explain but it would just derail a good thread) To be very honest I loved many of the qualities she has as a switch. My ego found it a HUGE turnon that a woman that usually was dominant with others, found something in me to be submissive with only me. As far as how the play and so forth worked. I am not a jealous person first of all. To watch her dominate another woman was a blast. Because she, in essence, belonged to me, she was an extension of me. She did not do anything with anyone without my approval. Sexually there were things she refused to do with them that would only be between us, example: oral sex. But there were things that she loved doing like wielding a strap-on or fisting a woman, that neither she nor I, would, or could imagine her doing to me. In addition she would not allow anyone but me to do those things to her. So you see, for me, it is not monogamy that is the issue at all. It is honesty, constant communication and defined boundaries. Had this relationship worked, she would have been allowed to have her play toys but the key is "allowed". I am the one in control. She knew that and wanted it that way.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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