SusanofO
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This shouldn't be that hard for him to do, IMO, and this early in a relationship when trust has not been established fully, is no time to start playing power games. I am not messing around with this, and I don't consider myself to be unreasonable. The reason he didn't fly here is he has a job and right now, I don't. I suppose he coud have flown here, but I offerred first. And if I had t to do over, maybe I'd ask him to fly here - but right now, I am too pissed off. I also let him know I cannot think of ANY females I know who wouldn't also request the same, and if he's had "no luck" this is undoubtedly a major reason why. Although I am sure he doesn't see it that way. Oh well. It would have been fun and he was nice, but I am just so depressed now, about this. I am really batting 1000 this year. Screw it. I am going to take a nap. Thanks for the support, the good advice, and the kind ear. I appreciate it. Sorry to bitch. Maybe I will fly there, just to reward myself, I need to think on it, and get some sleep. I was up half the night crying over this - I don't talk this kind of decision (or make one like it) very lightly. I was really excited over this. I've been working out, and buying new clothes, etc. Then last night I started thinking (when he hadn't given me the info and appeared (still) to not want to do it - and then w/the two different first names - I asked myself: What do you really know about this person, and why isn't he willing to tell you anything, really? It wasn't just nervousness on my part, I was much more looking forward to meeting himthan I was nervous- and this was a very hard decision for me to make - it was that this chould be considered very basic, and not divulging it let me know just how much he really (doesn't care) female stalkers or not, aside. I was convinced he would tell me, but for some reason, he won't. Thanks for listening. You don't know how much I appreciated it. It isn't "nice to know"' others have been through the same thing (in that I want anyone to have to do this, too) but is was nice to know I am not alone in this having happened to me, and also that I am not crazy for half wanting to believe him, but having just enough of a little cautionary voice telling me to not believe everything I am (not) hearing to hold back unti I tried to (one final time) get two very basic pieces of information. - Susan
< Message edited by SusanofO -- 3/8/2007 5:47:12 AM >
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