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do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 1:47:28 PM

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Just wondering if many married guys like me have any luck meeting dominant women. Perhaps where I live in Arizona there just aren't that many femdoms, or women are too traditional in terms of playing with married men. I haven't any luck at collarme. Most of the women seem to want serious relationships instead of just adult play.

Could it be there is a better place for me to list myself?

RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 1:57:57 PM

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Para one: Seems to me it varies.
Para two: probably, but I wouldn't have a fuckin' clue where that might be.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 2:01:13 PM

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Traditional aka honest?

Femdoms are in deep enough demand already, putting yourself in a compromised position will make it even more difficult. Keep looking, there should be someone out there, just might be very hard to find.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 3:02:22 PM

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Now, HERE'S a little reverse discrimination, if you will. I never consider married men for play, even though I am married Myself. Truthfully, it is at the very top of the list when I am petitioned by others. It is My strictest of rules. The reason for it is that My husband and I play together. We have our own set of house rules. We are both involved in talks, meetings, etc. There are no hidden agendas. A married man could stand on his head, balancing a book on each foot, while reciting the pledge of allegience backwards trying to persuade Me that the situation was acceptable to his wife, would not get in the way of the marriage, or harm his wife in any way, and I STILL wouldn't buy it for a dollar.

There are some out there who do not feel the way I do on this issue, so I am not suggesting that you give up hope. I am sure there are Those out there who do not feel the way I do. Good luck to you in your search.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 3:47:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

Just wondering if many married guys like me have any luck meeting dominant women. Perhaps where I live in Arizona there just aren't that many femdoms, or women are too traditional in terms of playing with married men. I haven't any luck at collarme. Most of the women seem to want serious relationships instead of just adult play.

Could it be there is a better place for me to list myself?

Does your wife to consent to this? If so, just keep looking...you'll find someone.

If you're wife doesn't know, try checking out www.cheating/husbands/who/cant/be/honest/with/their/wives/about/their/perverse/desires/and/there/fore/need/to/do/the/right/thing/and/ get/a/divorce.com.

Bet you'll find lots of folks there.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 3:58:45 PM

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Two comments:

1) Be careful what you wish for

In 2001 a pro-domme kindly gave me her married slave. He had been owned by her for 10 years and the slave's vanilla wife and the Domme had become best friends. The wife came to my house, explained why she was so happy he had a new Mistress and we agreed the rules. Slave was to be non-sexual service only and serve one weekend a fortnight.

Result? Disaster. Slave fell hopelessly in love and wanted to live with me 24/7. I did not want the slave if he was not married. That was not the deal. He fell into a huge depression and left his wife and child anyway. Ended up with no marriage and no Mistress

2) Never forget the Golden Rule of Cheating:

Always cheat with someone who has more to lose than you. Always.

Never try to cheat with a single Domme or a Domme who is honest with her husband/partner. You need to find someone dishonest and looking to betray her partner (as presumably you are plannng to do?). She will enjoy the thrill of cheating as much as you do.

Sooner or later any other kind of women will want more from you than a bit of "adult play" and could come knocking on your wife's door.

Make absolutely sure the "Domme" does not want to get caught and is not just looking for a new husband before you compromise yourself.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 4:02:19 PM

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Make sure your wife knows what you are up to and is consenting.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 4:09:28 PM

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i have to agree that i think you are much more likely to find a domme here if they can verify that your wife consents to what is going on. that said, i'm sure there do exist some who would play with married men who are cheating, but perhaps you would have more luck with a pro-domme if that is the case. like ron said...it's possible there are other places to list yourself, but i can't think of any off the top of my head. i know bdsm library has a personals section on their forums...maybe check that out as well?

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 4:28:14 PM

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I'm with the others, unless you and your wife are willing to both go and meet with a potential dominant to varify that she is ok with what you are doing, you are going to have little to no luck. There are dommes who only want married men, there are those who only want single men, there are those who don't really care. You may find a domme who is single, one who is married and cheating, one who is married and open. All kinds exist, but they are difficult to find - especially if you are not willing to go to a pro and/or be honest and open with your wife.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 4:32:16 PM

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Hi there,

I know I just started here but it seems, in looking through profiles the past couple of days, that this site is more about serious relationships. I am looking for friendship and like-minded people who share the wonderful idea of a female-dominated lifestyle. Not every guy is looking for "sex" and/or "playtime". My wife is an Alpha Female in the corporate world but has no interest in any aspect of bdsm. I approached her about visiting a Pro-Domme to explore my fetish (with her present) and she replied with: "I am not comfortable with it but you can go, if you like." I took that as a "no" and I dropped the subject. This doesn't mean a married man cannot visit a site such as this to find friends without people thinking he is going behind his wife's back. Although maybe I am since she doesn't like the bdsm world.

What was the question again? Oh yeah, FemDommes and married men. Most of the profiles I've come across say that "married men need not write". I'm cool with that even if I'm just looking to help women out with mundane chores and maybe develop a friendship. You probably won't have much luck here because it has a "lifestyle" feel to it. Try a Pro-domme on Max. I'm sure you can find a woman that will play with you....for a price.

Btw, love the photo.....

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 4:57:44 PM

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As a submissive male, you are going to have difficulties finding a Domme on any forum, as the odds are against you from the start. Being married makes the odds even worse, and I agree with previous posts .... the results could be disasterous, especially if you are doing this behind your wife's back. Seeing a Pro is a possible solution, if you can afford the sessions.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:04:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

Just wondering if many married guys like me have any luck meeting dominant women. Perhaps where I live in Arizona there just aren't that many femdoms, or women are too traditional in terms of playing with married men. I haven't any luck at collarme. Most of the women seem to want serious relationships instead of just adult play.

Could it be there is a better place for me to list myself?

Bud...I've been scoring every night. I had to hire a private security firm to put in a hand scanner for identification purposes....shit's getting crazy around here....

Lemme tell you, I just saw your picture...you're hot bud....you should be in contact with the William Morris agency...ask to be the stunt double for Brad Pitt (I lost the contract last year....fuckers)....

Arizona's dry (so to speak)....no Dommes there. (Trust me, I ran my 67 Firebird down there in 2003 for a good 6 weeks....nothing).

Yeah, those chics that want serious relationships....what can you do eh?

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:06:28 PM

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Now, HERE'S a little reverse discrimination, if you will. I never consider married men for play, even though I am married Myself. Truthfully, it is at the very top of the list when I am petitioned by others. It is My strictest of rules. The reason for it is that My husband and I play together. We have our own set of house rules. We are both involved in talks, meetings, etc. There are no hidden agendas. A married man could stand on his head, balancing a book on each foot, while reciting the pledge of allegience backwards trying to persuade Me that the situation was acceptable to his wife, would not get in the way of the marriage, or harm his wife in any way, and I STILL wouldn't buy it for a dollar.
your search.

Nice.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:07:29 PM

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i have a question...

Why do you feel the need to be honest and upfront with a Domme that you do NOT want a serious relationship with - just play- when you seem to have no problem decieving the woman you are married to?

i would just lie if i were you and say you are single, divorced, widowed, whatever and go get your jollies in...afterall, once you lie to the one you are legally commited to, it should be easier to lie to the ones you are not. Just a thought~

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:10:09 PM

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I do feel the need to point out that he hasn't said that he's hiding this from his wife (unless it says so in his profile - I didn't check) ... just that he doesn't want a committed relationship with a domme because he's married.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:10:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

i have a question...

Why do you feel the need to be honest and upfront with a Domme that you do NOT want a serious relationship with - just play- when you seem to have no problem decieving the woman you are married to?

i would just lie if i were you and say you are single, divorced, widowed, whatever and go get your jollies in...afterall, once you lie to the one you are legally commited to, it should be easier to lie to the ones you are not. Just a thought~

probably because it's easier than dealing with the fallout and possible exposure were the domme to find out he were married (if he is cheating).

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:12:04 PM

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I do feel the need to point out that he hasn't said that he's hiding this from his wife (unless it says so in his profile - I didn't check) ... just that he doesn't want a committed relationship with a domme because he's married.

i'm not sure on this one either...his profile says he is married so he needs to be discreet, which strikes me as dishonest, but he hasn't actually said whether or not she knows or he would be willing to be open with her if she doesn't know, so i'm not 100% sure.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:13:20 PM

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Yep, says so in his profile...i had to check it out after seeing such an intriguing photo :-)

"OK, now for the bad news. I am married and have to keep all of this discreet. If that's OK with you then we have something to talk about."

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:23:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

Yep, says so in his profile...i had to check it out after seeing such an intriguing photo :-)

"OK, now for the bad news. I am married and have to keep all of this discreet. If that's OK with you then we have something to talk about."

It's a bad sign...

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/15/2007 5:25:17 PM

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Ah, well, I did admit that I didn't read his profile ... so yeah, you are correct.

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