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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 1:15:24 PM   
DMFParadox


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Domneo, women flake on silly things; it's natural.  You're right about that, although you're not expressing it well; to the Dommes of the world, us dudes really do have to be more patient with the bullcrap from subs than you do.  If we were to simply cut off contact for behavior like this, then we'd be monks.  Women don't realize this, because once a relationship is firmly established, the script flips and now it's the girls trying to keep the men from flaking... you have to follow different rules than we do.  A female sub, once held, is easier to keep.  Easier for me to keep, anyway.  A male sub is easier to *get*.  A threat to dump the girl over something stupid is less meaningful, and less effective, than a threat to make her endure something unpleasant--which to a male sub, is either a good time or a reason to get bored with his Domina and wander off.  So hold off on your suggestions to dump the girl or have this poor guy sit in a corner for being a bad Master for letting this happen; the protocols are DIFFERENT.  Anyway.  

The best and most evil punishment for two weeks of flaking is to never even notice it--at first--just ramble on about things that are exciting in your own life, make it seem as if she's just an adjunct to your own world... because she is, and that's where she wants to be.  She wants you to prove you're a powerful, purposeful man.  Use that.   When she gets engaged into that, reward her, and then when she starts trying to pull you into her life--her problems--her joys--that's when you go, "Girl, so you actually DO want me to care about that.  Fine, I will, but first I want you to grab a paddle and smack yourself in the ass HARD for me, because I gave you the opportunity to get me involved with your journal and you screwed it up.  This time I won't even ask you to keep one, unless I find myself interested in what's been going on with you lately... you dig?"

Do this often enough, and you'll show her that the journal really is for your benefit, not for hers; it's not something like 'medicine' that she 'should' take; it's a gift to you that she WILL give, or else you'll laugh at her and she lowers herself in your eyes--really.  And it teaches her, indirectly, that it's a good thing if something she does benefits you. 

Avous

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 3:57:24 PM   
gentlestarZR


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Status: offline 		i make time as i dry off at night from my bath or shower to post in mine .. just takes a few minutes for a quickie entry atleast .. i guess i think of it as a ritual however to post every night right after my bath , i hate to miss it because my Master does make sure i know how much he enjoys reading them .. and he comments back daily so i know he read it and its not just being ignore it makes the entry feel important that he comments back and makes me more excited to post ..

maybe tell her before bed to just sit down and relax a little while she posts it... and you can take time out just before bed too or before work in the mornings to let her know you read it atleast and what you think about her thoughts for the day. 

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 5:06:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: DomNeo

she is not doing it on purpose. people forget things. it's only natural but i want to break her of the habbit and get her into doing it every day again.


"Slaves" do not forget a daily/regular command for one half of a month. It's just not a priority.

You are in denial.

Akasha


He'll deny it of course

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 5:10:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DomNeo
My slave has been forgetting to do her journal entrys for over 2 weeks now .......

Dom Neo.


I think she has prolonged pre menstral tension............
buggar them hormones.....
as i think you are at the mercy of them....
so much for being a Dom eh?

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 5:13:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

Domneo, women flake on silly things; it's natural. 



....but we are quite good at giving birth and procreating humanity.......

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 5:15:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DomNeo

Greetings A/all who visit this thread.
Here is my situation. My slave has been forgetting to do her journal entrys for over 2 weeks now and i've been too busy to keep track of it but i need a new punishment to add to what she already has. Any ideas from A/anyone?



get her pregnant when you finally meet........
you could bang her up good and proper that way........

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 5:41:04 PM   
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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 7:20:08 PM   
goodgirl85


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Status: offline 		I keep a journal. Sometimes I don't write it in for awhile. But ever since my Sir just suggested that I keep a journal, only in hopes that I could figure out whatever it was that was keeping me from sleeping, I have been writing every day. After almost 6 pages yesterday i didnt feel like writing much about anything to deep. So I wrote about my wonderful walk home yesterday that caused my knee to swell up and to still hurts almost 24 hours after and because of this that I had to spend the day in the boring kiosks instead of being productive and being in the store where actual work had to be done. Sighs. Thats all I wrote.--o and that Im glad tomorrow is Monday because I get to see Him. Merely on the suggestion that I do it, because its in my best interest. So when he asks if I have been doing, I can say yes, and on the off chance that he wants to see, i can show him. Its the effort that counts. Not the task itself. Even if she wrote. Im tired, I dont feel like writing... for two weeks, she is still doing her task. Either something really serious is going in her life that she can't write, or (probably more likely) she just dont want and nothing you say is going to make her.


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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 7:23:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: laurell3

How do these really really old posts get restarted again after years?  This original post is from 4/2005.
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lol i didnt realize the OP date until you mentioned it, i never looked, but i went back to see when and by whom it got started again, and the post was resurrected previously sometime last year 17 months after the OP and someone said the exact same thing... well almost... they wondered how they keep bringing them back...

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/7/2007 7:27:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DomNeo

Greetings A/all who visit this thread.
Here is my situation. My slave has been forgetting to do her journal entrys for over 2 weeks now and i've been too busy to keep track of it but i need a new punishment to add to what she already has. Any ideas from A/anyone?

I already have her going 50 days with no orgasms while bringing herself close 4 times a day everyday and it is a long distance relationship so i am not there to punish her by hand.

Thank you E/everyone for your input.

Dom Neo.


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if you think she is actually doing this, instead of just stroking your ego and telling you she's not cumming, you are smoking way to much crack!

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/3/2007 5:49:07 PM   
Mavis


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Today is Dec 3rd, 2007.  i just received this mail from collarbot:

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DMFParadox at 10/7/2007 1:15:23 PM

Hello

DMFParadox has just posted to a thread or forum you have subscribed to entitled -   RE: Long distance punishment ideas.  - in the General BDSM Discussion section of the Collarchat.com forums.

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Hmm... ok. His post is dated Nov 12 of this year, is true, but why sending the notice now?  And why no notices on the subsequent additions after that post?  Collarbot is stoned, or is a very slow acting submissive..  and to think i came racing over to see what's new. 

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 3:57:58 AM   
Mastaziel


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ORIGINAL: Mavis

i know how these old posts get ressurected!

Today is Dec 3rd, 2007.  i just received this mail from collarbot:

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DMFParadox at 10/7/2007 1:15:23 PM

Hello

DMFParadox has just posted to a thread or forum you have subscribed to entitled -   RE: Long distance punishment ideas.  - in the General BDSM Discussion section of the Collarchat.com forums.

This thread is located at: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1331261 


Hmm... ok. His post is dated Nov 12 of this year, is true, but why sending the notice now?  And why no notices on the subsequent additions after that post?  Collarbot is stoned, or is a very slow acting submissive..  and to think i came racing over to see what's new. 


Maybe collarbot should have kept a journal so it would have remembered. sigh.

Is a funny thread for Me, I have different ideas about what punishment is. (YAY) And what correction is. () But then I'm new and only just learning, I'll get there I guess. And I love this site because I can learn, I can look at an idea or discussion and take what I want from it and hopefully learn something from it. Is cool.

For Me punishment is for minor little things, some imagined or feeble excuse...like not being naked and covered in purple body paint at the time perhaps. PLAY!

Correction is just that, correction of the slight and not so slight flaws that might crop up in training.

Love the ideas for correction that have been posted here though, and definitely the best way for it to work is some thing fitting. Like the thought of an essay for missing journal posts.
It would depend on the relationship, but it really shouldn't take a long time to correct your slave, depending on your consistency and her responsiveness. Short, to the point, understandable, but usually not sweet. It's alot of work, hard for both, but if the relationship is worth while, the it's worth the effort. Other wise punishment is the way to go, as it's alot more fun.

50 days, a bit long for Me. I mean telling her she must masturbate everyday to My picture once upon waking, and again before falling asleep for 40 days, and then celibacy and not looking at your picture for the last ten. That should produce an interesting expression on her face when she sees you again after so long. FUN! Mmmm, especially if she's picking you up at the bus stop or airport. But that's not punishment or correction....it's just damn nasty.

With two identical copies of the same erotic (um, like REALLY nasty) book you can have alot of fun, send messages, or little love notes by giving the exact page and word count reference. (just because you can, because it is easy to text/email/write, and because even when you're tired and don't have the words to describe how you feel you can still let her know by using someone else's. ;D)

For correction though, it can be used constructively by getting her to list her favorite and least favorite parts in the book, then pick one and have her detail why she liked or didn't like it. What could have made it better, what particular thoughts did it invoke, how did it make her feel. It's a good way to learn more about her, how she thinks, how she reacts, and what gets her panting. And in the OP's case it'd get his little girl writing and hopefully enjoy it.
(note: I don't see correction as always having to be negative, it shouldn't be mistaken for a reward, but positive reinforcement of desired responses can sometimes be as effective as negative.)

Been missing out on all the fun punishment ideas, though the rice one does sound interesting.
And the ginger.  nice.

A couple of general idea's for punishments or fun over long distance off the top of My head are...

chopsticks either side of the nipples bound together with rubber bands can be a fun and easy way for nipple torture, or stronger material and heavy sprung clamps.

she's to buy a toddlers spoon, one with the BIG rounded handle that she must abuse herself with daily, and use as the ONLY implement for eating. (sterilized or not depending on your particular bent.)

If they still sell them, those silly putty eggs are GREAT! Chuck the silly putty, get a steal ball bearing and a picture of Yourself and place them inside. She's to "carry" you around all day every day until you're together. (probably hygienic to use a condom and change it often)

Mmm, sounds like fun....and definitely give her something to write about in her journal.

Well hell, it's late again. Time to go have sweet dreams of nasty little girls bound and whimpering for My attention and amusement.
Night all

Hugs and bites


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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 4:14:42 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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ORIGINAL: siamsa24

I think you missed the point of those posts.
There are issues with the relationship, punishment is not going to solve those issues.
It goes deeper then that, but that's the idea in a nut-shell


I'm on page three of this thread, and it appears that he is not acknowledging the points being made.   He keeps refocusing upon punishment, when in fact, he should be concerned about getting to root of the problem.   It irks me that some people get so wrapped up in their labels and roles, they loose friggen common sense about relationship basics. 

Wonder if he realizes the power of something called "positive reinforcement" compared to that of "negative reinforcement". 

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 4:16:21 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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ORIGINAL: DomNeo

Ok so in some ways orgasm denial is not as bad as all that typing and writing but how does this punishment sound? bringing herself close to orgasm 6 times a day while writing a journal entry and an essay each day for 14 days on diff topics. The bringing herself close and not getting to relieve herself she will regret what she did and will learn her lesson very well. I know i dont have to watch her on cam cause i trust her and i know my trust is not misplaced in her.


Actually, this does not sound like a Good idea at all based on everything you have posted on this thread.   I'm up to page 4 now.. 

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 4:22:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: amaidiamond

For me, the worst punishment I can ever have is my Masters dissapointment in me...

However, from reading the whole of this thread it seems that the OP is only looking for sexual punishments, nothing to do with it fitting the crime or probing into his girls mental state or the reason she didn't write in her journal, from what I have read it seems a more bedroom D/;s kind of relationship which I will admit is an assumption but an assumption based on all of the Op's posts.

So for this kind of relationship, how about things such as having her wear a plug or vibe for 24 hours, when you are with her denying her your cock for 24 hours, refusing to allow her to suck you for a period of time...

dia

I tend to agree with this post, based on everything I've read.  I'm on page 6 now..

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 4:24:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Page 7 and I'm laughing my ass off... knowing that this is a resurected thread!!!

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 4:32:40 AM   
TwoDomsInTexas


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Status: offline 		Yep ... these are great examples of how feebly impotent cyberplay & online "Domming" is. 
How does a distant Dom punish a online sub?  He doesn't! 
Anything the sub does long-distance is something she'd do anyway.
At best it's fantasy, but mostly it's BS.

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ORIGINAL: LDRandAstarte
~Rolling on the floor laughing, pissing in my pants~ Oh PLease stop, you are killing me! I can't breath, you are too funny!
if you think she is actually doing this, instead of just stroking your ego and telling you she's not cumming, you are smoking way to much crack!

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 7:41:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe she is wanting to be punished???? Make her kneel on legos in the corner all day or  have her get some rope ....... tie it fom point a to b .. then have her straddle it ALL day .. on her knees walking it back and forth until  she is so raw she will never want to forget ANY thing again..

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 12/4/2007 8:42:21 AM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: DomNeo

I thank all of you for your idea's and even though we both have webcams my comp is the only one that is in my room. hers is in her parents office.

DomNeo.


And you wonder why stuff she is supposed to do online isn't done? It's because her parents are walking in and she's afraid they'll find the journal.  Or as the big, bad dom are you trying to force her to out herself?

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 6/6/2008 5:19:18 PM   
pucci305


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Status: offline 		I am sorry to break it to you , the only thing that she should want to do is please you no matter wht you both are not ready for this being a dom to a sub takes time and commitment, as well as an effort to want to do so.May need to take a break  decide how important this is for the both of you. just my two cents i wish you both the best

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