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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 12:34:45 PM

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Punishment? 99.9% on this board will totally judge this, but i dont give a S*** for He knew it would work for me.... He set me up with a Dom or two to fuck me and slap my ass and basicly humiliate me into realizing 1. He could do what He wanted and how He wanted it 2. i was His and He was willing to be creative in discipline 3. He knew He could trust me and my words that i followed through in actions
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2. instead of orgasm control, make her suck cock every other day for a month (works only if she needs her pussy used and cant get it...no toys either) after she finds a guy who is willing to do this for you ... this too will be horribly frowned upon on CM forums

Honestly, I think this is probably a really -good- punishment. (I mean, assuming, of course, safer sex precautions and all that). It gets around some of the long-distance-ness by having a physical presnce.

Too, as you said, I know I'd find it pretty darn horrid to be passed off to someone else to be punished. Like I wasn't even worthy of my partner's attention. -That- would be highly effective for me.

Slavedesires- the responses here were only "negative" because it seemed that there was little consideration for the effectiveness of the punishment in reducing the chance of the behavior occuring again. It wasn't negative, as I see it, because of the solicitation on a public board.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 1:36:48 PM

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All funny suggestions except sucking someone elses cock. To many chances someone has an STD they don't know about even tho they get checked and to hard to proove someone is legitamtly STD free. and as contentious about hygein as you and they should be.

Ignoring someone is a base by base thing. Yo u respond well to it I won't She might not care either way ect ect ect:)

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/17/2005 9:45:11 AM

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People already gave you tons of advice, the communication side of which you mostly thumbed your nose at.

Why not give your submissive over to the newsgroup and let us collectively handle the relationship?

Akasha

I don't know what you have been smoking AAkasha but that wasn't ideas. I didn't start this thread for advice i didn't need. I started it to get punishment ideas. And for the idea of me turning my slave over to you and everyone else. You can just go fock yourself about that cause you don't deserve her.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/17/2005 10:06:18 AM

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Have her write somthing, an atemnt at a nuovela, a text on somthing she or you are interested in, erotic novela, anything, let us say 200 pages by a set date or somthing. That is punishment to fit the crime, it is somthing you can control being done, and is somthing that can smart as she will be sitting ans writing and not doing the things she want to do. Now one inportant things here, it do not matter if she is a good author or not, just that she make her best effort at it.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 5/4/2005 2:02:38 PM

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The worst punishment I was ever given was no chocolate for two weeks. It sounds trival, but I would rather be given a physical punishment or any other horrid chore than to loose something I enjoy so much and rarely get from my Master.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 5/4/2005 2:48:20 PM

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Ok so in some ways orgasm denial is not as bad as all that typing and writing but how does this punishment sound? bringing herself close to orgasm 6 times a day while writing a journal entry and an essay each day for 14 days on diff topics. The bringing herself close and not getting to relieve herself she will regret what she did and will learn her lesson very well. I know i dont have to watch her on cam cause i trust her and i know my trust is not misplaced in her.

Greetings Neo.

I apologise for not picking up on this comment of yours before.

From your words and how you have explained a few things, I am under the impression that a) at the moment in time, you are extremely busy and this is causing yourself and your sub/slave problems and B) she has mentioned how low she felt, which caused and effect etc? (sorry if I am making it short and sweet, but not wishing to take up too much room)

I wanted to offer you the thought that your 'orgasm denial' punishment, may be causing more harm than punishment, without you realising.

If the sub.slave is feeling in someway down, depressed, lonely being apart from you for so long and she has no other person to relate this to, then orgasm denial in the way you have ordered may be placing strain even further.

Women are hormonal creatures - and insisting that you bring her close to orgasm, without release, means that their are chemicals built up in her system that have nowhere to go. This emotional and chemical response to not being allowed release whilst causing her to want to release will just add to a very depressed state. She needs release somehow - whether thats through orgasm or exercise or somehow... or the chemical imbalance will effect her more.

Just offering an idea, which you may not have contemplated.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 5/16/2005 9:36:38 PM

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this slave has a long distance relationship... not an online relationship...just one in which my Master is not with me everyday... when i have done something wrong the worse thing for me is for him not to pay any attention to me...

This approach works with My sub/wife in r/l too. As for those I "play with" on line, if they aren't interested, neither am I, and ah er, Friend, it damn sure don't take Me weeks to get the picture. I agree with the Lady who said, "be here or be gone." Forgetting for half a month, indeed! The word is DISMISSED!

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 5:06:58 PM

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I agree as well with the others...if she isn't willing to do what you want her to do , then you have to ask yourself, do you really "have " her..? to own her is to own her mind , body and spirit , and if you have to stay on her and ask her to do things that she KNOWS she should be doing in the first place...well then , she is just playing . if she truely wanted to submit to you , she would know what makes you happy and would be eager to please you in any way ....just my opinion....and as far as punishments go , try sleeping on the floor when you two first are together and restricting her privileges...make her prove her worthiness to be your sub/slave....if she is real she will be willing to prove herself to you as well....oh and that was too funny about forgetting to buy rice and/or kitty litter.....alright , till next time!

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 5:21:40 PM

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It is a little hard to stay on someone when your working from 7 in the morning to 11 everynight and have to drive an hour to and from work. she is and will be getting punished for this everyday til i move though.

So - if you can't enforce a rule, don't make it. If you want it to be in place without enforcement, make sure you have an s-type who will obey without needing punishment.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 5:40:22 PM

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much agreed impgirl.....the sub/slaves knows her position going into a relationship of this sort....so why knowingly do something or in this case...not do something....she WANTS punished....

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 6:08:03 PM

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For me, the worst punishment I can ever have is my Masters dissapointment in me...

However, from reading the whole of this thread it seems that the OP is only looking for sexual punishments, nothing to do with it fitting the crime or probing into his girls mental state or the reason she didn't write in her journal, from what I have read it seems a more bedroom D/;s kind of relationship which I will admit is an assumption but an assumption based on all of the Op's posts.

So for this kind of relationship, how about things such as having her wear a plug or vibe for 24 hours, when you are with her denying her your cock for 24 hours, refusing to allow her to suck you for a period of time...

dia

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 8:37:59 PM

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If it isn't important enough for you to read it, then why is it supposed to be important enough for her to write it?

Being dominant means you have the responsibilities, not just the rights. You want to control her, then you need to pay attention to what's going on. There's a lot more to this than just demanding a bj.

As far as the two months no orgasms, I'm betting either she did anyway or couldn't get aroused and quit trying.

As far as punishment, don't bother. That's not what's needed here. What's needed is to work on the relationship, to talk to each other on a regular and frequent basis and not while drinking beer and watching tv.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 8:40:30 PM

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i don't see how this would ever work...nobody is 100% honest so how can anyone be sure the punishment is actually occuring?

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 9:43:50 PM

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ummm. No orgasm for 50 days and bringing herself close four times a day for those same 50 days? Perhaps she has more self control, but if my Master gave me such a punishment He would be setting my up for failure. i just don't know if i could stop myself, time after time after time. Then i would feel like an awful, horrible failure of a slave. i am a very obedient slave, but goodness...a punishment like this would be like telling me not to breathe. Are you sure she's doing it?

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 9:55:01 PM

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Get her an online master, that is punishment enough.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 10:00:08 PM

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Wow, this thread was resurrected after 17 months! i wonder how they are doing now.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 10:08:37 PM

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I have a few different long distance punishment ideas. So far, the boy has only earned one. However, they are only successful for a boy, so sharing them would really be pointless, and on the off chance he reads it, he'd know too much. *laugh* If anyone wants to know, mail me on the other side and I'll share.

The problem with long distance training and/or punishment is that it is completely trust based. Unless there are pictures or a written assignment, we have no actual proof that our activity has been carried out most of the time. Whenever I work with Angel while we are apart, it is on the phone. I can hear his reactions to what is going on, and I can read him wel enough to tell which are real and which are (or used to be) faked to try and make me happy. Orgasm control long distance is only as good as theu trust base is between the Dom/me and their pet. Telling someone to bring themselves close several tiems a day but not getting it anywhere... is probably not realisticaly being folowed. I know I would never expect that of him, I am rather impressed when he can bring himself close one time while we are on the phone and not orgasm. If you watto punish you have to make it realistic, otheriwse it wil be ineffective. Distance is hard, not impossible. Angel just avoids punishment, which works far better for us.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/24/2006 10:23:15 PM

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MsSilvie hit the nail on the head in my humble opinion.

First learn the reason for the poor behavior, and if you determine punishment is warranted, make it fit the crime. Requiring more writing is a natural consequence. It gives her the opportunity to show you how much better she can do.

If i may offer a suggestion, i know one who serves online and has writing assignments every night. She is given the option to research something about the scene, BDSM, a dynamic, a form of play, safety issues - wherever her curiosity takes her instead of writing about herself or her journey. She is only allowed to write this way when there are no major issues between them, or within her. Allowing for this makes it easier for her to be obedient when she has not quite figured out something that has happened, and also allows her to write and keep a few essays ready so that she can still be obedient when her schedule is hectic.

Just something to think about....

Humbly,
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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/25/2006 6:22:29 AM

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Effective punishement should fit the crime... which means being related to the behavior, but having a negative and natural consequence.

Why not drop all the orgasm denial stuff, unless her disobedience was specifically to enjoy herself (sexually) while Your pleasure waited.. that would be related. Do You have reason to believe she was playing with herself when she was supposed to be journaling?

How about this... "Hello, did you catch up on your journaling today? "No, i forgot". "Oh, then it seems you don't have time for talking tonight, I'll check your progress tomorrow at 10. Goodnight". CLICK.

Two nights of that, and damn better bet she will be journaling! she'll be journaling about how that made her feel at least.

A few reminders though, You do have to leave her a way to leave You messages in case of emergency. Never let her feel abandoned, if You have to leave voice mail, but not talk directly to her, or drop e-mails, but no direct back and forth communications, she'll get the idea that Your time is valuable, and YOU put a priority on her obedience over her company. If she's wasting time kneeling on rice, all she's thinking about is rice pain, not what she misses out on by not pleasing You.   Her time should best be spent doing things that please You.. fulfilling known wishes, doing her job hunt, schoolwork, whatever, additional niceies when those tasks are done.

Have her bake You cookies. It doesn't seem like punishment, but if You pass the cookies out to othrs, and don't eat them Yourself, THAT is punishment. It's saying if your best efforts aren't to please Me, I can waste your time also.

subs are pretty smart, they can tell when a Dom has no idea of natural consequences and is floundering for ways to exert dominance He doesn't really have a handle on.   You're being tested in a way right now, time to step up Your critical thinking, and go past the "random unpleasant acts" punishemnt route. ANYone can take her to that level, You want to be the one that knows her so well, You can devise controls that fit her.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 10/25/2006 6:24:32 AM

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OMG. 17 months? Sorry. i wish there was an "original posting date" on the main thread list.

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