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I agree with you. Your thoughts are more or less the same in my first post which is why I dont stress to much on my maturity.
Haha... even at 35, I don't stress my maturity either. ;)
But...I think people can grow and mature faster or slower than others so how much time is needed is the real question. This is why I dont make the connection between age and maturity.
Here's an interesting question... would somebody in a completely different culture, say China, respond to this entire post much differently? Asia in particular venerates those that are older. It would be interesting to find out how much of this discussion is generated by cultural perspectives. Not that either side would be right or wrong, I would just be intrigued. =)
I also think the quality and depth of experienes DOES have something to do with it. I have been experiencing the day by day mundanes of adult life since I was on my own at 16. I seriously doubt my maturity level would be the same if I was 30 and had lived with my parents my entire life.
Well, yes. LOL! Witnessing your parents deal with life and actually struggling to make it on your own are two different things. =)
A lot of people are surprised when I reveal my age. I have worked side by side with a middle aged man for a year who was totally blown away when I told him my age for the first time a week ago.

But as much as I have grown now and as mature I think I am now...it will be nothing compared to what I will be in ten years.
Ah-ha! The crux of it all. The knowledge of inevitable change in our lives.. and more importantly, accepting it and letting it happen
Also give me an 18 year old with immaturity, wisdom and responsibility over a 30 year old with maturity, a complete lack of wisdom, and irresponsibility any day. (This comes from personal experience. These 30 year olds are called my roommates. I could handle immaturity if it came with rent money by the 1st.) Your roommates sound like they're friends with my ex-husband. He's almost 40 and mooches off his girlfriend, lol.

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Fast reply to no one in particular.

I've not read the entirety of this thread yet, and I'm sure I'll have even more to read once I get home from work.

But hows about engaging those of us "durn youngins" instead of patronizing us?
That depends on what you find patronizing. I'll reserve the right to shake my head and chuckle if I see a young adult do or say something I remember myself doing at that age. That doesn't mean I would find an 18 year old worthless, or less of a person.. it just means they're 18. =)
People in general don't like to be treated "as a child" and will generally respond better when not addressed thusly.
Oh, well, that never ends. My mother still does that to me, and I'm well into adulthood with a family, lol. Let's not even bring up my grandmother, rest her battleaxe soul. =)
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And shoosh, I am not including those in playtime :P

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MstrTiger why did you come to this site? It dosent look like it was to answer the question. I dont see anywhere in the post that I claimed to be more mature than anyone. I just asked what qualifies them to be mature. Guess you werent qualifed to answer it.

By asking a question like that you are implying that you are better/more experienced than the people you are aiming the question at, if you are not implying that then what exactly was the point of your question? Also why I came to this site is none of your business and once again I ask the question why do you think I or anyone anyone else should have to explain or justify themselves to you?

And if you dont feal the need to explain or justify anything, then why are you even bothering to make this post?

The cycle of circular logic continues...

Because it amused me to do so.

Oh yeah..btw...you just justified yourself to me...

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Seems alot need the peer acceptance

Some are trolls

Some are wannabes

Some embellish the truth

Some fabricate the truth

Some reinvent themselves

Ross
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I don't take anyone's opinion to heart.. especially a young person's,  for it will change frequently over the years and each time the person will be sure of it's absolute truth :) 
 

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edited to add...Oh dear Lord, I just got hit with a brick with the realization that I'm no longer in the young person crowd.  8(

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I did not say people should not justify themselves to other people ever I said people should not expect other people to justify their actions just because they don’t agree with them. I think someone becoming so outraged about something someone has written about themselves on their profile is quite silly. Also I am not a teenager I am 26 and if I want to act like a 5 year old then I will, so stick that in your pipe and smoke it laughing boy.

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Fast reply to no one in particular.

I've not read the entirety of this thread yet, and I'm sure I'll have even more to read once I get home from work.

But hows about engaging those of us "durn youngins" instead of patronizing us?

People in general don't like to be treated "as a child" and will generally respond better when not addressed thusly.

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And shoosh, I am not including those in playtime :P

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Greetings Stella

I do not mean to offend with these questions, I am only trying to understand.

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There's a subtle line between jaded and maturity. To me, maturity is having priorities well in order.. a sense of personal responsibility AND a sense of duty/obligation towards others.Feeling your own mortality. The wisdom that comes with life's boring little details. And.. the knowlegde that no matter how much we've experienced, life still has the ability to knock you for a major loop. =)

When I was a freshman in highschool, I knew a girl whose mother had passed away 3 years prior. She had 4 younger siblings; her father worked 2 jobs, one in the morning, one in the evening. Everyday, she got her brothers and sisters breakfast and off to school. Everyday, she came home, her and her siblings cleaned the house so their father would have a nice place to come home to; she made dinner for everyone and made sure homework was done, and baths were gotten. She put the younger ones to bed, did her own homework, laundry, and anything else that came up. She waited up every night for her father to come home so that she could spend just a small amount of time talking to him about school, boys, and anything else that cropped up. Amidst all of this, she managed to hang on to the A honor roll all through high school, managed 2 babysitting jobs in addition to watching her own siblings, received a basketball scholoarship to college.

For 4 years through high school, I watched her play grown up; she did a fine job of it too. Maturity only comes with age you say? And life experience? She was more mature than many that I see nowadays.

Maturity comes in many different packages. None will ever look the same.

I wish you well

melissa

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For 4 years through high school, I watched her play grown up; she did a fine job of it too. Maturity only comes with age you say? And life experience? She was more mature than many that I see nowadays.

Maturity comes in many different packages. None will ever look the same.

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how any piercings or tattoos they acquire.

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Ouch... at 18 I was still a virgin and had had one of the most meaningful relationships of my life. It didn't work out but it lasted awhile and changed my life for the better. Not everyone thinks you have to sex to have a meaningful relationship. At 22, I'm still not much older but I've pack a lot of BDSM experience into my years. Do I think I know everything? No. I certainly don't claim to be mature beyond my years, but I think I give fair enough advice - at least by feedback I've been given. I certainly don't care if someone wants to seek their age group, I seek mine after all, but I think painting us all with one brushstroke is a touch unfair.

Have you not learned YET that I post MY thoughts on a subject instead of seeing it as PERSONAL attack on all in the referenced topic?

Your responses are typical of your age range. React first- think later. Jump on the soapbox. Lead the CHARGE!

But, thanks for a perfect example which underscores my point.

*Blink blink*

I wasn't jumping on a soapbox, merely stating my own experiences in response to your own and adding that I felt it was unfair to paint us all with one brush. I do not judge your generation by agism and middle aged men who try to get in my pants. It seems to me that your statements are more then a touch pointed, so perhaps I shouldn't respond to you anymore in this thread. Lest you continue to think I'm proving your point.

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I see a lot of young people comming on this site claiming to be mature beyond their years. This is a conception that IMHO is total BS. Someone explain to me how a 18 year old is mature and wise beyond their years. Have they been married and raised a family. Owned a home, had a job. What qualifies them as being mature?