hisannabelle
Posts: 1992
Joined: 12/3/2006 From: Tallahassee, FL, USA Status: offline
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greetings daddy's prop, for some of us, service occasionally or often ends up with arousal, and for some dominants, that's a source of pleasure for them. He is pleased by the fact that i can orgasm for Him and have multiple orgasms sometimes. before i was with Him, and even when we first got together, i saw things very similarly to you - i was not one to orgasm during sex and enjoyed sex and service without it. i still do. the difference is, He enjoys my orgasms and my pleasure, for whatever reason, and i am capable of doing it regularly where i wasn't before. i don't think it makes Him any less dominant, just different from some who might not be so "wrapped up in the female sexual response." plenty of dominants get some fulfillment out of our sexual response. some do not. for Him, it has nothing to do with feeling like a stud because He can get me off...He knows i'm happy regardless of whether i get off, as long as i'm pleasing Him. this is just one more way to please Him, because it's something He happens to enjoy. i agree that it's mostly an issue of compatibility. caring about your submissive/slave's orgasms or sexual response is not indicative of a lack of dominance or confidence, or the presence of ego, to me. nor is not caring indicative of selfishness or carelessness, to me. i will say that this is just one more way that He and i fit well together, but this is why there are dominants who care and who don't care, who could care less or who would use it as a tool or who just like to see their submissive/slave in pleasure...just as there are submissives who care or don't care. i still don't see the orgasm as some sexual goal, though; i don't think i ever will, mainly because our sex involves so much before AND after it happens, when it happens, and so much when it doesn't happen...those few seconds are nice and i have learned a few things about myself and my body since becoming able to achieve orgasm, and of course it pleases Him, but it's never likely to become of very much importance to me in and of itself. i also agree that a submissive or slave shouldn't be made to feel less because they are incapable or don't desire to achieve a sexual response. that said, there are some dominants who just want somebody who can, and it may not be an issue of ego...they may just like making a woman cum, or they may like the fact that orgasm denial is a tool they can use, or whatever...He is one of those. He wants to turn me into a more sexual creature, and that just wouldn't be possible if i were still the same person who didn't care at all about my own sexual response. annabelle.
< Message edited by hisannabelle -- 4/26/2007 4:39:55 PM >
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