daddysprop247
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Joined: 6/24/2005 From: DC Metro area Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247 Wildfleurs, what you are saying (in the first paragraph) simply isn't true, and that's what i was attempting to explain in my last post. for some of us, physical response and actual enjoyment are not entertwined. take for example victims of violent rape who become wet or even orgasm...does that mean that they truly wanted to be there, that they wanted what they received? not at all, some people simply respond physically to certain stimuli, and it has nothing whatsoever to do with their pleasure or enjoyment. likewise, some of us experience great fulfillment and enjoyment from sex, but don't have the typical physical responses. doesn't make our enjoyment not real, just different. However earlier in your original post you said: quote:
ORIGINAL: daddysprop247 being almost nonorgasmic myself, and not really having a burning desire to orgasm or even caring whether or not i'm aroused during sexual activity What I said about arousal is (as far as I know) quite literally true. The way sexual arousal and enjoyment is displayed is a function of the veins in the pelvic area dialating and filling with blood and opening. Those processes then cause a reaction of producing fluid that makes the vagina get wet. It is like a series of domino's that fall that all start with sexual arousal and interest. * Now you may be cerebally satisfied with being able to provide a service of sex, but thats not what my owner is interested in (again going back to joyful complete embracing of the activity, not just going through the motions). Cerebral satisfaction gives you what you want, but just wouldn't be what he wants (and for us, since he's my owner, he gets what he wants). He wants someone who is interested in that particular act (in this situation we are talking about.. he wants someone thats sexually interested and thus aroused), actively desired, fully engaged and actively giving off that energy. And quite honestly if the woman isn't fully in that particular mindset, then of course the vagina won't get dialated and the automatic series of physical responses won't happen. Any garden variety pornographic movie shows quite clearly women that can fake the sounds, faces (and even with well placed lube jobs some of the lubrication) but when you see a close up of a grey vagina with a clitoris hidden for weeks... its pretty obvious where their mind, energy, and interest really are. I think as long as your dynamic works with your owner/daddy then its all good, however since your OP asked for people to explain why some dominants are interested in someone being sexually aroused.... I figured I would answer why my owner wants it that way. C~ * I can provide some citations for that if you want, I had to refer back to a book or two on my shelf to make sure I wasn't just imagining that what I said wasn't literally biologically correct. Wildfleurs, i understand that your Dominant desires/needs to see and feel that physical sexual response, and obviously that's more than fine for your particular relationship. i was just trying to make the point that wet pussy and orgasm does not always equal desire or pleasure, and that lack of a wet pussy and orgasm does not always equal LACK of desire (even physical desire), to put it as simply as i can. the body and the mind do not always match up, we humans are complicated creatures that way. so if a Dominant simply needs to know that a submissive truly wants and enjoys the sexual experience, a physical sign of arousal is not the only indication of that, nor even a definitive one. however, if a Dominant needs both the submissive desire AND the physical responses, which obviously your Dominant does, that is a different thing, and understandable.
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