LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: Fetters4U I do not agree Jeff. I think its like the person in the UK saying it is raining. You saying it is not. Me saying that all weather depends on the sun, and the person in the UK saying that I am wrong because it is raining. Without the sun, there is no weather. Without sex, there is no BDSM. Individuals higher motivations may vary widely, but under the hood, it is the same chemical cocktails at work. Ed So, you would discount any and all dynamics that include the "D" for discipline that are service or protocol based because there is no sex involved? This is an excellent point also. I find it interesting that so many people get so passionate about arguing what 'it is' for other people. People that they are seriously clueless about. It's like telling them they wad instead of fold when they have never been in the person's house, let alone present in the bathroom with them to know whether they actually wad or fold. An awful lot of projecting personal shit onto others. I prefer to be served to play with someone I care about and am sexually attracted to. I prefer to dominate someone I am sexually attracted to. However, that does not mean I don't enjoy being served well by someone that does nothing for me sexually. Knowing I've caused pain to some people, that I have zero sexual attraction to, does not even give me a slight tingle in a sexual nature. Truth be told, it is likely a very good thing I have morals and that there are laws I do not wish to suffer the consequences of breaking. It really is as simple as the fact that some things I enjoy, that fit within the BDSM description, give me zero sexual thrill....even though they do give me a thrill......still nothing sexual about it at all. I've never seen anything that says primal must always be sexual. The urge to cause pain can most certainly be a primal urge, but that does not make it sexually so. The above does not negate that BDSM is always sexual in nature to many people. Or even that it is, most of the time, even to me. But not always, and I would never be so arrogant as to say that it is, for everyone.
< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 8/4/2011 11:56:34 AM >
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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