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ORIGINAL: budda1488

i used to just get frustrated, and after a while kick them to the curb.

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

I know that, I was actually introduces years ago by my wife who was a slave. I was extremely cruel back then and it was befitting. that was 30yrs. ago. I don't play the scene much but am very much the experienced master. Ive only become new to the scene when introduced to computers.

What I'm hearing here is that you got used to doing things in a certain way with your wife and now you're expecting the new women you play with to be like her. You gotta stop that. Seriously. Because you know these women are not her and they aren't going to respond in the same way. Why are you still expecting to have it the same way? Come on, man, I know you have enough sense to realize how ridiculous that is.

You and your wife had a history. You knew each other, could read each other, and you learned how to adjust your play to her body and her pain tolerance. Well, now that she's no longer in your life for whatever reason, you have to do the work of learning a new person all over again. There are no shortcuts and I think you know that, deep down. You're the master, so cowboy up and exercise some patience.

It might also be that you're not communicating what you're looking for in a way that will attract the right people for you or you're not communicating what you want well enough to adequately screen potential partners and make sure you're both on the same page. Considering how confused I was when I read your first post, I'm betting you've got an issue there that you'll need to address before you have success. So keep that in mind and make sure you're explaining your needs and desires very clearly.

And yes, I'm a dominant woman, but you don't need to address me as mistress. My screen name works just fine. So does Sylvere or Syl. Or if you want to get goofy, I also answer to Shadow Governess and Sidhe Who Must Be Obeyed.

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

I think you're right but I do express everything t them I get lied to they say they are cool but when paddle comes to hand things change, then you have emotions which change. usually clingy and controlling,.

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

No I can't agree on that, me and her were on;y together for 6 months that was back in 1992. I have been through several since then and have learned from each. I think you hit it on the head when you said i haven't found on as masochistic as I need. i do have many promises but no rewards. that seems to sum it in a nut shell. just something I didn't see for myself.

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

yes she was the introduction not what I've developed into.

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

no I don't that is the infantile answer i would expect form someone who is looking for confrontation or to try to prove their worth as i would expect. I do take each slave on an individual basis. you should read the other post earlier

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

you'e right but if they read the earlier statements then they would have know it was covered. no disrespect but I have not time for repeating myself. i don't do it with my slaves and I don't do it with anybody else. but thank you anyway