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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 10:10:05 AM

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what I find amusing here, is i put this post on here to hear the opinions of slaves/subs, but instead get bombarded by doms? thought this was ask a sub or slave, I have had some good advise, the rest is just amusing me to pass time.

Actually, you have had quite a few subs reply on this thread, and it wasn't going well for you with us either.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 10:22:05 AM

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what I find amusing here, is i put this post on here to hear the opinions of slaves/subs, but instead get bombarded by doms? thought this was ask a sub or slave, I have had some good advise, the rest is just amusing me to pass time.

And yet, you took the time to personally thank 2 dominant women for their response...
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yes . SylvereApLeanan is the only one who seems to figure this out for me the rest ae just grasping at straws. but thank you all for your input.

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GoddessManko. you're probably right I have noticed a large decline in everything over the past years, i may be old and stubborn. thank you for your insight, you are the second person who has explained to me the things that I'm feeling. sometimes you just need to hear it from an outside party. thank you.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 11:02:22 AM

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and for the record I am a very experienced master

So you keep saying. And yet...

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 1:36:24 PM

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what does being greedy have to do with play anyways...

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 2:30:49 PM

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what I find amusing here, is i put this post on here to hear the opinions of slaves/subs, but instead get bombarded by doms? thought this was ask a sub or slave, I have had some good advise, the rest is just amusing me to pass time.

If this was in reply to me, it should be noted that as mentioned previously, I am an Owned slave.
If I do not come across as terribly submissive it is because I am not a slave; I am [my] Master's slave.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 3:36:17 PM

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What I see is the OP complaining about every woman he's ever spanked, except for his wife that is. I also see the common denominator in all those pair-ups is HIM. Which leads me to believe that he's either just not doing things right or else he just doesn't care. And you know what? That's just really sad.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 4:10:43 PM

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thank you all once again for the training in spanking 101, sorry to hurt everybody's feelings but that wasn't the problem,. and for the record I am a very experienced master and have sought guidance and even training in my early years , I do know the warm-up and the soothing after and how to stretch my slave limits bringing them to new heights.

Dude,

There is a song called Glory Days by my fave Bruce Springsteen.

Listen to it, re-read this thread and see if you learn something new.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 3/27/2014 10:04:56 PM

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i think you're right. glory days.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/7/2014 1:59:47 PM

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I think I kinda understand where the OP is coming from...kinda.

I think he's saying that a lot of his play partners say they can handle some kinds of play and then when it comes down to it they've "lied" and he's disappointed.

If this is correct..then yay for me.

Answering that is a two fold answer.

1. Sometimes our eyes are bigger than our stomachs..or butts in this case. What looks good or sounds hot may not always be that way. For the longest time I thought getting whacked with a cane just sounded plain hot. OH yeah bend me over and whack away....

until I was hit with one and after about 30 strokes I called red and red evermore with a cane. It's not something that I can handle. Dunno why but it's just not for me.

2. Sometimes girls wanna impress the boys (yeah I know..silly girls), but faced with a big Dominant sometimes we cave a little. We're eager for your attention, we're caught in the moment..what have you and we agree to things we might not have thought through.

Just because you're in this lifestyle you don't have an obligation to like or do anything. Submissive's don't have to like spankings, flogging or being tied up just as Dom's don't have to like to do those things. That's the beauty of this lifestyle..to each their own.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/7/2014 6:24:42 PM

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yes that is exactly it! yea DangerousCrves! you got exactly what I was saying now as to why do they do this? and that will be the ultimate answer. be honest this way I know where you are and how far I can go, and if i even want to waste my time at all

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/7/2014 6:29:26 PM

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Ya, I had a similar problem with men pretending they knew what they were doing when in actuality, the only experience they'd had was in their head.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/7/2014 8:09:48 PM

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it does happen on both sides I have heard form others the same thing. it doesn't hurt to just say something, there is somebody who can and will teach on either side of the coin

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/7/2014 8:53:09 PM

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yes that is exactly it! yea DangerousCrves! you got exactly what I was saying now as to why do they do this? and that will be the ultimate answer. be honest this way I know where you are and how far I can go, and if i even want to waste my time at all

I think the other side is you need to be more patient. If this is happening to you over and over, it's say something about you. Maybe that you are not taking time to get to know people; you are rushing them; or maybe you manner is such that things they might like in concept, or might like with other, they don't like with you specifically.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/8/2014 8:26:22 AM

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I don't get the denial of the op. He admits to being married for all of 6 months 20 years ago. He didn't make that work, he hasn't been able to make a relationship with anyone else in all that time work either. Yet it can't mean that he bears any culpability in the failure of every single relationship. Just bizarre.

Op you have two choices. Get some help seeing yourself realistically or continue not having a relationship that satisfies you. There's not much we can do to change reality.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/8/2014 10:08:06 AM

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I notice there is much thought over my marriage. let me ask this how many of you are with the first person that introduced you into this lifestyle? and did anyone think that maybe it wasn't me as to the reason we aren't together?

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/9/2014 12:34:47 PM

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Answering the original question...
Because the sub wants more...or less than is being offered. Find a
compatible Dom with similar goals and
theres no need to be greedy.

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why is it so hard to find a slave who can handle the blessings i give through the paddle or whatever? I have needs also.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/9/2014 12:40:06 PM

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you're right. but during talks when we're feeling each other out and I ask what they are looking for then explain how I am and all is in agreement, then what? somebody lied and then neither side is happy.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/9/2014 12:57:56 PM

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you're right. but during talks when we're feeling each other out and I ask what they are looking for then explain how I am and all is in agreement, then what? somebody lied and then neither side is happy.

Have you considered starting out slow to get what you want? You talk to them and all is well. You actually do things, and it is not ok. Slow down, maybe? Have the patience to get there eventually. Listen to their feedback and they will be more willing to go farther. If someone didn't listen to me, I wouldn't want to continue either. That partner would be unsafe. Thanks but no thanks.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/9/2014 1:26:13 PM

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you're right. but during talks when we're feeling each other out and I ask what they are looking for then explain how I am and all is in agreement, then what? somebody lied and then neither side is happy.

She didn't necessarily lie. Perhaps it just didn't work out with you. She might be a happy little pain slut for someone who warms her up differently.

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RE: why are so many slaves/subs greedy? - 4/9/2014 1:36:09 PM

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you're right. but during talks when we're feeling each other out and I ask what they are looking for then explain how I am and all is in agreement, then what? somebody lied and then neither side is happy.

It doesn't mean someone lied, it could be your expectations and her's don't mesh even with everything talked about and you both thought you were on the same page with each other. Talking is one thing, action is another. Compatibility can be there when talking but then find out it's not there when it comes down to action. What I might consider mild, someone else might consider extreme, neither of us is lying, our interpretation just differs.

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let me ask this how many of you are with the first person that introduced you into this lifestyle?

I was with my former Master who I got involved in the lifestyle with for over 20 years. I've been with my Master now for 7 years.

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