akbarbarian
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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian Let's not leave anything out now. 1) Don’t whine or complain. 2) If your behavior displeases me, stop immediately and ask how to become pleasing. 3) When told how to be pleasing, seek a way to do it without protest. 4) Do not offer explanations, give them only when asked. 5) Don’t protect either of us from my judgment; only ask if I am sure it’s what I want. 6) Believe I’m right whether you believe I am or not, make it so, never second guess me. 7) Like something because I like it 8) Dislike something because I dislike it 9) Have confidence in something because I do 10) Lack confidence in something because I do 11) Check with me to determine how to feel about something 12) Agree with everything I say, never disagree with anything I say. Be a “yes man”. Hello akbarbarian. Very "romantic", but "realistic? You should try these first: 1-defer, 2-obey and 3-follow. After you get your sub to have proper attitude, behavior or demeaner by "working" consensually (baby stepping) on her daily conduct, you will probably be too "tired" to want anything else. In order for her to defer, you have to be a respectful strong (not muscles!) person (from her point of view). In order to obey, you ask reasonable, understandable requests that can be done (from her point of view and "level" of abnegation). In order to follow? That's the hard part, you have to lead, be an example of reason, patience, wisdom and discipline (from her point of view). The way I see it, it is better to have guidelines or principles. With time and patience, the "Magic" arrives by itself, you have an "happy" submissive and you are "happy" too. Or you may have a "perfect" unhappy submissive that you can't fix by tacking on rule 13) Be happy! I wish you good luck and suggest you bring down the pressure a little, as there is certainly no rush in these things. Flowers don't grow faster when you pull on them. RL. I would like to simplify things, but she has stated and demonstrated many times before that she thrives on high protocol. The idea you have about being respectful (did you mean winning respect?), reasonable (or asking only what she believes she is capable of), and existing as a role model is great to say. The aim there is to aquire the power termed "expert power" and that is a great one to have, but it doesn't seem to be in place at this point and I'm not sure exactly how to obtain it from her. I'm no florist...flowers don't grow faster when pulled on? I wondered if an inverted, sealed hydroponics system with the flower stems being attached to small weights might make they grow faster, there goes that plan!
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