beerwench
Posts: 5
Joined: 4/11/2007 Status: offline
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EveryO/one has opinions and EveryO/one has feelings, this is a natural thing, and between two different people there will always be two different viewpoints. As Your slave, part of her job is to share her thoughts/opinions with You and above all be honest. To be otherwise would be a far larger problem in my opinion. However i can understand why this would upset You. i feel that while it is a slaves place to be honest and forthright (and yes this includes disagreeing), the word that bothers me is "argue". If she did not share her feelings, that would be a part of her that she held from You. If You did not listen and try to understand her view i don't think Your ownership would be as meaningful or true, but it is her job to submit and obey. i wonder if the presentation is part of the problem. Sometimes when people get emotional they aren't even able to communicate the main issues/problems correctly and clearly. i know that i have learned a lot about my thoughts, actions, and reactions through keeping a journal for Master. When i write out my problems/issues i am able to view them in a different way, and i choose my words more carefully. i don't think it is right or wise to censor Your slave's opinions/feelings, but maybe writing these things down could help her isolate specifically what her issues are, and plan alternate compromises. i think she is right to have an opinion. i think she is wrong to be argumentative. Perhaps another thing that could be done is bring up an issue, discuss, and go back to it a day later. Often in retrospect these things are less important. Also, sometimes the things W/we argue about are not really the issues at hand. i think that it is important that You listen to the things she has to say. This makes You know her better, and be a better Master, and in turn it will make her serve You better. However, it is also important to communicate that there is a time for everything, and Your sleep time is not it. Something about the tone of Your post makes me wonder if small arguments are covering a bigger problem. i think that You need to investigate the small issues further. Thank You, i wish You luck.
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