windchymes
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I think a lot of it is just plain old physical attraction. I say this based on about 6 or 7 years of following the personal ads, in both vanilla and adult-oriented sites. My views here are about what I've observed as a "woman looking for a man". I can't speak about what goes on inside the women's heads, except my own..... Let's be honest....a lot of people, both men and women, past 40 (and any numbers I use here are purely arbitrary and are rounded off for convenience) have (and I HATE this phrase, but it's used a lot) "let themselves go". Many of the men my own age, which is 49, to me, look OLD. I am just not physically attracted to a guy who looks like my father, or even my grandfather....in my own mind! I know that's MY problem, which is why I can relate to what I think the men go through. I don't like it, but I accept it :) A lot of men start playing the field after a divorce. Their self-esteem is down, they haven't been in the dating scene for 20 or more years and they see women their own age, who to them, look OLD. It's a big reality check. They aren't attracted to those chubby women with short hair. They're in a bit of a mid-life crisis, haven't really accepted the fact that THEY themselves are that old, too, that they themselves are chubby and have NO hair, lol. So, they start looking at what they are attracted to: those ten years or more younger than they are. I have seen many men in the ads who list their ages as 40-something, and it's obvious by their photos that they aren't a day under 60. Or, they post a great-looking photo of themselves as the primary photo, but then you see this much older-looking photo, the "real" one, further back in with the rest of the photos, the ones with the fancy car and the dog. :) There are a lot of men who list their age as mid-to-late 40's and list their ideal woman as "28 to 40". I have encountered men who say they are 47 or 48, but when I contact them, they reject me because I am "too old" for them. And I actually look a lot younger than I really am....people meeting me (other women, lol) constantly say they thought I was about 38 or 39. But, I get a ton of profile views and "winks" from men in their late 50's and 60's. Anyway, don't mean to ramble on.....in a nutshell, I think it just boils down to physical attraction and ego.
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You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first. Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.
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