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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/8/2008 8:08:29 PM

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OneDom69~

Thank You for Your post!

i wonder if it is more of a population thing? *smiles* i wonder if perhaps there is just a smaller number of people in that age range in the United States?

As posted above, i am from a mid-western city, and even there--having a lifelong network of connections, meeting someone in my prefered age range (that i hadn't gone to high school with) was very difficult!

i wonder where they are all hiding....i think maybe there was a club i was not invited to join? *smiles*

You state that perhaps we are in the middle range...too young and too old...i wonder if this will change, because the population will grow with us?

Hmm...something to ponder. When i am 30, would i have anything other than D/s in common with a 23 year old Dom? i mean, for sure it depends on the person, and character of both...but it just makes me think....

Thank You for Your thoughts on this subject!

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/8/2008 8:16:24 PM

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DomDolf an IQ from 110 to 160 is not much. If I were going by that then I would have to dummie down. I perfer someone with a lot of common sense. As far as the fitness freak goes your young and that will pass. As you get older younger people will quit looking at your body because you are old enough to be their father.

Hmmm, really? 160 is not much? Can you tell me the percentage of the population that is at 160? I can tell you. And just to clarify how I know the percentage, though I don't throw this number out there accept to people that brag about their IQ, mine is 161. There are more intelligent people out there and I have great respect for them. I also have great respect for many people that are very near the average IQ also. Please tell me your score so I can feel in complete awe that I am conversing with one of the brilliant minds of this world. An IQ of 160 is in the top 0.5% of the population. In fact only 2% are at an IQ of 140. I prefer someone with both common sense and intelligence. I bring both to the table.

Young people already stopped looking at me like they used to. Thankfully, by the way. My oldest son, who is 19, would probably be more interested than me.

Thank you for posting an 'I walked up hill both ways' message. I haven't had that done to me in a very long time. Kinda makes me feel young-er.

Dolf

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/8/2008 8:33:29 PM

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OneDom69~

Thank You for Your post!

i wonder if it is more of a population thing? *smiles* i wonder if perhaps there is just a smaller number of people in that age range in the United States?

As posted above, i am from a mid-western city, and even there--having a lifelong network of connections, meeting someone in my prefered age range (that i hadn't gone to high school with) was very difficult!

i wonder where they are all hiding....i think maybe there was a club i was not invited to join? *smiles*

You state that perhaps we are in the middle range...too young and too old...i wonder if this will change, because the population will grow with us?

Hmm...something to ponder. When i am 30, would i have anything other than D/s in common with a 23 year old Dom? i mean, for sure it depends on the person, and character of both...but it just makes me think....

Thank You for Your thoughts on this subject!

~anne

I wonder if some of it pertains to demographics and how society is portrayed where each of us are located?..i really dont know. Well, I am originally from Texas...and i know for a fact, things, people, and surroundings are somewhat different then here in Pennsylvania..does it have anything to do with D/s....I doubt it....lol.....as society goes on through the decades will it change with those age ranges...Im sure it will based upon what society is like then.....peoples ages, races, and relationship status' may be viewed differently......no one knows...but, i do agree.....while I am 37, what true life relationship could i really have with a 20 something with less life experiences, emotional and mental experiences then myself?....i really dont know......and I know im generalizing and not being specific to every person.

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 11:50:21 AM

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Speaking for the over 40 crowd- I guess you are just too attractive to resist.

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 11:57:57 AM

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It's been my experience that a lot of those 30 year olds have been hitting up the 40 year olds too. Just sayin...

same here... I am nearly 50 and the majority of my emails are from coming from Doms between the ages of 34 to 45 and I have to admit the ones between 34 and 37 are extremely persistent even when you tell them you are looking for someone closer to your own age.

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 12:14:06 PM

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It will be a very rare for thing for a person to develop that kind of knowledge, wisdom and insight in just 30 years on this planet.

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Master Gregg aka DarkPaladin

Indeed. It's a rare thing to find in someone with 49 years on this planet as well. Would you care to elaborate on exactly what age you expect it to become 'commonplace?'

Hi Anne,

I agree with much of what others have mentioned. At 31, I'm loathe to move as well. I've spent half of my adult life outside of the US, have lived in more states than most people have owned cars, and moved more times than most people have had birthdays. It doesn't the 30 somethings aren't out there; we just happen to be the middle children of relationships. We're too old to really enjoy the college bar/dating scene, too young to have the sort of success that enables more expensive options (cruises, vacations, etc) and too busy establishing our careers (hopefully) to really have time to invest in searching. Yet inevitably we find the time for the things we care about.

Any sort of initial search is going to take a while. Just because you don't see the right guy on a website today doesn't mean he won't tomorrow, next week, or next month. Just because you don't see the right person at a munch, doesn't mean he doesn't attend; he might have been sick, or busy with work that night. Keep making friends, network, and keep a positive attitude, and within a few months you'll have established the kind of reputation that will draw 'the right guy' to you.

Regards,

Stephan

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 12:24:53 PM

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DomDolf I have an adult son that has a 147 IQ and near photographic memory at there has been many times I wanted to strangled him for his stupid actions and foolishness and stubborness for not wanting to listen to reason , as well I know someone with 170 IQ and he also has made some pretty big blunders in his lifetime as well... having a good IQ does not mean a person will act in an intelligent manner and use common sense or willing to be achievers in life..

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 3:50:30 PM

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DomDolf I have an adult son that has a 147 IQ and near photographic memory at there has been many times I wanted to strangled him for his stupid actions and foolishness and stubborness for not wanting to listen to reason , as well I know someone with 170 IQ and he also has made some pretty big blunders in his lifetime as well... having a good IQ does not mean a person will act in an intelligent manner and use common sense or willing to be achievers in life..

And they all said... Amen. Of course it doesn't. I hope you do not believe that I was insinuating that.

Dolf

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 3:54:02 PM

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Well, technically, I'm not 30; I'm 31. Of course, I'm nowhere near Florida, either. :)

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 4:26:26 PM

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3 out of 5 in our household is in the 30 year bracket

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 5:40:18 PM

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DomDolf I have an adult son that has a 147 IQ and near photographic memory at there has been many times I wanted to strangled him for his stupid actions and foolishness and stubborness for not wanting to listen to reason , as well I know someone with 170 IQ and he also has made some pretty big blunders in his lifetime as well... having a good IQ does not mean a person will act in an intelligent manner and use common sense or willing to be achievers in life..

And they all said... Amen. Of course it doesn't. I hope you do not believe that I was insinuating that.

Dolf

I am in the mood to elaborate. I am going to put out a very unusual post for me. I hope my intentions are not misunderstood or taken poorly.

I have made mistakes that make me cringe to think of them still today. I will make mistakes in the future and I tell almost everyone I have discussions with, over any period of time, that I am far from perfect. I feel very blessed over-all. I have been given some incredible tools to work with in the form of intelligence, common sense, street smarts and exposure to extreme circumstances throughout my life that have allowed me to experience a lot, frankly more than anyone I know. Admittedly, I don't dig into people's lives very often and there may be people right under my nose that have experienced far more than me. I don't think it is necessary or appropriate to elaborate on what experiences have helped make me who I am, but I will say there have been great experiences and experiences I would find difficulty in wishing on the worst of my enemies. I have been able to survive and even thrive due to how I have reacted to those experiences. I can assure you that on several occasions my life has been saved by making the right, or right enough, decision. Intelligence did not provide me with all I need to excel. Neither did common sense or street smarts. The combination of these plus experience has helped me act and react well for the most part in most situations. Again, I have made many mistakes and will make more. I am thankful for the tools I have been provided.

Screw it, I am in the mood to spout out a few of my major screw ups. I am not proud of them but I am not afraid to put them out there. There is some relief in admitting fault.

1. High school- Punched the Dean in the mouth when he got between me and another guy that was taunting me. I knocked out his filling. I had to quit football to work it off and I lost a scholarship over it. My parents were the tough love types. No help there. The school wanted to forget it, but my parents felt I needed to learn a lesson.
2. Got a girl pregnant when I was 17. I joined the military that same year.
3. I got caught drinking under age. My Commanding Officer literally waited to tell me that I had a confirmed appointment to the U.S. Naval Academy while in a Non-Judicial Punishment hearing. He tore the orders up in front of me. I cried like a baby after leaving that hearing. Thinking about that today can still bring a quiver to the chin.
4. Eleven years ago I had a slave that would have done absolutely ANYTHING for me out of complete love and dedication to my happiness. I walked away from her for many reasons that were all selfish. We still speak today and are very close. She is now married and just as devoted to him as she was to me. He is the luckiest man I know. I am not sure he knows it.

Pure luck, not smart- I was on a Quick Reaction Force that was going after a guy that was shooting randomly at anything that moved. I ran straight up to him while he was pointing a rifle at me. I did not slow down while approaching, I did not weave or hide behind cover or even concealment. What I did was got about ten feet from him when he pulled the trigger. He had a "stove pipe". This is when the casing for the last round that actually left the weapon fails to eject properly and gets jammed. It looks like a stove pipe sticking out. It is impossible to fire the weapon with a stove pipe. His weapon clicked. My heart dropped, I knocked him out cold. At the time I could not have been sure that this man was acting alone.I cannot explain why I did not drop him. Apparently, it was our lucky day, We both lived to tell about it. I relive that scene often. I seemed to have gained a considerable amount of respect for my actions from my fellow team members that night, but I shouldn't have. I was not thinking, I was reacting badly. This was not muscle memory, instinctive training or anything that others have called it. My team members made it seem like a great thing I did. It was stupid. I almost got removed from the team because of that. I could have lied, but I didn't. I had to see a psychiatrist for a few months so the comman could clear me for further duty. We were paid to be assertive, complete missions and be smart about it, not crazy. Though many outsiders will argue that. Smart you go home safely. Crazy you risk your team and you can go home in a bag.

Yeah, I make mistakes. Thankfully I learn from them.

I do not care how good you are at one thing you will have weakness in another. We can all learn and we all have something others can envy if we allow ourselves to. I believe there is no one greater than me. I am no greater than anyone else. I will not get star struck or have an out of control ego. I am confident and I am proud. I am humbled often enough to respect all that show respect. Not elevated respect, just a common courtesy.

Excuse my spew. It's been one of those days.

Dolf

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 6:50:17 PM

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OneDom69~

I know that in the Midwest “bible-belt” I had no idea any of this was available. But that could have to do with my age at that time as well. Doing a search on CM in the city I was from net 10 Doms in my specified age range that have been online since 8/31. When doing a search from Tampa (near where I live now) the count was 17 for the same time range.

Now, being mathematically challenged, I am not sure what this means, other than CM members in the Tampa area are online more often. But there are some numbers to play with, make of it what You like. *smiles*

You say “ …I know I’m generalizing…” and I find that interesting. Don’t most general statements, or stereotypes have some (albeit a very small amount) basis in perceived reality?

And isn’t that perception held by a large amount of the population, in order for it to actually be a stereotype? I’m wondering this because another Dom on this thread mentioned a stereotype….

Please feel free to point out any flaws in my logic, as I am simply rolling this idea around….

Thank You, for sharing Your thoughts and taking the time to write!

~anne

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 6:58:04 PM

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Maya2001,

Thank You for Your comments, and they have me thinking…

*Taps fingertips on lips, contemplating….*

I wonder if I should just fudge a bit and say I am 50...?

*laughs*

Thank You for a note from Your point of view!

~anne

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 7:04:28 PM

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DomDolf I have an adult son that has a 147 IQ and near photographic memory at there has been many times I wanted to strangled him for his stupid actions and foolishness and stubborness for not wanting to listen to reason , as well I know someone with 170 IQ and he also has made some pretty big blunders in his lifetime as well... having a good IQ does not mean a person will act in an intelligent manner and use common sense or willing to be achievers in life..

I'll say. My IQ, as a reference point, is 166. My sister tests far higher - close to 195 - yet it is amazing to me that she is not dead yet. She could get lost on the end of a leash. I love her dearly, she is my sis, but sheeeeeeeeeeeesh the crap she gets herself into!!

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 7:14:20 PM

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Stephan,

Thank You very much for Your comments!

You do bring up a good point…that just because someone is older does not necessarily mean they are wiser in any sense of the word. There are many threads here that focus on how age is simply a number, and for the most part I agree. You have told the story from the flip side of Master Gregg’s point of view and I thank You for bringing Your perspective to the table.

Your description of 30 year olds as the “middle children” really illustrated what I am feeling at this point. I like to go out and have fun, but the bar/club scene (vanilla) is overdone and the dating pool seems to be more of a puddle. I’m through with the vanilla dating sites, as they do not net me what I am looking for either.

Hmm. This was not meant to dissolve into a whine as I find that unattractive in the extreme.

Thank You for Your positive words, and You are right! Who knows when or where I could find a nice Dom in His 30’s…or mid 20’s. *laughs*

Thank You, and I am wondering if You could tell me what it is like looking in other countries. I wonder if “they” are more laid back, or staid in their views. This is purely for curiosity and conversation, as I do not see myself moving *smiles*

Thank You for sharing Your comments and point of view!

~anne

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 7:19:52 PM

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Maya2001,

Thank You for Your comments!

In my 26 years here on earth, I have come to realize that book smarts and common sense are two different types of intelligence.

As a teacher I see that many times the “smart” students are the hardest to teach, as they think they are too intelligent to listen or follow instruction.

Thank You for sharing Your point of view.

~anne

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 7:25:38 PM

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Clodivs,

Thank You for Your post!

I think perhaps I should have changed the title of the thread. I am looking for someone within the 24-40 range…which falls mostly to 30 year olds. Or rather, those in their 30’s.

Thank You for contributing!

~anne

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 7:33:20 PM

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Surrenderwithin,

Thank you so much for your post. It’s nice to know that even if they are taken…they are out there somewhere!

As an aside, I read your post about pickles--I enjoyed it a great deal…and wish you all the best!

~anne

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 8:24:54 PM

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Dolf,

Thank You very much for this post. I think knowing the background of people definitely makes me more aware of where they are coming from, how they view events and comments, and trying to be more understanding and appreciative of them sharing their thoughts and experiences.

While I have not had the same encounters that You have, I also have done some things in my life that I am not proud of, and I would go back and undo, or fix them if I could.

I doubt anyone gets through life unscathed in that regard.

However, I think the perspective gained is worth--at least in my case-- the cost…but I can only speak for myself and I have never truly lost anyone close to me or faced harsh consequences for my actions.

Hmm…Let me dust off the halo now. That does not sound like I wanted it to, but there it is--I have looked it over and a rewrite does not help either.

This post makes me wonder…

You write “Intelligence did not provide me with all I need to excel. Neither did common sense or street smarts. The combination of these plus experience has helped me act and react well for the most part in most situations.”

How much do You think experience has changed You? How much do You think it has tempered intelligence, common sense and instinct?

Obviously You can’t have experience without having time.

For myself, I know that I am simply NOT the same person I was 10 years ago. Now, that sounds absurd…of course I am not. Who is from 16 to 26? But think about it this way…will I be the same person in 10 years? Undoubtedly the answer is no.

Now, that I have thought of this…all I can say is I don’t know. *smiles* At least I am honest?

I will probably be more concise tomorrow, thinking about this, but I wanted to thank You right away for posting some of Your views.

So, thank You again for bringing Your thoughts and experiences to the conversation.

~anne

P.S. At least it hasn’t been one of those weeks?

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RE: Where are all the 30 year olds? - 9/9/2008 8:28:29 PM

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VivaciousSub,

Isn't it funny that those who seem to have the least amount of common sense seem to miss all the tripwires of life?

I know quite a few of them....and I am constantly amazed at how they seem to get through events unharmed!

Many thanks for your post, it made me laugh--- I could picture quite a few people lost at the end of that leash!

~anne

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