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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 4:42:46 PM

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But I've never heard of an instance where the Dom says "Lay down and open you legs, slut. I'm going to give your p*ssy such a licking."

You just have to meet the right Dom.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 4:47:37 PM

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A particular sexual act doesn't denote dominance or submission to me, the context and intent on which it is done do though. Personally all that I have been with have enjoyed giving oral as much as receiving it.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 4:52:18 PM

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It seems that the dominant partner is always asking (or demanding) oral sex from their partner. But never offering it. So is it safe that oral for the sub is pretty much out of the question unless it's specifically asked for? I hope the answer is no...because I really want to try getting oral one day. And without having to ask. But I've never heard of an instance where the Dom says "Lay down and open you legs, slut. I'm going to give your p*ssy such a licking."

I'd say what you're asking about here is a pretty big maledom-femsub cliche for the most part. IMO there's nothing inherently submissive about giving oral aside from maybe the common 'kneeling' position in which one of the two may find themselves in...

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 5:29:05 PM

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I guess I'll ask him if I could try it then. I'll have a nice Dom so he'll say yes.

(Pfft) imagine a Dom saying "You want to suck my dick until I can't come anymore? No! You don't get to suck my dick, EVER! And that's the last I'll hear of it!"

HA!

Actually that would be a great punishment for me. I'm one of those oddballs that would rather give than receive, not that I don't enjoy it - it's just not as fun for me as it is to actually have him in my mouth...

But I have been told that I'd have to earn that. And yes, you can overstimulate a man and d*** is it fun to do.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 6:13:33 PM

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But I've never heard of an instance where the Dom says "Lay down and open you legs, slut. I'm going to give your p*ssy such a licking."

Then you're dating the wrong men. It's only submissive if he calls you "mommy" while he's doing it.

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Now that made my night lol. Thank you for the laugh.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 6:16:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

It seems that the dominant partner is always asking (or demanding) oral sex from their partner. But never offering it. So is it safe that oral for the sub is pretty much out of the question unless it's specifically asked for? I hope the answer is no...because I really want to try getting oral one day. And without having to ask. But I've never heard of an instance where the Dom says "Lay down and open you legs, slut. I'm going to give your p*ssy such a licking."

I don't know about "offering," but I love securing a girl, spreading her legs and enjoying a juicy peach until she's out of control.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 6:27:56 PM

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I don't know about "offering," but I love securing a girl, spreading her legs and enjoying a juicy peach until she's out of control.

Mm, you took the words right out of my...ummm...mouth.

Btw, dude, I like your new profile pic. Dawn is lovely and more. Best wishes to you both.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 10:20:24 PM

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But I've never heard of an instance where the Dom says "Lay down and open you legs, slut. I'm going to give your p*ssy such a licking."

In so many words, no.... other than that...

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/18/2009 10:22:40 PM

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It's a matter of preference. My first girlfriend was insatiably oral which really twisted me. (wry grin)

I do enjoy a girl who loves to submit orally and those little games like 'cover'. However, it's also fun to dominate someone by licking them silly, controlling when and how intensely they come.

It's all up to the couple and their likes, dislikes, and perceptions.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 2:15:23 AM

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ya'll know that oral sex does include everything done with the mouth and tongue...that would include kissing,breast sucking and even foot worship.you don't necessarily have to go down on your partner for it to be oral.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 6:15:51 AM

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It's only submissive if they're holding you by the ears.

W/regard to overstimulation, the glans portion of the penis, and the female equivalent, the clitoral ganglia, can be stimulated to the point where they become very sensitive, for some, this happens immediately after orgasm, maybe natures way of getting you to slow down, as otherwise, you might be tempted to keep going until you're chafed raw.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 6:21:56 AM

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I love to swab the Lilly, and you do often need to control the woman while you're doing it, otherwise, she might squeeze her thighs together when she orgasms, and pop your skull like a grape.

Anyways, yeah, there's teasing, orgasm denial, i.e., bringing her to the edge repeatedly, which can intensify the eventual orgasm, multiple orgasm to the point of exhaustion, and of course, overstimulation which can be pretty intense.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 7:21:23 AM

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TheEngineer loves to go south on me. the last time he did, though, he got a HUGE earful about BRUSHING his damned teeth and CLEANING his mouth....

before he thinks about oral AFTER having chips and salsa. OMG. that was NOT consentual!!!

kitten, still smokin.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 7:38:01 AM

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Yes, you can always eat a jalapeño first, if you're worried about how dominant giving pleasure is.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 7:46:28 AM

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Usually, anytime there is a 'Real Dom's don't do this", there is a strong retaliation where the community of Collarme.com informs everyone that the Real Dom's do do that and the one's that don't suck.

Well, I am one of the one's who don't. It's not an UnDomly thing. It's a me thing. I...don't....like....eating....pussy. Never have and probably never will.

I'm also someone who has very little patience with anything that doesn't make me happy so it's usually best for my partner and I that I don't do things that don't make me unhappy. If I am not into it or enjoying something, the odds are I am not going to invest much energy into doing it right. Sex is no exception. If I am not really into a person, I am not going to perform which is why I don't do much in the way of casual sex anymore. Masturbation is more gratifying.

However, there is exceptions to this where I have an odd desire to eat some pussy and I make those moments count.

I'm all for dominants eating pussy if they want to. Eat all the pussy you want. It's not on my "UnDomly" list. It's just not for me.

If your someone who's enjoyment of having my cock in your mouth doesn't trump all, then we just aren't a good match.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 7:47:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

It seems that the dominant partner is always asking (or demanding) oral sex from their partner. But never offering it. So is it safe that oral for the sub is pretty much out of the question unless it's specifically asked for? I hope the answer is no...because I really want to try getting oral one day. And without having to ask. But I've never heard of an instance where the Dom says "Lay down and open you legs, slut. I'm going to give your p*ssy such a licking."

I think what NCNutCase said says it for me also quite well: "Teasing a submissive with fingers, toys and/or the tongue is a very effective way to control her mind and body... With a litle creativity a Dominant should have no problem offering oral sex while maintaining his/her 'authority'."

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 7:52:26 AM

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At first glance, my answer seems a bit sarcastic. However, just this one time, I was serious. It happened to me. Once.

Cali

<sighs> There you go, bringing it up again.

Sheesh - it was only the once .... and I did apologise after. Can't we let this rest?

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 8:54:57 AM

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... I'm also someone who has very little patience with anything that doesn't make me happy so it's usually best for my partner and I that I don't do things that don't make me unhappy. If I am not into it or enjoying something, the odds are I am not going to invest much energy into doing it right.

I suspect this is a bit more common than is otherwise admitted. Giving good oral takes time and effort. I've met few men who are patient enough to learn, and fewer still who care to spend the energy necessary on something that doesn't give them direct physical pleasure. As long as the woman is good with no reciprocation, it's probably best the man admit he has limitations and not try.

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 8:57:53 AM

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I know at least two women who say they never feel more power or control than when they are sucking dick.
They point out that they can control his reaction with, and I quote, " a flick of the tongue or a nip of the teeth."

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RE: Is oral a sign of submission? - 1/19/2009 10:24:05 AM

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Hahaha..this one made me laugh a bit. My L does this to me all the time. He actually loves eating me out, and he can do it a lot longer than I can even hardly stand it. It's more me trying to get him to stop, not having to get him to do it in the first place.

Face it, some people are just selfish in bed, some aren't. You can find the same in the vanilla world. My suggestion is to hunt till you find the one that fits in with you want, as much as you fitting in with what they want. Believe it or not, it's about both sides being happy in the relationship if it's going to last.

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