Hohoho
Posts: 135
Joined: 3/18/2005 Status: offline
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Interesting views here all. Dear CP, I stand firm with you, as I use background checks as a rule. Sometimes, I do a check before meeting a prospective Dom, sometimes after the first or second date. Truth is, I'd rather find anything sooner than later. I am somewhat perceptive, but as a very positive person, I look for the good in people. I live in the middle of freakin nowhere. I have a young child. I cannot fly off to anywhere at a moment's notice. My meetings are rarely for a cup of coffee and a quick handshake. If a first impression doesn't send me running, we are going to spend a few hours together, getting to know one another. How my research paid off...He referred to a "first wife". Hairs on my arms rise, total alert. Then he described how he didn't really count that one, since the marriage was so brief. Previously his story was he had one "ex". Hmmm.....okay I went home from there, did my little search, nothing askew. Properties in his name, no criminal record, addresses added up. This gnawing feeling did not leave me. Phone listings, employment numbers, all checked out. Googled stories about him and his hobby, all recent and corresponded with stories he told me. Then I thought I'd do a phone search, using his sirname only. DING! Another listing I was not aware of. This one listed his name and lo and behold...his wife's name, too. Current, I may add because I quickly paid for an additional divorce report. I called that other listing. He answered and hung up on me. The End. Provide references. We really do interview each other. We do apply for positions here. From now on, I'll stick with the "my life's an open book" Doms who care about my safety, and security. I hope any Dom who meets me does the same sort of investigating.. I'll even help him with the few places I have ever found myself in an on-line search. Sadly, my aunt Kitty hasn't introduced us. You are not my 4th cousin three times removed. You don't work with my best friend's sons' basketball coach. I don't have a clue of who you are. Be safe. But beware. The searches aren't perfect. Go with the gut. K
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